[bon]

Hey I'm a 22 year old male with an amazing girl friend whom i dearly love. Me and my girlfriend dont have sex and dont intend to until marriage, so I have been trying to do other sexual activities with her that doesnt involve her hymn. So I've been trying to convince her if I could eat her out and it's something I REALLY want to do or at least try, but sadly her answer is always "No! Its sick and disgusting" or something similiar because she thinks it's sick...

I know some girls find it sick even though she doesn't find giving me a Blow Job sick at all because she considers it to be "different". I just want to know is there any way around it? Any way to convince her that its not sick for me and that I really have to try it. If any of you have experienced this I would like to know any information thanks.

Oh also her Blow Jobs and Hand Jobs don't seem to work at all :/ havn't found a way for her to give me an orgasm yet its easy for me to give her one. ^^

[Hystorm]

Heh, lol, lol and....lol.

I am laughing with you as I had the EXACT deal with my now wife.
She was totally against me going down on her. She wanted to experiment with my schlong but did not want me to get near hers. Here is the only way I know to get around it. You must get her SO turned on via slow kissing the rest of her body, rubbing against her while clothed (or not if she will go for it) and slowly make your way down. You must be able to read her to know if she is almost there or not. Once there, you can make your way down but make sure to keep a wide birth (sp?) around her vagina. Then, slowly work your way closer in passing. If she does not complain in any way, you can get closer and closer, Then, you slide your tongue under her panties and just briefly make contact with the outside labia and move on again (I know, its almost impossible to move on, but you must for now.) Keep doing that until you are fully engaged with her clit and she is exploding! Volia, you now have a woman that wants oral and didn’t even know what happened. That is exactly the way I pulled it off. She never looked back.

Also, I later found out, she has an issue with her urethra (sp?) She leaks a bit through the day which causes it to some times reek (her words, I actually have never found it to be an issue, it’s a guy thing!!) Therefore, she was always self aware about me going down and smelling it or something. This could be the case. You may just try asking her, are you afraid it will smell or taste bad. If it’s the case, just have her shower and then show her how wonderful it can be. You could also tell her, she will enjoy it twice as much as you enjoy yours (actually from what you described, maybe even 100x more)

Also, with regards to her going down on you, she must do hand work along with mouth work. The real good blow jobs that bring a man to orgasm are a combo of mouth and hand work. I have NEVER cum from just mouth. Something about the way we are made I guess...

Not go to and pleasure your woman!

[Fallen1]

Heh, lol, lol and....lol.

I am laughing with you as I had the EXACT deal with my now wife.
She was totally against me going down on her. She wanted to experiment with my schlong but did not want me to get near hers. Here is the only way I know to get around it. You must get her SO turned on via slow kissing the rest of her body, rubbing against her while clothed (or not if she will go for it) and slowly make your way down. You must be able to read her to know if she is almost there or not. Once there, you can make your way down but make sure to keep a wide birth (sp?) around her vagina. Then, slowly work your way closer in passing. If she does not complain in any way, you can get closer and closer, Then, you slide your tongue under her panties and just briefly make contact with the outside labia and move on again (I know, its almost impossible to move on, but you must for now.) Keep doing that until you are fully engaged with her clit and she is exploding! Volia, you now have a woman that wants oral and didn’t even know what happened. That is exactly the way I pulled it off. She never looked back.

Also, I later found out, she has an issue with her urethra (sp?) She leaks a bit through the day which causes it to some times reek (her words, I actually have never found it to be an issue, it’s a guy thing!!) Therefore, she was always self aware about me going down and smelling it or something. This could be the case. You may just try asking her, are you afraid it will smell or taste bad. If it’s the case, just have her shower and then show her how wonderful it can be. You could also tell her, she will enjoy it twice as much as you enjoy yours (actually from what you described, maybe even 100x more)

Also, with regards to her going down on you, she must do hand work along with mouth work. The real good blow jobs that bring a man to orgasm are a combo of mouth and hand work. I have NEVER cum from just mouth. Something about the way we are made I guess...

Not go to and pleasure your woman!

OH MY ... I got all excited and tingly just reading that.

What a wonderful way to introduce it to her Hystorm!

I also agree that maybe she's afraid you may be turned off by smell and or taste.

[miffed23]

OH MY ... I got all excited and tingly just reading that.

What a wonderful way to introduce it to her Hystorm!

I also agree that maybe she's afraid you may be turned off by smell and or taste.

Ditto!
I dont think you need any more advice after what Hystorm posted.
Keep reasurring her that she is beautiful, tastes good, looks fantastic when she moves like that...etc.

Good luck bon.

[C]

A woman is filled with shame...She is fighting the shame of a child...We are told by parents that this is dirty to do...Don't touch yourself there and not you want to eat her...She isn't giving you a good blow job because she is simply going through the motions...She has not let herself loose....You are not seeing the true woman inside her...It is staying hidden....Or just maybe it will not come out...This you must find...

If I may offer one suggestion to you it would be, try and consumate this union before marriage...Make sure that this woman is sexually capable of being all that you want in a wife....There is nothing worse than an unhappy marriage with two people that are sexually different...It is a fast ticket to a divorce or an affair on your part.....

Just my thoughts on this...Take care, Caroline

[Richard S]

Hystorm is on the right track.

Giving a full body massage is also very effective. A woman's sexual response is strongly tied into her over sensuality. How you use your hands is very important. Start with the back, them move to the legs and feet. Feet are very, very important, as are the legs and that spot behind the knee. Once you have her loving your massage, you can kiss her around the thighs and work your way to the inner thighs...

But take your time with it. You are training her body to respond to you. Be a tease at first, that is steer clear of the breasts (at least the nipples) and the genitals. But explore every other inch of her body. Use candles, massage oil, new-agey music, give her the full treatment.

You know how it is, being a guy. Bide your time, wait for the moment, read her signals. But when you feel the moment is right... go in for the kill. Be the man. Give her the space to be a woman, to surrender to you.

[C]

She has to be treated like an innocent child as she is afraid...Afraid of surrendering this prize that she has held dear all her life...It will not be easy moving her legs apart...Kiss the inside of her thigh and make her move them open and then leave them and go to her stomach...Make her moan for you to come back....When you lick her go up the crack and down to her perineum...Then back again...Constantly stimulating her....What you are doing is the most stimulating thing for a woman that there can be....You are teaching her love....And she will return the favor....Probably tenfold...TC, C

[anonymouswhitefemale]

My cynical and unpopular advice would be to leave her, and to find someone who won't have as many (religion induced) sexual hang ups, so you won't become one of the many sexually unfulfilled 40 year olds out there.

How can you commit your life to a woman when she might hate sex? That would be rubbish. Sex is the cement that holds a relationship together, and in situations like this I really think it's a gamble.

[miffed23]

so you won't become one of the many sexually unfulfilled 40 year olds out there.

I know a few of these men you're talking of ..........

[Fallen1]

My cynical and unpopular advice would be to leave her, and to find someone who won't have as many (religion induced) sexual hang ups, so you won't become one of the many sexually unfulfilled 40 year olds out there.

How can you commit your life to a woman when she might hate sex? That would be rubbish. Sex is the cement that holds a relationship together, and in situations like this I really think it's a gamble.

Now now Anon, first off we don't know that her problem stems from a religious source and he stated that they both have agreed to abstain until marriage and his post reads as though she has been agreeable to other sexual activities.

Without any further info I tend to think that maybe it has to do with a self conscience problem. Even I am still very self conscious at times when it comes to oral sex. There are lots of times my guy offers and I turn him down because I may not fell as fresh as I want to.

It may also be just something new to her that she's never thought about. I remember when I was young and inexperienced how the idea was rather yecky to me to.

But I will say that it doesn't make sense as to why she thinks giving to him is different .... there again it all may be her being self conscious.

It may also be as Caroline mentioned, we women, or a great number of us anyway are brought up in a way that make us believe that we are not supposed to be sexual beings.

But I will agree with you whole heartedly that sex is basically the cement in a relationship. This may be a good time for them to sit down and discuss their ideas on sex and get it all out in the open now.