Well this one is not the norm; in fact I would put it at the exact opposite of norm. It may be one for the ladies to answer, however guys chip in if you feel you need to.
Tad of background on me. Early 40’s, younger looking, fit (cyclist, accomplished martial artist, rock-climbing and Boxer). Professional, good earner, lots of great long term friends, exceptional parent and good lover, well once was.
Over the years I could pretty well get any girl I desired, had some long term relationships and in all cases (exception of one night/very short term sexual relationships) the sex was average to very good. As most of you would be aware relationships would get into the start of sex within 2 days to two weeks, this seems to be an average from my reading and when talking to friend girls.
Well about ten years ago I met a nice girl from an Asian culture who happened to by studying uni where I am located. At that time I had been out of a relationship for about 3 years, but had some fun in between as I just wanted a break. At the time I was financially independent, doing well career wise and was partying/traveling pretty hard. The girl I met was from a middle class environment not unlike or I would say a tad better off than the US/OZ and UK.
Now this is where is gets totally different. I understood her culture quite well as some of my expat friends over in her country had gotten pretty serious and some took some time to get into bed, for example three months. My girl after three months would only let me lick her boobs, no French kissing, no touching down there and the like and definitely no return favors. This went on for over a year and I kept saying to myself I was falling in love and to get to it and introduce her to my experiences. She would generally respond that my mum won’t approve and I want you to be gentlemen (Jesus!). Her mum being aver 3000 miles north could not see any harm at all, other than to me.
Cutting the story short because of all this acting like five year olds and me starting to push quite hard for a normal sexual relationship, she would get really upset and I would try to explain I am lusting after your mind and body, over this time I had numerous offers from other women, some of them who were very nice in mind and body. So finally something happens down there, protection does not work so well because I went soft (felling like a dirty old man) and she gets pregnant! Obviously the parent find out and there are a number of tensions with the family, which now I get on very well with and genuinely love. Anyway I have been looking after my young one and my wife (especially emotionally) and up until three weeks ago our sex life just sucked and I felt like a monster, talk about me being abused. She would ask why I am angry all the time and I would say you expected the perfect Hollywood type and it always has to go her own way. So arguments were getting very intense and she would just say sell the house and see another women (generally one of my mates girl – who in the surface is good looking and nice, but is way over confident – attracts a lot of guys for the exception of me).
So sick of her bringing this up in front of my child I said, .. you I actually hate that.., I will sell the house, you can have it all, leave me alone blab la and we shall share the responsibility of our child. She freaked because I was dead set serious and she could see it. For the next few days I fell into an emotional hole thinking I am now early 40’s have passed my looks and sexual peak to nothing. So a few days later she came up to me gave a proper French kiss and I will have to say since then she is by far the best in bed I have had. But in this time I have been really hurt and have questioned her on why all of a sudden you are getting into your sexual peak, I am losing mine (up to 40 I could go more than 5 times a day via the ole hand), now I cannot get hard properly and it takes me forever to cum. She said she sees the error of her ways and really wants to please me, but I brush her off, as I am really upset and hurt!! Now in the time we had crap sex, for me anyway she would pretty well use me and cum almost every night using a body part other than mi ole fella and she can cum every time in multiples.
There is a lot more to fill in, such as her sister coming from the states from her uni early on asking me not to do the deed. She is back in homeland waiting for the right guy to approach her; I fell sad for her because she will never get sex. She is self made, well off, confident on the surface and has climbed high on the corporate ladder. Many more issues leave it at that.
Thoughts anyone?
Tad of background on me. Early 40’s, younger looking, fit (cyclist, accomplished martial artist, rock-climbing and Boxer). Professional, good earner, lots of great long term friends, exceptional parent and good lover, well once was.
Over the years I could pretty well get any girl I desired, had some long term relationships and in all cases (exception of one night/very short term sexual relationships) the sex was average to very good. As most of you would be aware relationships would get into the start of sex within 2 days to two weeks, this seems to be an average from my reading and when talking to friend girls.
Well about ten years ago I met a nice girl from an Asian culture who happened to by studying uni where I am located. At that time I had been out of a relationship for about 3 years, but had some fun in between as I just wanted a break. At the time I was financially independent, doing well career wise and was partying/traveling pretty hard. The girl I met was from a middle class environment not unlike or I would say a tad better off than the US/OZ and UK.
Now this is where is gets totally different. I understood her culture quite well as some of my expat friends over in her country had gotten pretty serious and some took some time to get into bed, for example three months. My girl after three months would only let me lick her boobs, no French kissing, no touching down there and the like and definitely no return favors. This went on for over a year and I kept saying to myself I was falling in love and to get to it and introduce her to my experiences. She would generally respond that my mum won’t approve and I want you to be gentlemen (Jesus!). Her mum being aver 3000 miles north could not see any harm at all, other than to me.
Cutting the story short because of all this acting like five year olds and me starting to push quite hard for a normal sexual relationship, she would get really upset and I would try to explain I am lusting after your mind and body, over this time I had numerous offers from other women, some of them who were very nice in mind and body. So finally something happens down there, protection does not work so well because I went soft (felling like a dirty old man) and she gets pregnant! Obviously the parent find out and there are a number of tensions with the family, which now I get on very well with and genuinely love. Anyway I have been looking after my young one and my wife (especially emotionally) and up until three weeks ago our sex life just sucked and I felt like a monster, talk about me being abused. She would ask why I am angry all the time and I would say you expected the perfect Hollywood type and it always has to go her own way. So arguments were getting very intense and she would just say sell the house and see another women (generally one of my mates girl – who in the surface is good looking and nice, but is way over confident – attracts a lot of guys for the exception of me).
So sick of her bringing this up in front of my child I said, .. you I actually hate that.., I will sell the house, you can have it all, leave me alone blab la and we shall share the responsibility of our child. She freaked because I was dead set serious and she could see it. For the next few days I fell into an emotional hole thinking I am now early 40’s have passed my looks and sexual peak to nothing. So a few days later she came up to me gave a proper French kiss and I will have to say since then she is by far the best in bed I have had. But in this time I have been really hurt and have questioned her on why all of a sudden you are getting into your sexual peak, I am losing mine (up to 40 I could go more than 5 times a day via the ole hand), now I cannot get hard properly and it takes me forever to cum. She said she sees the error of her ways and really wants to please me, but I brush her off, as I am really upset and hurt!! Now in the time we had crap sex, for me anyway she would pretty well use me and cum almost every night using a body part other than mi ole fella and she can cum every time in multiples.
There is a lot more to fill in, such as her sister coming from the states from her uni early on asking me not to do the deed. She is back in homeland waiting for the right guy to approach her; I fell sad for her because she will never get sex. She is self made, well off, confident on the surface and has climbed high on the corporate ladder. Many more issues leave it at that.
Thoughts anyone?
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