[effy2014]

Its never happened to me using my tongue, digits or during anal sex. I really don't think you need to have an enema -- as Patti says, poop is not stored in the rectum. Just don't poop right before and take a shower/use a wipe before starting the proceedings.

Let me add one thing -- I doubt that your husband will ever embarrass you. The human body is completely washable. If anything happens, I am sure he will just go into the bathroom (as you recover), wash up and say nothing. Before my SO was comfortable having sex during her period, she would have been mortified if there were blood on my p********. I always said no and established a routine of "washing up". If you are frequently intimate, especially unplanned, some embarrassing things can occur. A gentlemen never speaks about them.

[rcoreyus]

Never had a problem without any prep, but as effy said, people can be washed.

[jen1447]

Anilingus (sp) should always precede anal sex, It will have the anus muscles relax and open naturally, and of course, lube, lube, lube.

It should also be considered the price of admission. You get the privilege to send your penis on that mission, you show it some love with your tongue.

I really don't have anything to add Ro, except maybe try to plan a BM well in advance, like hours ahead of time. Like the others said, if you want to be spontaneous, just accept anything that happens for what it is. Loving partners should be totally non-judgmental about it. I know if I did it with BF and something unwanted happened, he'd probably apologize to me.

[Patti-here]

It should also be considered the price of admission. You get the privilege to send your penis on that mission, you show it some love with your tongue.

I really don't have anything to add Ro, except maybe try to plan a BM well in advance, like hours ahead of time. Like the others said, if you want to be spontaneous, just accept anything that happens for what it is. Loving partners should be totally non-judgmental about it. I know if I did it with BF and something unwanted happened, he'd probably apologize to me.

I Humbly agree.

[Motorguy]

Thanks Bootsie. This will be my first time. I've worked myself up to it after several unsuccessful attempts through no fault of my partner and one bad experience when I was young. I've found that if I cum first I'm a lot more relaxed and I have been able to insert a regular vibrator (Lelo Elise 2) deep into me without any pain on a regular basis recently so I'm ready to try the real thing. I have a very understanding loving partner who will make sure I'm the one in control and will go very slow. I'm really excited to feel my man cum in my ************ for the first time ever

Also Romy while engaging in the art of anal maybe have your husband or your self rub your clitoris with your finger or vibrator when you about ready to take the penis inside you. This will help you relax take your mind off while he about to insert him self into your anus. Use lots of lube like Patti said and tell him to go very slow. Wants you are able to take his penis you can continue to use the vibrator on your clit. Well have a god time I no you will love the pleasure and the happy ending as well have fun for you both.

[bootsie]

Romy

Thanks Bootsie. This will be my first time. I've worked myself up to it after several unsuccessful attempts through no fault of my partner and one bad experience when I was young. I've found that if I cum first I'm a lot more relaxed and I have been able to insert a regular vibrator (Lelo Elise 2) deep into me without any pain on a regular basis recently so I'm ready to try the real thing. I have a very understanding loving partner who will make sure I'm the one in control and will go very slow. I'm really excited to feel my man cum in my ****** for the first time ever

This also might be a help to you and this is something that she does and have me to do right before I inter her there.When she is ready for anal sex.She would always get on top as in the cowgirl position and have me to play and message her there while she is riding me with me in her vagina.(Now this is after she or I has lubed her up there),Then when she is ready for me to be in her anus.She would raise up and take my penis guide it to her anus,hold it there and just sit down on it until it's deep as her wants it.Then she will ride me like that for a little bit until she wants to change positions where she then will want me to go alittle faster.Then we will stay like that until both has cum.Yes she said it hurt on the first 2 tries,but now she LOVES!! it and ask for it alot,just about everytime we have sex.

Now I have one other woman who I see.She loves doing it,but never wants me to cum in her there.This one has me to where a condom when we have anal,but when I put it in her vagina,she don't have me to use a condom.

Speaking of control.I LOVE!! the woman to take and be in control.Don't know why,but I do.
Enjoy and have LOTS!!!!! of fun.If you don't mind,Let me know how things turn out.

[Romy]

This also might be a help to you and this is something that she does and have me to do right before I inter her there.When she is ready for anal sex.She would always get on top as in the cowgirl position and have me to play and message her there while she is riding me with me in her vagina.(Now this is after she or I has lubed her up there),Then when she is ready for me to be in her anus.She would raise up and take my penis guide it to her anus,hold it there and just sit down on it until it's deep as her wants it.Then she will ride me like that for a little bit until she wants to change positions where she then will want me to go alittle faster.Then we will stay like that until both has cum.Yes she said it hurt on the first 2 tries,but now she LOVES!! it and ask for it alot,just about everytime we have sex.

Now I have one other woman who I see.She loves doing it,but never wants me to cum in her there.This one has me to where a condom when we have anal,but when I put it in her vagina,she don't have me to use a condom.

Speaking of control.I LOVE!! the woman to take and be in control.Don't know why,but I do.
Enjoy and have LOTS!!!!! of fun.If you don't mind,Let me know how things turn out.

Thanks so much Bootsie the things you have said are really helpful and I think I might try doing anal the way you have described doing it with your partner who starts off in cowgirl position.

Yes, I will let you know how things go

[HerHusband]

It should also be considered the price of admission. You get the privilege to send your penis on that mission, you show it some love with your tongue.

I really don't have anything to add Ro, except maybe try to plan a BM well in advance, like hours ahead of time. Like the others said, if you want to be spontaneous, just accept anything that happens for what it is. Loving partners should be totally non-judgmental about it. I know if I did it with BF and something unwanted happened, he'd probably apologize to me.

I willing pay that price of admission every chance I get. I like to kiss and tongue the back door. She actually likes the anal sex but isnt thrilled when I tongue it. Kissing is OK with her a little and she responds. She is always so clean because she is in the medical profession and has that keep it clean mentality. Her vajay is seemingly a bit jealous of late because we have only been doing anal less than a year. I love both but she offers the anal when she is on her period. I like to masturbate her as best I can while foreplay and anal to help her get off. She actually did a kind of dry hump on my penis last weekend rubbing my shaft on her clit to orgasim since she had a tampon in. I loved it because she manually finished me off but the fact she got off while on her period with a string made me feel like I did something for her. I have told her if she wants to go to the shower and just pull it out and we can worry about clean up later its good for me. Last month we pushed it and sex caused her to start and my penis was covered in blood at the end. I dont see a problem but I know she has a issue with it. I understand. Sorry for any thread drift. I just got excited thinking about it and and to type it.

[jen1447]

My suggestion is just do whatever she needs and is comfortable with personally. It's good you've got the accommodating mentality.

btw Romy, on the condoms question I assume you're already in the know about this but it bears repeating - no mixing it up between your bum and your vajay. Safest method is to use a separate condom for each (assuming you'll go to both at some point), but you should at least use a condom for the bum, unless you're really certain your jay will be sitting this one out. If you want to go naked with both, you have to be exceptionally, pristinely clean, and even then it's really not a good idea. Kind of just an unnecessary risk. (Jay and bum have a 'nature's balance' that don't really agree with each other.)

[effy2014]

It should also be considered the price of admission. You get the privilege to send your penis on that mission, you show it some love with your tongue.

You write of analingus as if its a chore or quid pro quo to something greater. Not so. I find that oral in all respects uses all 5 senses and is equally pleasurable.