[sexyhippie15]

I am 15 now and it has been over 4 months now that me and my new boyfriend have been dating now. he wanted to wait to have sex until i was ready and so did i. well i was ready but terrified about how to tell my mom that i was having sex at the age of 15. i mainly wanted to just get it over with and he hasn't wanted to do it again. DID I DO THE RIGHT THING BY SAYING YES ABOUT THE SEX OR WAS I WRONG???

CAN SOMEONE GIVE ME ADVICE ON HOW TO TELL MY MOM??!!

[shweedart]

If you felt ready to have sex with him then it wasnt wrong, but why do you need to tell your mum?

[ChelseaRenee]

If you felt ready to have sex with him then it wasnt wrong, but why do you need to tell your mum?

Because she's 15 years old? She needs some kind of adult help if she's sexually active- she needs to see a dr., get on birth control, get condoms, all that jazz. You can't do all that alone at 15. You can't even DRIVE there at 15.

[SinisterUrge]

Because she's 15 years old? She needs some kind of adult help if she's sexually active- she needs to see a dr., get on birth control, get condoms, all that jazz. You can't do all that alone at 15. You can't even DRIVE there at 15.

why can't she buy condoms at 15?

[Richard S]

What conversations have you had with her so far? A lot of moms will tell their daughters, "There is this thing called birth control, when you are ready to take that step let me know." Are you telling us she's never talked to you about that, at all?

You may have to accept the fact that you are more comfortable talking about this stuff than she is. You'd be surprised, adults can get really intimidated, because the main thing they remember is what it was like for them when they were your age.

[C]

I can certainly remember what it was like at 15 and I would have told her not to have sex. But knowing my daughter she, like many other daughters, would not have listened to me...She would have thought that this daring thing was the right thing to do to prove that she could do anything that she wanted to do in life...It would have been her way of saying to me F*ck You....She probably would have threatened me and said I will show you and do it anyway...Then she just may have wandered from boy to boy looking for that magic that her Father and I had found and never found it...

I believe this age is so far too early to have sex....They are not yet a woman and able to appreciate the thrill of being this sexual person that they are to be....It can be a very sad and have no stimulation whatsoever...They may come out of it thinking, is that all there is....The winner is the boy....He has accomplished his goal with maybe a few words called love which meant nothing to him except a way to part her legs farther and faster.

Oh, and this same girl I spoke about would probably have said to me at age 42, with this new man I have who will be my husband, brings me to that place that I have watched you and Dad at....I have found all that you have and it would make me wonder if she had waited would all this waste of woman have had to happen...TC, C

[Little]

She can't buy condoms at age 15 because most stores are too far away to walk to, and that goes back to the driving thing.

There are some mothers that can't be talked to. You have to weigh that. YOU know how your mother will react, deep down. She may surprise you for the better or worse, but you know the range.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I am 15 now and it has been over 4 months now that me and my new boyfriend have been dating now. he wanted to wait to have sex until i was ready and so did i. well i was ready but terrified about how to tell my mom that i was having sex at the age of 15. i mainly wanted to just get it over with and he hasn't wanted to do it again. DID I DO THE RIGHT THING BY SAYING YES ABOUT THE SEX OR WAS I WRONG???

CAN SOMEONE GIVE ME ADVICE ON HOW TO TELL MY MOM??!!

I don't know if i am missing something but everyone is advising you on how to tell Mom, or not to.

But in bold, (sorry ) i see these things, you asked if you did the right thing by saying yes about the sex, were you wrong. Then reading above that i read, " i only wanted to get it over with and he hasn't wanted to do it again".

You also stated that you have a boyfriend that you have been going out with for 4 months.


Well it is said if i read this right and you did go there, but he hasn't since that time. Don't be deflated over that though it happened.

I read somewhere on these threads where they stated "you are still a virgin until you sleep with someone you love deeply and they you and you give yourself to him".


DID I DO THE RIGHT THING BY SAYING YES ABOUT THE SEX OR WAS I WRONG??? Your Quote!!!

Don't feel that it was wrong, you must have felt a lot for him and therefore agreed with him and said yes. He took and frankly if he hasn't "wanted to since", then i think you need to take a very deep breath and let yourself know that that was ok, that you did but perhaps wait until the next time you really really want to because you feel something really nice about the next guy, and tell this one, you deserve better....

Also, just in case, if you are on no birth control, do go and see a Doctor if this is the case, it seems like it to me from what i read just to be safe.

You have a whole life of a journey ahead of you to discover more, you discovered something about yourself that's all, now you may need to start a new journey. You did not do anything wrong, as it was what you decided even if you thought it was "to get it over and done with", if he is not there for you and it hasn't happened again, you do deserve someone more attentive and loving, so take care and don't stress just perhaps try to let this one go his own way....

[CHANDLERS WISH]

{Quote} Caroline:-

They may come out of it thinking, is that all there is....The winner is the boy....He has accomplished his goal with maybe a few words called love which meant nothing to him except a way to part her legs farther and faster.

Um.... 15? Um...

This i know was meant for someone you had in mind in their 20's + not this girl, as you wrote, you know....

Yes, i read that somewhere i am sure.......

Sorry for double posting but i had to i thought.

It's different when you 15, you are a young lady who will soon be a teenager, and then a woman, don't grow up to fast, we don't have to, it's fun being mischevious.

Also, i am Australian, i was thinking, I am sure Little said that in America you have to be 16, may be best to talk to mom after all.

There i will let it be.

[Little]

You have to be 18 to legally have sex, and that's the bottom line ... unless, like me, you live in a state with "special" (dee dee dee!) statutory rape laws that say if you have your parent's written permission and the other person is within 4 years, it's legal.
I don't know if Wisconsin has a "special" law like that, and it would still entail telling your mother.
IF you have the kind of mother who can be talked to, you just sit her down and let her know. Like Richard S said, there are signs of which mother is the kind who can be told and which mother is going to flip her sh*t and send you to the gyno for an invasive exam because she thinks you're an insert-sexually-promiscuous-slur-here.
Was he pressuring you? Is that why you "gave in?" Or because you wanted to get your virginity over with so that you would be free to have sex with little pain? Is he ignoring you, or just giving you time/space after this important event? How old is he?
You weren't necessarily "wrong" about it all, but fifteen IS young. I thought at 18 that I was ready to lose it to my fiancé, and he ended up having to rape me because I just wasn't ready and wasn't going to give in.
Don't ever let someone do that to you.