[Baboy]

I just now read Jen's post #40 on this thread, supra. Thank you Jen, for your gracious understanding. effy, please take it that I did not intend to judge you or anyone else here. Jen is right, I was just stating how all of this appears to me.

Patti started this thread, and I am a great admirer of Patti. I generally read her posts. Many are in harmony with my own views. Some are not. I respect them all. She started out saying that spanking, to her, has its place. I set out a position somewhat at odds with hers, but happily she did not see it as an attack or put down. I have no wish to be understood as suggesting there is something wrong with her for feeling that way. For her, it has its place; for me it does not, for the reasons I have given. Is one of our positions more valid than the other? I don't think so.

Overall, I subscribe to the belief that what passes between consenting adults, where consent is genuine and not coerced, falls within proper bounds. For all I know, some guys like getting hoofed in the balls, and being doubled over in pain for the next hour enhances their life experience. I would probably want the perpetrator of such a thing to go to prison (well no, alluding to another thread, I would never complain to LEO about an assault by a woman) but if there are some who take delight, it's not my place to say they are wrong and should not.

There are almost certainly many things about me that some would find in need of correction and rehabilitation. For example, I am on record here as being white and married to an Asian woman. When I was young, where I was raised, that kind of interracial fraternizing was widely regarded as outré, if not downright reprehensible. Times have changed somewhat, but in some circles that kind of carrying on is still seen as not quite decent. But, I am happy in my space, outlandish or not. So, to those who like a good flogging as part of lovemaking, or just for the sake of being flagellated, enjoy!

Again, alluding to another thread, I realize I am wasting time here when I could be partaking of some fine porn. Good night all.

[Something_Awesome]

She deserves huge credit in all sincerity. Four languages is amazing. (And three ain't bad either. Or do you mean English, SoCal, and Cunnilingus? )

Lmao... and I guess you're right, Socal does sort of have its own lingo.

[Something_Awesome]

I find it hard to not agree with Jen's points... Either I have shared the same view with her or she pitches her points in such a way that it becomes hard to not agree...

She also keeps reminding me how great my GF is... which I only recently realized has had a sort of hypnotic impact on me; I've cherished her more (not that I didn't before). I don't know if this was a calculated move on her part though. I mean, Jen is all about female empowerment, right?

[jen1447]

Aw, that's flattering Something, thank you.

I'll let you in on my secret: I want to make everybody 'better,' for each other in the case of couples, and individually. I don't think I actually do that all the time but in general I'm sending out positivity (not a word, I know) that way. You're right that I'm about female empowerment, but in many cases - including yours in my view - the path to being better goes first thru your woman. If her standing improves with you, and by extension her authority in a way, that in turn is a good thing for you ....kind of like you've described has happened. You feel better about yourself, and honoring and respecting her makes you a better man, just like loving and caring for you makes her a good woman.

The authority thing may work for you in the bedroom in terms of kink, but it's honestly not all about that. When women are equal with men, good things tend to happen. You have a partnership. It also just so happens that when we get that equality, we exercise some real authority if we happen to have it in our character. Again, a good thing. You mentioned balls in the other thread - isn't two pair better than one? If you're operating like a strong, effective unit that way, nothing can stop you.

So yeah, in that light, your GF is great, isn't she? Do cherish her and hold her up high and respect her and all that good stuff. She'll take of you in return.

[effy2014]

I just now read Jen's post #40 on this thread, supra. Thank you Jen, for your gracious understanding. effy, please take it that I did not intend to judge you or anyone else here. Jen is right, I was just stating how all of this appears to me.

Patti started this thread, and I am a great admirer of Patti. I generally read her posts. Many are in harmony with my own views. Some are not. I respect them all. She started out saying that spanking, to her, has its place. I set out a position somewhat at odds with hers, but happily she did not see it as an attack or put down. I have no wish to be understood as suggesting there is something wrong with her for feeling that way. For her, it has its place; for me it does not, for the reasons I have given. Is one of our positions more valid than the other? I don't think so.

Overall, I subscribe to the belief that what passes between consenting adults, where consent is genuine and not coerced, falls within proper bounds. For all I know, some guys like getting hoofed in the balls, and being doubled over in pain for the next hour enhances their life experience. I would probably want the perpetrator of such a thing to go to prison (well no, alluding to another thread, I would never complain to LEO about an assault by a woman) but if there are some who take delight, it's not my place to say they are wrong and should not.

There are almost certainly many things about me that some would find in need of correction and rehabilitation. For example, I am on record here as being white and married to an Asian woman. When I was young, where I was raised, that kind of interracial fraternizing was widely regarded as outré, if not downright reprehensible. Times have changed somewhat, but in some circles that kind of carrying on is still seen as not quite decent. But, I am happy in my space, outlandish or not. So, to those who like a good flogging as part of lovemaking, or just for the sake of being flagellated, enjoy!

Again, alluding to another thread, I realize I am wasting time here when I could be partaking of some fine porn. Good night all.

I apologize if I took your remarks the wrong way ... it was the reference to love and hate that I misinterpreted. I agree that the best intimacy is when people have the ability to explore their sexuality in a nonjudgmental safe environment. I admire Romy's new adventures for precisely this reason.

Your posts are thoughtful and always add to the discussion. I have my hands full correcting my own mistakes to look for the faults in others.

Many years ago, I had a torrid romance with a Chinese woman (well, she looked Chinese but was Canadian through and through) who was a lot like I assume Jen to be (without the bisexuality). Never thought about the interracial aspect but was drawn to what I considered her exotic beauty and very alpha female approach.