[jb6322]

Hi I'm back. I asked a question before about me not being able to orgasm.. Well we still have not fixed that but it is getting a lot better.. He's stimulating me now and the pleasure is unbelievable but now I have another question.. Sex.. My mother taught me that penitration probably will not feel good and well .. Here we are aha.. When he's inside of me I just try to focus on him because its just not something that pleasures me. Don't get me wrong I've tried to at least feel pleasure during and one time it felt amazing he just moved and we couldn't find the spot again soo.. Idk. We've tried positions and such but I was wondering if you have any positions that you could suggest. Doggy style doesn't work BTW. Everyone's suggesting it but it just won't happen.. He's very blessed in size so he cannot go in all the way at sertin times.. But his fingers.. Even his little pinky can make me scream and beg after only a second it feels so good.. I want to know how to feel pleasure while having sex other than stimulating my clit . I'm bored with counting the ceiling tiles . He even calls me out on that.. After we are done he rolls over and asks how many I counted this time... And it makes me feel terrible because I see how guilty he feels and how much he wants it to be about me too.. Yesterday he gave me oral for 2 hhours just because he wanted to please me.. It was surprise oral .. Served with breakfast. I honestly do love him..

[LilahX]

Sounds like you have a 'keeper'

While, for some reason, men and women seem to think size matters, unfortunately one drawback of a 'big one' is that it doesn't leave any room to move. As you have found, you can get mindblowing pleasure from his fingers, can work the pleasure point but when you're so full of him there isn't the same flexibility for him to move around. You could try locating the spot with fingers, noting where it is and then finding it during penetration - most likely he won't need to go all the way in bc the spot is often quite close to the front of the vagina. If yr on top, you can control the depth and angle of penetration and maybe find the right spot. My partner isn't big, but for whatever reason I don't feel much in any other position, but 'girl on top' does it every time. Good luck

[beereal]

Have you tried a lubricant? Maybe the reason is your not turned on enough. Or long display sessions. And I don't mean just in the bedroom. My guy is very well endowed and the more.foreplay the better. I love when he sends.me.text.msgs telling me all the dirty little.things we are going to..

[jb6322]

Idk I was his first and I've been teaching him a lot since our first time ... He was the first to take my virginity so yes I'm pretty under experienced too but I had done oral before him .. Sadly .. The foreplay thing acctually makes sense.. He does play around with me alot. But I don't think he knows all the ways of foreplay if you know what I mean. He thinks kissing me all over my body and "teasing" is all I need but I'm starting to see that it might be more.. Idk I seem pretty turned on aha.. And yes LIlahX I feel like I have. Not only is he very passionate and giving in the bedroom but he's also just an amazing guy .. That makes sooooo much sence though.. I have tryed being on top but it diddnt really do anything for me . maybe i was just hitting the wrong spot...Beereal.. I think the more foreplay the Better too. But when he says these things on text and then it feels worse than what I imagined.. Kind of a turn off..its sad :/

[DreamP346]

Lot of women don't feel pleasure from penetration. You are not alone. Try some of these tactics:

Spooning so you have easy access to you clit. This way you can stimulate yourself while he is inside you.

Girl on top, but do a snow rub instead of just bouncing up and down so you get your clit stimulated. This is another position you or he can stimulate your clit.

Missionary expect he is a lot higher, meaning instead of being eye-to-eye, you will probably be looking into his chest. This also stimulates the clit.

And throw out what you mom said. That is probably giving you a mental block.

[effy2014]

Orgasms begin in the brain. If you start worried about whether you will have an orgasm (or "will I even enjoy it this time") then you probably won't. Enjoy the orgasms from clitoral stimulation and don't worry about what will happen with the rest. DreamP has some great suggestions. Reverse cowgirl (woman on top facing his feet) works sometimes as well to get a different angle.

I don't get counting the ceiling tiles. Are you that "not into" clitoral stimulation?

[jb6322]

I kinda just never have time to stimulate myself. It just doesn't feel good when he's inside me to just touch myself. I don't feel anything... But you know what. Me and him tried one of the suggestions.. Umm. He diddnt put it in all the way and we did the missionary .. And omg it felt amazing so problem is solved luckally.. I have a new one so there will be another question posted. Thankyou alllll soooooooooo much you guys.. And I will try everything you guys said. I will try to do more stimulation to my clit.

[owel1reuel]

Missionary expect he is a lot higher, meaning instead of being eye-to-eye, you will probably be looking into his chest. This also stimulates the clit.

This really confirms my thoughts! Now I know why my wife wants me to go higher when we do missionary with her face on my chest so I can hit her clit and lower for g-spot. Thanks!

[INFJgirl93]

jealous!

Hi I'm back. I asked a question before about me not being able to orgasm.. Well we still have not fixed that but it is getting a lot better.. He's stimulating me now and the pleasure is unbelievable but now I have another question.. Sex.. My mother taught me that penitration probably will not feel good and well .. Here we are aha.. When he's inside of me I just try to focus on him because its just not something that pleasures me. Don't get me wrong I've tried to at least feel pleasure during and one time it felt amazing he just moved and we couldn't find the spot again soo.. Idk. We've tried positions and such but I was wondering if you have any positions that you could suggest. Doggy style doesn't work BTW. Everyone's suggesting it but it just won't happen.. He's very blessed in size so he cannot go in all the way at sertin times.. But his fingers.. Even his little pinky can make me scream and beg after only a second it feels so good.. I want to know how to feel pleasure while having sex other than stimulating my clit . I'm bored with counting the ceiling tiles . He even calls me out on that.. After we are done he rolls over and asks how many I counted this time... And it makes me feel terrible because I see how guilty he feels and how much he wants it to be about me too.. Yesterday he gave me oral for 2 hhours just because he wanted to please me.. It was surprise oral .. Served with breakfast. I honestly do love him..

Hey OP,

I also experience pain during intercourse, anything bigger than about 4 inches brings me to tears of pain. Only gentle manual stimulation works, but even then I can't orgasm, it just feels good, on a scale of 1-10, 1 being barely pleasurable and 10 being an amazing orgasm, for me it is about a 4 or 5. lubricants don't work, and no matter how long my extremely patient and loving and gentle boyfriend tries manual stimulation or oral, I can't get there. fingers inserted also make me feel either nothing at all or a bit of pain, but never any pleasure.

I am extremely sexually frustrated and my boyfriend feels guilty that sex can only be about him. I am open to new things and I try really hard to grin and bear it when we try, just so at least one of us can be sexually satisfied, but I am shy and it deeply saddens me that I can't feel what practically anyone else can. I feel defective, because I can't do what every species can...I worry that the fact that my situation in having my urethra and vagina too close together will hinder my ability to ever enjoy sex, or ever deliver a baby...

one thing I have tried in the past and present is getting intimate without penetration or touching, not for a while. desire and passion builds up and it makes me feel something...also, maybe you could try working up to penetration....like every time you get intimate with your partner, start with manual stimulation...then next time add in a little oral, then the next time have your partner insert a finger, and then 2, etc etc until you feel comfortable and can manage with vaginal intercourse. It has kind of worked for me but these days I feel like my sexual happiness and pleasure is a lost cause. I hope this helps!

[Magnetism]

INFJgirl-You're not alone. I have had similar problems. It's hard not to beat yourself up, but I don't think it's as uncommon as people make it out to be. I've decided to just embrace my preferences, instead of trying to be like everyone else. I wish you well.