[miffed23]

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I am planning on taking things that step further with my new man and would REALLY appreciate advice on how to drive him wild.
The other week, he massaged the "whole" of my body and i am keen on returning the favour, the main problem being that he is incredibly confident and i am quite shy, id love to loose all my inhibitions and go wild!!
I know the basics, i need advice on how to make him never forget his first time with me!!
Thank you for taking time to read this.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I am planning on taking things that step further with my new man and would REALLY appreciate advice on how to drive him wild.
The other week, he massaged the "whole" of my body and i am keen on returning the favour, the main problem being that he is incredibly confident and i am quite shy, id love to loose all my inhibitions and go wild!!
I know the basics, i need advice on how to make him never forget his first time with me!!
Thank you for taking time to read this.

It's natural to want to "give" and make it special obviously you are in "lust" with this new man, have fun and go for it.

I also understand the shy bit and wanting to loose all of your inhibitions as it took me forever, to find that person. Add a bit of romance, ie) soft candle light, (mainly) so you feel more comfortable and can let go, than in full light, or were you planning on having no light??? Can't do that.... And, don't compete with him, just because he massaged your whole body doesn't mean that he will be better in bed what what you have to offer him, you both should be "equal" at what you have to offer each other.

I would say to you, seduce him. Right from step one. Great underwear, a dress that undoes all the way down, tease him, seduce him with your eyes, body language, movements, first of as the beginning.

Men also like to see that a woman is lusting after what he is doing, and she is in heaven, don't be shy to show that, therefore, it will turn him on, i don't mean yelling and screaming, i mean, moving, and touching and looking straight into his eyes.

Sensual, sexy, provogative, shy, not shy, as for what you can do to him, you know the basics, as you do different things gage his reaction and stay there longer in that position of doing that particular thing if his reaction is higher, concentrate but also enjoy it for yourself at the same time.

Try to connect with his eyes as much as you can, as "they are the soul" and an experience first time, should contain lust, desire and emotions" to be truly remembered as beautiful... You got plenty of time for the "horny".

[miffed23]

Thank you!
Super advice! Its the initial step that im not looking forward to - hahahaha!!

I do plan on keeping the lights on, luckily i feel okay about my body..its the move making that concerns me.

Thank you again.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Thank you!
Super advice! Its the initial step that im not looking forward to - hahahaha!!

I do plan on keeping the lights on, luckily i feel okay about my body..its the move making that concerns me.

Thank you again.

Keep reading you'll get more..

Good for you regarding the lights, but it's sexy to have candles lit, if you love your body and gee, that's 100 points to you, light heeps but it's cool no matter what age bracket you guys are in, it's sexy.

Yeah, i know about that "initial step", i've been conversing with a guy for 3 months, and we haven't met, but we will in 8 weeks and i have to pick him up from the airport. And, as we have had a lot of intimacy lets say, not telling exactly how, well you know what's going to happen immediately and gee, i was stressing about that.

So, this doesn't fit into your plans but you may get an idea?

I decided to hire a limo. Be seductive and hide in the next port so i can see him getting of the plane, then text him ( pre advised have mobile on, may be late), "so are you arroused", let him answer, " i'm not far away, meet me at the front through the doors", let him think i'm not there, and then have the chauffer greet him, as i slip out the door while he gets the luggage and describe what he's wearing, while i stay in the car, and get those two scotch and cokes into me.....lol.

Then we will check out the scenery here for 1hr, have a drink and i'll casually lay back on him laugh etc, so by the time i get home, i've chilled ready for the added seduction.....

Maybe you can take something from that? Can you afford a hotel? With a spa bath? Sex is sex, seduction is wicked i think that will make it not just sex...

[miffed23]

The 2 scotch and cokes would definitely help , although 22 would probably be more successful!

Your man is incredibly lucky!! Again, thank you very much. Unfortunately, my circumstances are a little complicated...he is a fair few years older than me and very unhappily married....so, as much as id love to book a hotel, spa etc it isnt possible. The marriage part, is a whole new problem...should start a new thread..

What would you suggest? Ill take any advice on board- good or bad...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Oh! Oh!

The 2 scotch and cokes would definitely help , although 22 would probably be more successful!

Your man is incredibly lucky!! Again, thank you very much. Unfortunately, my circumstances are a little complicated...he is a fair few years older than me and very unhappily married....so, as much as id love to book a hotel, spa etc it isnt possible. The marriage part, is a whole new problem...should start a new thread..

What would you suggest? Ill take any advice on board- good or bad...

Yep, he'll be very suprised, i agree and it's a good way to ease our relationship into something romantic as well as lust full from day one....


Okay, i'm taking all of that back, with my advice... Yep, best you start a new thread i think, and have a swirl around those whom have already threaded here recently and replies relating to MARRIED MEN...

The marriage part is a whole new problem. And i would just say you ARE LUCKY because if you start that thread and read those posts you will be the only one on here that has the opportunity to make a strong and bold decision that other's weren't able to make as they had already gotten involved and are working through getting out.

WHAT you will read OVER AND OVER, is, every married man that has an affair states:

I AM SO UN-HAPPY IN MY MARRIAGE
I AM GOING TO LEAVE HER
YOU MAKE ME FEEL SO FANTASTIC
YOU ARE GORGEOUS
I LOVE YOU

The only advice i am going to give here until you start that Thread and give me lots more info, on how this all started, where you met, does he know of your plans, does he agree as well etc..... is:-

DON'T GO THERE.

If he is the one for YOU...... I will bet anything i own, anything, that he will leave his wife regardless of whether you have sex or don't and you both will be together.

TEST HIM OUT:

I so want to, but you know, i understand where you are at, but if i have you, i want you to myself, so i'm prepared to wait. Understand, i want you, but i'm not prepared to be the "other woman", but i am prepared to see where we go, when your free.....

He'll either fumble, oh but, gee but i need you now, you don't understand, it's not like i'm in a proper marriage, she this, she that, feel sorry for me, it's you i want to be with, i will leave her, in-fact i'm planning on etc,

OR

He'll say i understand, your right....

Frankly, i want the above line, and the waiting game will be even more worth it.

If it's the above, above line, and you can't see those warning signs, i can only say, you've been warned.

So as to ensure you get the replies you need to consider here, you need to start that new thread so other's see the heading straight away and reply....

See you there i am sure.

[SinisterUrge]

Best
Damn
Sex ever
Made

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Best
Damn
Sex ever
Made

Yeah it is SinisterUrge, when you have to "wait for it"..................

[Richard S]

I know the basics, i need advice on how to make him never forget his first time with me!!

It takes a lot of guts to do what you're doing, asking how to be a good affair partner.

So I'll respect that and give you a nice quick answer.

Blowjobs. Give him plenty, and do it spontaneously, without having to be asked. Do it in unusual, preferably public places.

If you need advice on technique, go to youporn.com. I am *not* kidding. There are plenty of examples of regular women (not porn stars) pleasing their men. In particular do a search on "Heather Brooke" once you are in that site and pay particular attention to her. Even if you can't do everything she does, notice how she uses words, facial expressions, her overall way of being.

Every man, without exception, has a special place in his heart for the women who gave him head with no inhibitions, and nothing expected in return.

I just thought I'd give you a direct answer and not waste your time.

Good luck.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Yeah, alright... It's her choice, but she did say good or bad advice... And, that she is considering a new thread, so she may be checking her feelings there on what to do. Plus, un-happy who knows, he may be leaving anytime soon. But i am a woman Richard, so i guess i am still saying "i'd prefer to wait" until he's mine The "blow jobs" would be so much better as well, cause i'd know that only i'm doing them.... well??? So i've set the mood to get over any obsacles, you've added what he may like. Now other's can add what ever they feel And, then she'll add what ever she feels...... And, we will all then feel, something?