We have been together 4 1/2 years and have lived together for more than 2 year. In the past I have performed oral and she has always enjoyed it. However she would always stop me after a few min telling me it felt too good. She would always tell me she was afraid to fully let go and enjoy oral hence the reason for stopping me.
Most recently she wont let me perform oral at all. When I tried talking to her about it, she says it's embarrassing and she doesn't want me to see her lose control. I've tried to get her to elaborate more on this but she quickly changes the subject. The most recent excuse she gave me was, "If god intended for oral sex, he would have placed our mouths near our private parts". I find this to be very strange behavior coming from a 51 year old woman. This to me sounds more like behavior of a young in experienced girl just exploring sex and isn't sure what to feel.
Our sex life in general is very good. However recently she says we have too much sex! There are weeks we have sex 4-5 times a week sometimes twice per day. Afterwards she tells me no sex for a few days when she feels this way. Lately she complains we do it too often and she limits the amount we have. She claims the more sex she has the more she wants it and it causes more urges which she wants to get rid of? By no means do I feel sex 4-5 times a week is a lot.
I've explained to her she doesn't need to feel embarrassed or feel the way she does regarding the amount of sex we have but doesnt want to hear it. I'm not pushy and feel sex is natural on many levels. I also don't get her limiting the amount of sex we have and her way of thinking. I guess if you need or want sex go for it, what is the fear or notion of believing we have it too much??? I can't understand why she suppresses her feelings of wanting sex...confused and frustrated!
Most recently she wont let me perform oral at all. When I tried talking to her about it, she says it's embarrassing and she doesn't want me to see her lose control. I've tried to get her to elaborate more on this but she quickly changes the subject. The most recent excuse she gave me was, "If god intended for oral sex, he would have placed our mouths near our private parts". I find this to be very strange behavior coming from a 51 year old woman. This to me sounds more like behavior of a young in experienced girl just exploring sex and isn't sure what to feel.
Our sex life in general is very good. However recently she says we have too much sex! There are weeks we have sex 4-5 times a week sometimes twice per day. Afterwards she tells me no sex for a few days when she feels this way. Lately she complains we do it too often and she limits the amount we have. She claims the more sex she has the more she wants it and it causes more urges which she wants to get rid of? By no means do I feel sex 4-5 times a week is a lot.
I've explained to her she doesn't need to feel embarrassed or feel the way she does regarding the amount of sex we have but doesnt want to hear it. I'm not pushy and feel sex is natural on many levels. I also don't get her limiting the amount of sex we have and her way of thinking. I guess if you need or want sex go for it, what is the fear or notion of believing we have it too much??? I can't understand why she suppresses her feelings of wanting sex...confused and frustrated!
When she said the oral sex "feels too good", it leads me to believe that perhaps you're paying TOO much attention to her clitoris. It's VERY sensitive, and too much pressure or friction can give you that strange "feels good but also very uncomfortable" feeling. Similar to what I believe men feel if the head of their penis is touched right after ejaculation. Totally speculating here and could be totally off base. 
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