[Elizabeth1031]

My bf of 6 yrs is amazing and loving and respectful.. And I love it about him but during sex I love to be dominated and degraded. I don't like pain or anything. Just to be dominated. I like to be slapped and forced into things. It took 6 yrs to get this comfortable and to make him do it, he's not an **************************** or anything. I think I like that he can love and respect me but then **************** me and objectify me like a porn star or filthy ******************** but I don't know why I like it. I've never been raped or had a traumatic childhood. Is this normal? Do a lot of you relate?

[Stillness]

Do you think of sex as nasty or immoral in some way?

[Elizabeth1031]

No I think it's a gift fr God to keep you bonded during hard times.. But even tho my sex isn't necessarily pure it connects us and strengthens our relationship

[Elizabeth1031]

I don't have a problem w it, just really into psychology and wondering why I like things the way I do

[Stillness]

What do you mean by it not being "pure."

[Elizabeth1031]

Like not just an expression of love or how I imagine God intended it

[Stillness]

Maybe that's why you want to be degraded?

[Elizabeth1031]

Maybe.. I'm not ashamed of it.. Just makes me feel like even if he didn't love me he's still in lust w me, wants to use me for his own sexual pleasure Cuz I'm so hot

[Stillness]

I understand that. That would seem to explain the domination, but not slapping you, treating you filthy, or forcing you.

[atskitty2]

It's probably just that, the "forbidden" and taboo ways are just what some of us enjoy, and this is a safe outlet because he's your SO. Now by forcing, do you mean that you're role playing there, you've given consent ahead of time so that in the moment you can pretend? or is he actually forcing you to do things you don't want? Many here will advise you to have a safe word, a word for stopping, if you change your mind.