[Gary7]

We watched pornography together too, before we were married. Our relationship feels a lot cleaner since we stopped.

Please never let "clean" be a verb I use to describe my sex life.

[ManFriday]

Last night, I noticed my boyfriend's head was up, instead of down when we were having sex. He was acting different than usual, making different noises etc. I turned around and saw that he was having sex with me while watching a porn, without telling me. I immediately broke into tears. He was at first rude about it, telling me that guys do stuff like that all the time. I'm hurt and confused because I've been working out a lot, I'm 120 lbs, 5'6, blonde and people find my attractive (I'm not trying to boast, I just think it's important to note that I'm not in a phase where I'm letting it go and gaining weight.) Before we had that "sex" last night, he was about to go into the bathroom to masturbate, and I wanted to have sex, so I stopped him and told him we should do it. He said he was too impatient to wait for me to finish sending my email (1 minute later….) and went back into the bathroom. Why did my boyfriend want to masturbate when I wanted to have sex? Usually he complains about me never initiating sex, or me never being horny enough. He's way hornier than me, but we have sex usually once a day! How could I be horny if I'm getting enough sex. I know I'm introducing a lot of issues here - but my main question is, should i be really really hurt and upset that he watched porn secretly while we were having sex? Why do I feel unattractive and insufficient all of the sudden? Isn't it sh********************************ty that he didn't ask me if he could watch porn during sex, and just went and did it? When he's having sex with me, he should be thinking about me, right? I feel very unsexy and useless. Advice?

Don’t get too worried about this as it is not really any reflection on you. Guys watch porn and some who watch too much probably cannot perform without it after a while. Try not to base your happiness on what other people do or say but instead be at ease with yourself.

As I see it you have three options here:

1 Sit your boyfriend down, away from the bedroom and have a good talk with him. Try to come to some compromise about doing things that please you versus watching porn and masturbating.
2 If your boyfriend does not change his ways and becomes more considerate you have to ask if he is the right guy for you. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you are in great shape so you are not depending on your selfish boyfriend.
3 Google “Male chastity devices” and you could soon be a very happy woman. Lock up his ******** and don’t let him cum at all until he changes his ways. Ban him from watching porn and get him using his tongue for more than talking.

[guyhelp]

Guy here.
Alot of men watch porn for WHAT is being done, rather than thinking they are just hotter than you.
Ask (or in this case watch) him if there is something that he wants you to do. If you both can live out the fantasy that he wants, he wont want to bother with the porn.
For example:
Were they dressed or wearing something really hot while they were in it?
Doing something that you dont do?
Dirty talk?
Find out and do it!