Is the ideal penis size a porn star sized penis?

[musiclova]

Hi,

Would you say you would prefer having sex with a man with a porn star penis, say 7.5 inches +? Or would you rather around average.

When I watch porn, I need visual stimulation of a big penis with the women. I don't know if women actually want that. I know every women is different but if I could get it as general statement, It would be great.

What's your perspective? is it more stimulating to have sex with a porn star sized penis or would it be like "having a spear be put in you" or however the expression goes?

I'm asking to clear my mind. Please answer respectfully.

Thanks.

[raindancer]

If you read erotic fiction for women you'll see all men are "well endowed."

When I choose a partner for sex only, I repeat, for sex only, appearance counts, including his penis. But that goes both ways. A man who's out only for sex will be selective, too.

I think sexual attraction is very important to keep a woman's libido going long time. I've been with my husband for decades. I still desire him like at the beginning. I worship his body, including his penis, the size of which we've never measured, of course. He's just perfection, as far as I'm concerned.

I wonder. Perhaps, when time exacerbates the friendship side of a marriage and passion eases into routine, if the physical aspect isn't what is necessary to keep a woman desiring. As you know, that is often an issue.

When my man is naked, I have only one thing in mind: sex.

Love makes you forget everything, accept everything. But will time one day catch you up with reality in a subtle, and yet seemingly irreversible way?

I think it does. Time crushes you with your choices, mainly the poor ones. Because however happy we are, don't we all find a way to be dissatisfied, sometimes?

Now, is huge/tiny/average an issue? I don't know. My guess is that most women fantasize, when they do, with the whole package. If reality is very different from that man in their mind, won't reality sex be also very different? Will desire survive the years?

I only have questions...

You'll read a lot of "it's the motion that counts", "g spot is only 2 inches in"... because with all things related to the complicate female sexuality, since there are no answers, most people don't even seek them anymore. We broom it to right under the carpet and we hope we all believe in all these lies. Who knows, if we repeat them a lot, they'll become true?

One time we've created gods to explain nature. Woman desire is the same. We create lots of these new myths to explain what we don't know.

[musiclova]

Oh, wow. Thanks! That was beautifully written.

Honestly, I asked because I just got out of an intense 2 year relationship.

Note: I loved her so sex wasn't the issue.

She had no libido because of the medication she was on. Sex was a chore for her, and when we would have sex, I'd have to be gentle or I would hurt her. Oral sex on her didn't work, nothing. However, there were like 2-3 random occasions where she was in "heat", and she wanted it really hard, which I found hard to keep up. haha

When we were in the process of breaking up, she told me that most women couldn't handle my "endowment".
That being said but mostly 2 years of sex where I'd feel guilty for having sex with her is where this problem rooted.

[musiclova]

She was my first sexual partner. I also do understand that she was trying really hard to please me by having sex with me.

[raindancer]

Break ups can be tough. I hope the two of you are OK with it and find happiness in your new lives.

[musiclova]

Thank you, Raindancer!

[kira]

It seems most experienced women (certainly not all but probably leaning toward the majority) agree a large penis is not that big of deal and many of those women will also say it hurts too much. When were both starting dating and having sex my sister and I would talk about who's bf had a larger penis but after more experience penis size was not such a great thing. I eventually quit wanting sex with a bf I was living with at first because it was uncomfortable and then from personality issues. He couldn't fit a normal sized condom on without pain. I am quite happy with an average size penis. Of course the other direction can be even more of a turnoff if the guy isn't real creative. My sister dated someone with a 3" erect penis and since the start of her relationships is nearly always based on sex and he did not have the experience to make up for not really having vaginal sex the relationship never got off the ground.

Porn is not a good teaching tool. I definitely do not want a giant penis jack hammering my insides.

[welp]

Everyone is going to be different, but you can put women into groups. There are very few women who prefer a really small penis. In fact, there are so few it's almost not worth listing, but just doing it for completeness. Then there are women who prefer a really large penis. They are a minority, but, certainly, very statistically relevant. There are women who prefer average. More common than the woman who prefers very large penises, but not the majority. The winner, by far, is the woman who prefers the above average penis. Above average defined by around 7x5.5. This is, ESPECIALLY, true for the girth.

I would say that penis size is not at the top of most women's list of things to look for, but it's more important than they let on. I've seen women question the compatibility of relationship if it's too small. I've seen women date men, for the most part, because they are big. And, in some cases, I've seen women cheat for it. Women have just as many superficial behaviors as men

Full disclosure, I'm of the average variety.

[musiclova]

Insightful. thanks so much for your responses!
Average seems to be pretty good.
However, when someone says "I'd rather have a guy that knows what he's doing than a well endowed guy."
What's to say the well endowed guy doesn't know what he's doing. Maybe he's really good too.
Is it because typically well-endowed guys are cocky and think having a big penis is enough?

[musiclova]

Also, FYI: I didn't give a very specific range for what I'm talking about. I'm talking about between 7.5 - 9 inches in length.

[musiclova]

Pretty close to upper average but not ginormeous.

[musiclova]

IF that's TMI, I'm sorry. haha

[musiclova]

Anyways, I'm not going into another relationship based on my penis size. This is what god gave me. I might as well accept it. Focus on my personality / on the things I can change. Sorry for blowing up on this thread. Thank you for your input.

[mahveen]

quite helpful answer by raindancer

[CapeCRunner]

I'll speak about my husband. He's I'd say he's about 6.5 inches (average length) but he's pretty thick. He's got a very good looking one in my opinion. Call me biased But yeah, thickness is a bonus for me. However, penis aside, I'd be with my husband regardless because he's just a great all around guy.