[jen1447]

Just be okay with it and enjoy - it's great he's willing to do it for you.

I've since had BF do it twice more ....it's not gonna be regular for us but I will surprise him with it occasionally from now on - probably when he least expects it, just to be mean.

[Something_Awesome]

Jen,it sounds like you do it for him?. Do you not enjoy it when he does it?

[jen1447]

That's not easily answered ....neither of us really thought anything of it until Romy mentioned it here, then I decided to have him do it mainly just to try it. He doesn't particularly like eating that stuff, and it doesn't particularly get me off for him to eat it either, but I like making him do it and he likes being made to do it. So I guess it's equal.

[Something_Awesome]

I see... I sometimes wonder what your BF is like.

[jen1447]

How-so?

[Something_Awesome]

You and SP have the most unconventional relationship structures (from what I can tell). SP's guy calls her sir because she leads her relationship. That to me makes it sound like she is very dominant. However, you are as well. Probably even moreso. The guy does everything you tell him, and you sleep with other women and he knows about it. That's cuckold-esque. Except he often doesn't watch, so it's not like your sleeping with women is a fantasy of his to be fulfilled. It is not something he is getting off on. This is one form of you being dominant and him being submissive, and it shows your dominance in a huge way.

Of course, the above is only true if your relationship isn't open for him and if it isn't a friends-with-benefits type of relationship where he can sleep with other women. Then at that point, he is no longer as submissive as I would have thought.

[jen1447]

Well yeah, he's not allowed. Main reasons tho are that he doesn't want to, also if he were inclined to sleep with other men (the flip of the deal I have), I would probably allow that in theory but our relationship would end because I wouldn't find a guy that is attracted to other guys appealing anymore. I know that's something of a double-standard but it is what it is. Opposite sex relations are a bit different - I'm not interested in them either, like him, and we agree it would enter don't-go-there territory for either of us because there's a greater risk of violating and damaging our love and/or emotional bond. (Again, an entirely subjective point of view but I don't apologize for holding it.)

All that aside, the basic foundation is definitely that I'm the dominant partner, altho he is a fairly 'tough guy' in all other parts of life. His job requires him to be formidable with people at times, he's good sized and can actually fight and all that. He doesn't have the appearance of being effeminate in any way or act like a kick-dog to anyone else in public.

I guess all that is pretty unconventional but it's also totally honest and up-front. He and I have no secrets whatsoever and the relationship thrives because of that.

[jen1447]

Sorry to DP (double post, not double penetration lol), but I should also point out that he does have a 'sensitive' side. He's a hobbyist composer for example (he's really good but isn't pro, as in selling music etc.), so he's able to tap into his emotions and be vulnerable and whatnot. He's not all rough and gruff.

[Something_Awesome]

Composer? What kind of music does he compose?

[jen1447]

'Electronic,' very loosely. There are all kinds of genres and sub-genres of that which are frankly silly designations ....he doesn't self-identify to those lengths. ("dub-step lite with a twist of japanoise dark-core jungle," blah-blah wtf.)

The angst/sweetness thing in the creativity thread I made was actually for him (for me).