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  • jen1447
    Veteran Member
    • Oct 2013
    • 2380

    Okay, I'm pressed for time right now hon (sorry), but our next step I think is getting you to relax. I can give you some tips on feeling sexy and wanton and reckless in front of your laptop, but it'll take a bit of back-and-forth (and delicately at that here in the open forum lol).

    Maybe you could help me get a feel for what you feel insecure about. What are some of the things that worry you when you want to 'perform.' Be frank and honest, no one here is judging.

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    • Serahlicious
      Member
      • Jul 2014
      • 16

      I can honestly say that I love my body. I'm not insecure about my looks. I'm more worried about silly things like if I'm making a stupid expression, or if I do something she won't think is sexy (though she always thinks it is, so that one isn't so bad) and now, I worry that I won't be able to come. I worry that I don't know what I'm doing, although she doesn't either, and it actually makes both of us feel a lot better about ourselves. Other than those insecurities, I'm having a good time, and I want to be sure she's having a good time too. I've asked her what she likes, and she's told me a few things, and I'm getting better at them. I have my own ideas, too. We're still kind of feeling each other out, though.

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      • jen1447
        Veteran Member
        • Oct 2013
        • 2380

        What are the things she likes? I assume without oral you mean types of kissing, fondling this or that, etc.

        Also what are the best features of your body? You say you love it so that's great (young and everything bouncing nicely lol), but every woman has features that she thinks are her strongest. What are yours?

        That's cute about the expressions btw ....I think it's on everyone's mind but believe me, if she loves you (and she does), whatever you do is going to be adorable to her.

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        • Serahlicious
          Member
          • Jul 2014
          • 16

          I love my boobs. X) They're not too big, not too small, and they're nice and full. My tummy is nice and flat, and even though my skin is a little acne prone, I love how milky white it is. My hair is red and I love to wear bold, cherry red Marilyn-Monroe type lipstick. She loves when I do that. Red is sort of my color. I have lingerie that I wear for her, too, whenever we get that special moment alone together.

          Thanks for helping me I know without a doubt that she loves me, just as deeply and fiercely as I love her, but it's also kind of hard to wrap my head around it. In some other relationships I've been in, I've been the one that was more into it than the other person. It's still a little strange to me that she can feel about me the way I feel about her, because she's so incredible and I'm just me X) But I know that anything she does is going to be adorable to me, so you're right, it goes both ways. I'm still kind of learning that, too.

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          • jen1447
            Veteran Member
            • Oct 2013
            • 2380

            Okay, fantastic boobs and skin, check!

            This will sound obvious, but when you make love to her, put those things front and center so you're leading with your strengths and what you feel confident in. That means put your boobs in her face and let her work them over, take her hands and run them all over your soft skin, etc., etc. One move I love is to sit on my GF's lap facing and straddling her. Let her caress your hips and back, those are the areas will the most surface area of skin to enjoy. Play lots of kissy-face, mash your boobs into her, play with her hair, hold her close so your bodies are pressing against each other ....this will pretty much guarantee you get you into it more because what you're doing will be working, and success just breeds more success!

            The idea is obviously to get your positive reinforcement to translate into relaxation, and to get that to translate into losing inhibitions, and to get that to translate into cumming for her. We'll need to work on that more but that's the principle.

            I think you need to do a lot of self-experimentation to see what can work for you orgasm-wise 'outside the box' - in other words, masturbate in ways other than the old tried and true and see how your body and mind respond. Have you had any luck with the g-spot experiments yet and squirting?

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            • Serahlicious
              Member
              • Jul 2014
              • 16

              I haven't tried that yet, it's been that time of the month XP But it's almost over. I've had some success with orgasming on my back (usually I have to be on my stomach) but it's not every time, and I need a TON of mental stimulation. I'll start experimenting as soon as I can, though. I tried last night but I was too tired to do anything more than take care of what I needed to and fall asleep X)

              I actually feel a lot sexier and more reckless when I'm with her than in front of my laptop. I get to focus on her reactions that way. Looking at myself, though, I just can't take myself seriously XD

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              • jns
                Assistant Admin
                • Mar 2010
                • 8398

                Prone masturbation can be problematic. When you masturbate prone, do you use a technique that is hard to reproduce while on your back or on your side or sitting up or standing up? Do you use a lot of pressure?
                I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
                ...
                Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

                From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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                • Serahlicious
                  Member
                  • Jul 2014
                  • 16

                  I do use a lot of pressure. Like I said, I can come on my back okay, but I've never done it in any other positions. When I masturbate on my back I use less pressure than when I'm on my stomach, though I still go at it pretty hard. I can't seem to get anywhere without pressure. Maybe I'll give up prone masturbation for a while.

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                  • jen1447
                    Veteran Member
                    • Oct 2013
                    • 2380

                    I wouldn't give up anything hon, we're not trying to eliminate things, we're trying to expand. When I suggest other positions, I mean experiment with them, not to the exclusion of everything else.

                    Two things I'd like you to try -

                    First, play around with your boobs in front of the laptop and see how you like that. Don't masturbate, just act like you're doing a striptease or lapdance or something like that. Put them front and center for your laptop.

                    Second, try masturbating with the laptop on but not near, like maybe pointing at you from across the room, and see how that feels.

                    On an unrelated note, what are some things about your life that you take real seriously? Are you a creative type? What values matter most to you and all that? Spill. It'll help me to figure you out.

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                    • Serahlicious
                      Member
                      • Jul 2014
                      • 16

                      Okay, I'll try that maybe tomorrow night

                      Um, let's see. As far as relationships go, honesty is most important to me. As well as the things that go along with it, like trust and keeping your word when you say you'll do something. I'm a bit of a creative type, I like to write and play the piano, but sometimes I have trouble creating things on my own. I went through a bit of bullying in middle school and early high school where everything I came up with was apparently stupid, and now it's hard for me to create things without thinking that way, like I always have this mental block. Otherwise I feel like I'd be much more creative. Let's see... animals are probably the most important thing to me outside of my girlfriend and my family and friends. I'm looking to pursue a career in wildlife rehabilitation. I don't want children, and neither does my girlfriend. We just want furbabies. X) I love being young and dreaming big and chasing what I want. I'm really persistent and stubborn when I want something.

                      I'm not exactly sure what you're looking for but I hope that helps! Thanks so much for all the help you've given me so far

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