[Mandie]

Be realistic

Hi,

Personally I feel that you need to consider your long term desires. Would this be an experiment?, Would you want to start a proper relationship with this woman?, Would you leave your BF?, Does this woman have children that may be affected? Your BF may only be excited by a one off event, however, you may want a longer term relationship. If you are unsure maybe you should find an anonynous female to experiment with as a one off brfore you destroy any relationships you already have? If you are lesbian then its' not fair to mislead your BF any longer.

I am lesbian and have been forever and have never slept with a man! In the past I have been excited by men, however, I knew that I was gay and that although I could be physically/sexually attracted to a man that I would never want a long term sexual relationship with one. It would only be an experiment to find out what it was like to have intercourse with a man.

[reesecup]

As someone who has both been with women and men in my marriage (it was agreed upon, we had an open marriage) I would say not to venture down that road. Although at the moment, your spouse/boyfriend may agree to it, it may become addictive to you and/or more likely, someone will get jealous.

Although you may have the fantasy and get extremely turned on at the thought, I wouldn't pursue it, especially if you are married. It is cheating, regardless if it is with another woman (you would consider it cheating if your husband was with another man, right?)

I think a lot of women have this fantasy or desire, and very few live it out. Unfortunately, its not healthy to live out when you are in a committed relationship...so many things are at risk. Your friendship and your marriage mean more to you......