[SorridLives]

Well my Hubby is into the hardcore porn where they tie the women up like pigs and force them to do horrible things..I was against it at first believeing that I wasn't good enough for him (been together 15yrs and 5 kids) I'm 34 and I wasn't happy at the looking but honey that's all he's doing!! I get the benefits from him watching it!! The only thing that bothered me was he touched himself watching it but men will tell you they have no choice!! Ask ur hubby if he would mind u looking at other men naked and see what he says. Mine says he dosen't like the thought and he has slowed down on the watching! Give it a Try!!

I don't see anything wrong with it (hardcore S&M), as long as it is fantasy and not something he really wants to do and you don't. The scenes are acted out in the movie. If people like S&M and want to do DVD's about it...that is up to them. Also up to them if they watch. It isn't illegal.
As far as a man minding if you look at porn and then cutting back because he doesn't want you to watch it....that sounds rare. Most men don't mind if you watch and see other men naked, IMO....
But hope things continue to go well for you!

[SorridLives]

Gee, I wonder where I got the idea you hated it... I admit the word "sick" got plucked from the air though.

I have to agree with you, Anon

[LadyLane]

It would bother me more than a lot of my husband looked at a type of porn where I thought women were being treated like "pigs" and had "horrible" things done to them, and that was how he charged up his libido for me. I mean, I like a lot of weird sexual things - I really don't get bondage so much, the men in diapers thing, clothespins on the nipples, etc. - we all have a need, I know, I know, but those things to me are actually non-sexual, meaning I feel nothing when I see them.

So let's say he liked watching snuff fantasy porn, which I do find appalling, and then that aroused him to the point where he came looking for me to have sex with? No, no, no. Deal breaker.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Well, to each their own.

In my experience, bondage is something that more women fantasize about than men. And people should do whatever they want to do.

If you're partner liked that, then I'd like to think that you'd not judge them by their sexual fantasies, just like you wouldn't like to be judged for any of yours.

Let's just hope that you don't find that bondage vid on your partners computer!

[SorridLives]

It would bother me more than a lot of my husband looked at a type of porn where I thought women were being treated like "pigs" and had "horrible" things done to them, and that was how he charged up his libido for me. I mean, I like a lot of weird sexual things - I really don't get bondage so much, the men in diapers thing, clothespins on the nipples, etc. - we all have a need, I know, I know, but those things to me are actually non-sexual, meaning I feel nothing when I see them.

So let's say he liked watching snuff fantasy porn, which I do find appalling, and then that aroused him to the point where he came looking for me to have sex with? No, no, no. Deal breaker.

There is a difference....Snuff porn is illegal...at least real snuff porn, where someone is really hurt/killed. Some things are very bad and illegal, of course. S&M (especially light S&M) are not illegal and a person's right. No, a person doesn't have to like that it is there SO's fantasy....but it would not bother me personally if my SO wanted to watch people being tied up when those people had it done to them with consent. It's just a fantasy. She didn't say the people were getting hurt, as far as I can recall.

[commonsense]

Well, to each their own.

In my experience, bondage is something that more women fantasize about than men. And people should do whatever they want to do.

If you're partner liked that, then I'd like to think that you'd not judge them by their sexual fantasies, just like you wouldn't like to be judged for any of yours.

Let's just hope that you don't find that bondage vid on your partners computer!

Seems you'll do anything, at anytime, with anybody, on any street.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Seems you'll do anything, at anytime, with anybody, on any street.

I would have thought that "common sense" would be NOT jumping to conclusions, and refraining from posting for the sole purpose of trying, and failing, to insult someone.

[rcoreyus]

There is a difference....Snuff porn is illegal...at least real snuff porn, where someone is really hurt/killed. Some things are very bad and illegal, of course. S&M (especially light S&M) are not illegal and a person's right. No, a person doesn't have to like that it is there SO's fantasy....but it would not bother me personally if my SO wanted to watch people being tied up when those people had it done to them with consent. It's just a fantasy. She didn't say the people were getting hurt, as far as I can recall.

I seem to recall a study that real snuff porn either doesn't exist, or is exceptionally rare. There is a lot of SM porn out there - but as long as the performers are no coerced, I have no problem with it.

[LadyLane]

So let's say he liked watching snuff fantasy porn, which I do find appalling, and then that aroused him to the point where he came looking for me to have sex with? No, no, no. Deal breaker.

I said snuff fantasy - I know snuff is illegal! I'm sure it does exist for the person with the deepest pockets, however... if men can buy little girls and boys for their pleasure, I'm quite sure snuff films are made and exist. I was just using it as an extreme reference.

Let's pretend I said he got turned on by watching people poo on one another.

My point was that although my attitude is live and let live, and we all enjoy different fanatasies, I personally in my own home with my own husband would feel a bit sickened by him being aroused by something I found abhorrent, and then wanting to relieve himself of that sexual tension with me. My answer to that is no. I'd feel like he was thinking of that while we were having sex.

[SorridLives]

I said snuff fantasy - I know snuff is illegal! I'm sure it does exist for the person with the deepest pockets, however... if men can buy little girls and boys for their pleasure, I'm quite sure snuff films are made and exist. I was just using it as an extreme reference.

Let's pretend I said he got turned on by watching people poo on one another.

My point was that although my attitude is live and let live, and we all enjoy different fanatasies, I personally in my own home with my own husband would feel a bit sickened by him being aroused by something I found abhorrent, and then wanting to relieve himself of that sexual tension with me. My answer to that is no. I'd feel like he was thinking of that while we were having sex.

I understand what you are saying. I know it was an extreme example. All I am trying to say is, if nobody is getting hurt, then I have no problems with fantasies that aren't along the lines of pedophilia and snuff. A person being tied up in a movie falls within regular S&M fantasies. To each their own. I guess we all have things that turn us off more than others. Poo is one of those for me! ha.