[CHANDLERS WISH]

Mods are robots?

[effy2014]

My SO likes to be spanked every now and then, especially when I perform analingus. I had a difficult time striking her . . . she had been beaten in her younger days by a boyfriend and put in the hospital for three days. But she encouraged me and its a part of our regular routine. It gets her very hot.

[Patti-here]

Women are from Venus, Mods must be from Mars ?

[Patti-here]

My SO likes to be spanked every now and then, especially when I perform analingus. I had a difficult time striking her . . . she had been beaten in her younger days by a boyfriend and put in the hospital for three days. But she encouraged me and its a part of our regular routine. It gets her very hot.

Like every time you have sex effy ?

[effy2014]

Like every time you have sex effy ?

Nope, not every time. I really do have difficulty hitting her -- she often has to encourage. We have a "varied" bedtime -- kissing and me going down in her are the only constants. I also vary the technique so nothing gets stale. We have various toys, sex pillows etc that add to the experience.

[Something_Awesome]

Oh ok Something..

I’ll keep all that in mind.

From what I understand about balls, that’s not something a guy really wants spanked ? I mean I was always taught that if a guy was paying me “unwanted” attention, and I wanted to disable him and get away, that I should kick or knee him in his balls,, are you ok with having your balls spanked Something ? If you don’t mind my saying so, that really isn’t my idea of foreplay..

I didn't know I was OK with it till she did it. Made me jump the first couple times. To understand her better, she wil grab my "stuff" and say they belong to her, not me.

I honestly wish she could be more like that outside the bedroom.

[Patti-here]

I didn't know I was OK with it till she did it. Made me jump the first couple times. To understand her better, she wil grab my "stuff" and say they belong to her, not me.

I honestly wish she could be more like that outside the bedroom.

Well Something, to a certain point yer junk does belong to her

Live with it...

[jen1447]

Yeah, that's pretty hot actually. I'm always a bit surprised by ball-whacking too but I think there are a fair amount of guys out there who like it.

On spanking, I never cared for it, giving or receiving. I think it mainly has to do with my aversion for child-related things. When I think of spanking I think of a child being disciplined ....not a turn on type picture for me, but that's just my hangup.

effy, I know what you mean about reluctance to do certain things too ....I suppose we just have to realize that the psychologies of the people we care for are complex tho, and sometimes, even tho a thing may seem cruel or extreme, it's exactly what they 'need.' That's how I'm able to deliver in those circumstances anyway.

[Patti-here]

I don't understand how any guy take a ball whacking,,, that's gotta hurt...

[effy2014]

effy, I know what you mean about reluctance to do certain things too ....I suppose we just have to realize that the psychologies of the people we care for are complex tho, and sometimes, even tho a thing may seem cruel or extreme, it's exactly what they 'need.' That's how I'm able to deliver in those circumstances anyway.

Very insightful Jen. My SO had a very difficult childhood and teen years. Abused by an uncle, almost beaten to death by a boy friend and date raped by another. Her 20 year marriage was, by her account, mostly sexless and intimacy free. When we got together, I took baby steps and intentionally kept away from anything that could be interpreted as domineering. To my surprise, after a few months, she wanted me to be much rougher and much more dominant. I insisted on having safe words but she has never used them. It took me more time to get off on it than her.