[muffin70]

Ok this is for the men out there but women feel free to comment too

Has anyone tried Viagra or Cialis or similar??

I don’t have erection problems – quite the opposite…. but the problem I do have is not being able to last very long during sex - usually 1-2 mins. Sometimes I feel I have to apologise to my wife for my lack of staying power…. But she always replies “as long as you enjoyed it…” I do enjoy it, but feel if I was able to last a bit longer, then she’d enjoy it more too.

My thinking is, I could take Viagra or Cialis to stay hard – meaning once I’ve had my initial orgasm after 1-2 mins I can continue making love to my wife and have a second orgasm…. Meaning she may enjoy it more.

Any thoughts?

[Motorguy]

Well Muffin the only problem they really don't give you either Viagra or Cialis for orgasming to soon. Only for not achieving a erection. Maybe have the wife try edging on you by getting close then stopping let you calm down and then continue on and repeat this till you both are satisfield of time you spent doing just this. That's just a thought I had about this issue.

[kdc]

. . . But she always replies “as long as you enjoyed it…” I do enjoy it, but feel if I was able to last a bit longer, then she’d enjoy it more too.

My thinking is, I could take Viagra or Cialis to stay hard – meaning once I’ve had my initial orgasm after 1-2 mins I can continue making love to my wife and have a second orgasm…. Meaning she may enjoy it more.

I'm not a man, but I have some thoughts for you because I'm feeling sorry for Mrs. Muffin. ;-) If I'm reading correctly, your problem is not that you need a little pill because your equipment is in working order. Your problem sounds to me as if you're getting ahead of your wife and finishing before she's even started to warm up. You don't say how long you work on foreplay, but you need to remember it takes the average woman longer to go from start to orgasm than the average man. (I've read it takes an average of up to 15 or 20 minutes for the average woman to have her first orgasm in a session.)

I'd recommend that you don't even begin to have intercourse until you've given her at least a few orgasms with your fingers, your mouth, or a toy. When she's completely satisfied, then let her satisfy you. By that time, she won't care that it only takes you a couple of minutes to get there. I'm betting it will make a world of difference. ;-)

[muffin70]

I'm not a man, but I have some thoughts for you because I'm feeling sorry for Mrs. Muffin. ;-)
I'd recommend that you don't even begin to have intercourse until you've given her at least a few orgasms with your fingers, your mouth, or a toy. When she's completely satisfied, then let her satisfy you. By that time, she won't care that it only takes you a couple of minutes to get there. I'm betting it will make a world of difference. ;-)

Thanks for the reply
99% of the time we have foreplay and I kiss her nipples while stimulating her with my fingers to orgasm, so she doesn't miss out on her orgasm
I get rock hard while doing this and we have intercourse straight after she has orgasmed – because she is naturally wet down there.
I’ve tried to slow down and take my time but she wants me to go faster because she enjoys it more – and the faster I go the less time it takes me to ejaculate.

I have suggested that she give me a hand job first to make me ejaculate, then we can have intercourse (hence me asking about the ‘pill’ to make me stay hard), but she doesn’t like giving me hand jobs because she doesn’t like getting semen on her hand or anything - in fact she rarely touches my erection, except to guide it into her vavinga when I get on top of her.
Very occasionally after she has orgasmed she is too tired for sex and I end up having to finish myself off - but that doesn't happen often thankfully!

[kdc]

I have suggested that she give me a hand job first to make me ejaculate, then we can have intercourse (hence me asking about the ‘pill’ to make me stay hard), but she doesn’t like giving me hand jobs because she doesn’t like getting semen on her hand or anything - in fact she rarely touches my erection, except to guide it into her vavinga when I get on top of her.
Very occasionally after she has orgasmed she is too tired for sex and I end up having to finish myself off - but that doesn't happen often thankfully!

Oh, I misunderstood. From the way it sounded, I thought Mrs. Muffin wasn't getting _any_ satisfaction. In that case, I'm afraid I don't have any solution to offer--unfortunately.

I'm not sure I'd trust that those little pills if you don't really need them to perform, though. I have to wonder if they might not cause some kind of damage to a healthy penis--either now or down the road, you know?

It does seem odd that Mrs. Muffin doesn't like to touch you. Maybe she thinks semen is radioactive or something. I dunno. Kind of sounds as if she's just doing the bare minimum and going through the motions to fulfill her "wifely duty," though. That's unfortunate--for the both of you.

But if she's gotten satisfied and won't take care of you, I no longer have any sympathy for her at all.

[Texasred]

Cialis and Viagra (and other similar drugs) help achieve an erection for those who have difficulty with it, but the biological mechanism of that "difficulty" is mostly different from the mechanism which causes the deflation that usually happens to a man right after orgasm. Thus, Cialis and such only have a very minimal effect post-orgasm. In fact, the loss of an erection after orgasm is thought to be caused by prolactin, a hormone released into the system as a result of orgasm; things like vitamin B-6 that reduce prolactin can very much help to reduce the "refractory" period, reduce your recovery time. According to both the internet and my own experience...
In addition, there are drugs that will serve to prolong your action, make you not orgasm so quickly. They can usually be found through the so-called "men's clinics" that specialize in treatments (drugs) for men with E.D.; they treat P.E. with different drugs, but I have no idea how or how well those work.

But to a certain extent, it sounds to me almost as if your wife, having already had her orgasm, is encouraging you to go fast, knowing that it makes you orgasm quickly.
My wife does something very similar and it's just so I'll have mine so she can roll over and go to sleep...

[Bowlly]

I'm guessing there are some treatments which are more specific for your condition. I suggest you see a doctor.

[muffin70]

I'm guessing there are some treatments which are more specific for your condition. I suggest you see a doctor.

the only problem I have it my wife is just too **** hot and sexy! - it's all her fault LOL

[Motorguy]

the only problem I have it my wife is just too ******** hot and sexy! - it's all her fault LOL

There you go a very smart man my wife says lol. The wife never ever get's tired of hearing those words lol.

[Lovcookie]

This reminds me of what my GF's female friend (our threesome partner for a while) said about her ex husband. According to her he had a huge penis and he would cum early. He would take one of those two drugs to try to have more staying power. Sometimes he would need to stay full before he came too. Seemed like it was so big staying hard was often a issue. No idea which works better though.