[sarah22]

ok here goes. I have a friend and she is married and I have a BF. We have been friends for years. I love her to death and she feels the same way. We always joke around about gay stuff when we are out and drinking. We always give each other innocient kisses. I am totally think she is HOT, and I think she thinks the same way towards me.

The other day we were out clubbing and drinking etc. The end of the night came and I went back to her house to stay the night. We to her house and were talking and getting ready to call it a night when out of the blue she grabbed me and kissed me. For what ever reason i returned the favor and we made out and ended up touching each other over our clothes. I will say I was hot and very horny and turned on big time! I stopped it and it ended just like that. We went to bed seperatly and the next day it was a little awkward. But we went on normally and I have spoken to here pretty much ever day sense and everything is as if it didn't happen.

So what I want to know is should I bring this up with her as to what she wanted? I will say I have never went all the way with a girl but have fooled around when drunk years ago in college. I am attracted to her and would like to see what its like to be with her but am scared. Also we are both attached to our others.

I guess maybe I should just leave it as a fantasy.

What do you all think, anyone else been in this situation?

[anonymouswhitefemale]

A group orgy? Otherwise it's sort of cheating...

[metboogie]

It's not sort of cheating, it's definitely cheating.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Yeah, it's almost definately cheating...


Most of my male friends think about the partners lesbian interests like this:

It's cheating, unless they're sat there watching.

The problem comes in that both of the males in the picture probably wouldn't be able to enjoy it at the same time...

[C]

As tempting as it is, don't take that plunge. I once wrote a blog, Woman Who Love Women Make Good Lover's. I have not had a woman lover but I have a woman's mind. Stay away from that hot sexual heat and keep it as a fantasy in your mind. It is far too possible that if you ventured into this sexual ring that you would not want to come home.

Your thoughts are the thoughts of many women only you have come front and center with them. I once read one of the very famous women in sexuality writings write something that has stuck with me. This was just a few years ago.....She was asked if she had ever had a sexual encounter with a woman and how it was.....Her answer was, yes she did. It was in her later teen age years. This was after being sexual with men before in her life...She said that after that love in with a woman that she never had one again. She said that this had to be the only one that she could ever have in her life. Her reasoning was that because it was so wonderful that she knew if she wandered again into that erotic wonderland that as woman can do to another woman, that she would never want a man again.......What I have said here is the truth....That is only what I speak but I will not name her name.....

Just think wisely as you are very tempted right now.....no matter what anyone says.....your challenge is ahead of you....Much luck...

[sarah22]

I know

I think I know that I can't this can't go anywhere and she does do. I will be seeing my friends this weekend and will talk to her about it. I am sure we will both agree on it.

Oh ya I know our husbands would probably jump at it, men are men! LOL

[rcoreyus]

Ok, ready to be flamed out of existance for this but....
You could video yourself and your female friend doing whatever you want - then send the video to your BF and to her husband. Odds are that they would have no objection. (though I admit I wouldn't have the guts to ask anyone in the group about this).

It would sort-of be cheating, but there is a good chance you would get the permission of the men. It would avoid the pitfalls of a 3-some, and would not be sneaky / dishonest.

(OK, flame away).

[Little]

I won't flame you, but I wouldn't support that suggestion
Some guys don't even think that "girl-on-girl" is cheating at all. Strange? Yes. Do I agree with it? Nope.
Don't think of this any differently than if you were friends with a man and you were attracted to him. As an openly bisexual woman, I've had to decide for myself how I feel about these issues.
For me, monogamy is monogamy, no matter what the other person's gender is. If you're having these feelings, you need to figure out how YOU feel about it and how it affects your relationship with your boyfriend AND with your friend.

[rcoreyus]

No disagreement with any of what Little said.

But - if all 4 people are happy with something, then I think it is fine - and I think it isn't such a long shot that both men would be OK with this (the videotaped lesbian sex).

Personally, I don't seem to have a jealous gene - so I don't really understand how these sorts of feelings effect others.

But I personally intend to stay monogomous (by anyone's definition), or perhaps nonogomous might be a better term.

[shareeka]

I say tell your mate that you are sexually attracted to female and see what he tell ya. But I don't think it is cheating personally.