[anonymouswhitefemale]

Just lose a good deal of weight - it really isn't as difficult as it's made out to be. You'll be more attractive, so you might have a man who can actually turn you on, and you won't die of a heart problem when you're 35. Win win.

You can't be fat and happy? I know I couldn't be.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Dear me......................

I have never been over 71k, mostly 64, what is that ? 90lbs? Australian remember.... We deal in k's....

That's not fair ANON...... Some women you know, are HAPPY.......... with what do you say in America? A bit of "booty"...

Sure i think that everyone is saying that to "reach that spot may be harder" with a bit of over weight, and i guess i can't argue with that, but don't be self conscious over that, just aim at doing something there to make your sex life better okay....

CW

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Encouraging fat people is like encouraging smokers.

Don't become happy with your body, fix it.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Encouraging fat people is like encouraging smokers.

Don't become happy with your body, fix it.

Well i did miss the heading, and fair call on that last one.....

Agree with the Don't that pertains a different picture......

CW

[Guest]

Encouraging fat people is like encouraging smokers.

Don't become happy with your body, fix it.

anon - little will think i'm antagonizing you. not so - just illustrating something.

but isn't your advice somewhat contrary to your "get used to it, guys watch porn" encouragement to women?

should women become happy with spouses using porn, or should they - as you've said - fix it?

i just can't help but notice your hard-hitting "can-do" attitude with flabby girls - in sharp contrast to your "oh well" apathy with insensitive guys.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

but don't be self conscious over that, just aim at doing something there to make your sex life better okay....

That is still the issue i think....

CW

[Richard S]

Back in my single days I had plenty of good, hot sex with "plus-size" women. So I don't see that as an issue.

Since this is a "sex advice" forum and not a "weight loss support" forum I'll leave it at that.

[C]

I have been both ways on this....I can assure you as far as sexual satisfaction, this is an issue.....An overweight person never truly realizes this until he/she had shed this weight and found this new person....There is no comparison just from talking about positions available... From body confidence, it is a difference between night and day, but I do understand and this is only my opinion from walking both sides of the road.

Sex is wonderful either way you do it BUT when you are overweight you make excuses for yourself....Now you can live with excuses and say things that you want to say or you can own up to the fact that you should lose weight and do it..

I have lived on both sides and can only speak of what I know and how we are. ..You have to make concessions to have great sex and believe me we have never looked back... This is your choice in life. We made ours...TC, C

[C]

Encouraging fat people is like encouraging smokers.

Don't become happy with your body, fix it.

I just saw Anon's post....Once again I agree with him 100%......I am not talking about skinny minny or slick and lean sam. I am talking about getting the flab off and meeting stomach's. Being able to mount her from the back is erotic BUT if ?????????????????? it brings no satisfaction.....

[anonymouswhitefemale]

anon - little will think i'm antagonizing you. not so - just illustrating something.

but isn't your advice somewhat contrary to your "get used to it, guys watch porn" encouragement to women?

should women become happy with spouses using porn, or should they - as you've said - fix it?

i just can't help but notice your hard-hitting "can-do" attitude with flabby girls - in sharp contrast to your "oh well" apathy with insensitive guys.

OK, firstly, for the record, I don't approve of fat women OR men, I find fat men as repulsive as fat women. In fact, I'd be glad if women were slightly more shallow and that fat men were left single, offering them an incentive to lose weight. So don't make out that I think what's bad for women isn't also for men.

As for porn/fantasy, in a way it is the same as food. What you are saying about porn/fantasy is that one should stop it altogether, which is akin to saying that one should stop eating food altogether.

Porn/fantasy does not make you physically repulsive, or force the person sitting next to you to be squashed up against the wall with rolls of flab. Porn does not mean that everyone on the plane has to pay extra to carry their luggage when your left arm weighs as much as that baggage excess. Porn won't make you cough up your food when it walks past you on a sunny day. Porn does not give you a myriad of health problems which cost the state an extortionate amount of money to treat. Porn won't kill you. Porn doesn't make you smell... All men fantasize, wheras any sensible man or woman stays in shape - for their own sake.

As for fixing a problem, I don't think a partner should ever fix a problem for thier other half. Any problem fixing should be done for yourself. A partner shouldn't see a problem with you then go on a campaign to fix it. As for fixing porn, in my opinion that's similar to fixing that your spouse likes table tennis.

But let's not hijack this thread eh?