[The Orbess]

Fr me porn is a 2 way street ,, no pun intended

I get off on knowing my partner is getting off, and the more my partner gets off, so Do I.

I like making noises, and doing all that pornstar **** cuz its fun, and it makes it a lot more interesting.

I suggest u try it as well.

Watch a porn together, then just start escalating....and just have fun!
Doing it with a porn on in the background is a lot more fun than you'd expect!

-The Orbess

[Uneeklyme]

touchy subject

Ive read through alot of the posts about porn. Seems there are many different reasons and many different outcomes. Alot of the time women find out their men watch porn and are hurt or shocked and then begin to question their own sexual prowess.

I am not saying porn can't be dangerous, addicting or fatal to a relationship. It can be as addicting as cigaretts or gambleing and just as devistating. However, often times I see that women go along thinking everything is great in their relationships until that fateful day when oops, they either find his stash or walk in on him wanking to a scene on a screen. In these cases, I don't understand why it changes a relationship so drastically. I mean, if he has a stash, its not the first time he looked at porn and everything was fine until it was found. Maybe it could be used as an opportunity to open the lines of communication a bit. Talk to him about it. Ask him what he likes about it. What he doesn't like about it. Maybe find something you could enjoy together. Get some ideas for positions or techniques.

My partner and I occasionally watch it together and separately. We also send each other little clips. What we think may be neat to try or a saw this and started thinking how much I would like to do that with you, cant wait till you get here type of thing. Stuff like that. I asked my partner what he liked about porn and he said its not about the porn stars, its about what they are doing and "when I watch it I dont think boy, I wish I was doing her. I think boy, I wish I was doing that with you"

Again, don't get me wrong... If real life gets put on the back burner its a problem that needs assistance.

[Private.Flangeamin]

Ive read through alot of the posts about porn. Seems there are many different reasons and many different outcomes. Alot of the time women find out their men watch porn and are hurt or shocked and then begin to question their own sexual prowess.

I am not saying porn can't be dangerous, addicting or fatal to a relationship. It can be as addicting as cigaretts or gambleing and just as devistating. However, often times I see that women go along thinking everything is great in their relationships until that fateful day when oops, they either find his stash or walk in on him wanking to a scene on a screen. In these cases, I don't understand why it changes a relationship so drastically. I mean, if he has a stash, its not the first time he looked at porn and everything was fine until it was found. Maybe it could be used as an opportunity to open the lines of communication a bit. Talk to him about it. Ask him what he likes about it. What he doesn't like about it. Maybe find something you could enjoy together. Get some ideas for positions or techniques.

My partner and I occasionally watch it together and separately. We also send each other little clips. What we think may be neat to try or a saw this and started thinking how much I would like to do that with you, cant wait till you get here type of thing. Stuff like that. I asked my partner what he liked about porn and he said its not about the porn stars, its about what they are doing and "when I watch it I dont think boy, I wish I was doing her. I think boy, I wish I was doing that with you"

Again, don't get me wrong... If real life gets put on the back burner its a problem that needs assistance.

Quote and when i watch it i dont think boy i wish i was doing it with her ect ect ...reality check ...WHY DO YOU THINK THEY WATCH IT boredom or lost interest in the person they are with ...shame women FALL for that lame excuse or perhaps they are kidding themselves up the facts are i did it all before and said pretty much the same as you said at the beginning in fact you may have been writing my words ....the fact is most women carnt deal with it because of jelousy ...sad ...but true for them

[Private.Flangeamin]

Quote and when i watch it i dont think boy i wish i was doing it with her ect ect ...reality check ...WHY DO YOU THINK THEY WATCH IT boredom or lost interest in the person they are with ...shame women FALL for that lame excuse or perhaps they are kidding themselves up the facts are i did it all before and said pretty much the same as you said at the beginning in fact you may have been writing my words ....the fact is most women carnt deal with it because of jelousy ...sad ...but true for them

Also i might add, and it is a fact , many women watch porn watch what the women are doing , fine get some tips if your not very good in bed and need something to spice it up but sadly many women see them doing anal ect and think they will emulate those women , lots of reasons for that ..it could be deep down they DONT WANT TO do it ..but are so insecure and afraid of losing the guy ..they will copy the porn he is watching . Either way that in my opinion is on the road to no-wheres-ville !! . A lot of women who do that stuff are different from your average woman but trying to be the porn star men will know the partner is doing it and just creates more tension and wont stop him viewing the porn . Theres lots of reasons they watch but if they watch on thier own they are relieving themself looking at another woman and they like what they see i think a lot of women need to understand that or if they are in doubt and feel they have to be copying everything they do ...to the point they get sick with anal problems or whatever else trying to do the same ...to try and please him its sad . But a lot of women are frightened to leave because they are scaredto stand on thier own two feet and take care of themselves and have confidence in thier body , whatever it looks like bad or good . I find it all quite sad ....i never needed porn in the times ive been seeing anybody and as far as i know they had porn before they met me , i say if it goes stale Move on ...and keep moving ...variety is the spice of life ...suspicious minds ...as ELVIS sang !! why bother

[Private.Flangeamin]

[quote=balor9003;36787]Hi!
I want to say one thing, porno help me to relax sometimes!!!
Therefore I made a web-site contented with porno, please estimate it and say what u think about it....
Thanks
[/quote]
Hi ...dont know if they allow you to keep the link on here but ...thanks ...good on you ...lets hope lots of women encourage the guys to go on it . Best wishes with that

[Uneeklyme]

remains a touch subject

Quote and when i watch it i dont think boy i wish i was doing it with her ect ect ...reality check ...WHY DO YOU THINK THEY WATCH IT boredom or lost interest in the person they are with ...shame women FALL for that lame excuse or perhaps they are kidding themselves up the facts are i did it all before and said pretty much the same as you said at the beginning in fact you may have been writing my words ....the fact is most women carnt deal with it because of jelousy ...sad ...but true for them

hm...maybe.
I actually choose to trust what my partner is saying when he tells me something. In three years, his actions have not shown his words to be lies. Especially since in many of his favorite clips you cant even see the players faces. Also, most are amateur meaning real people/couples not paid to perform. His absolute favorite (mine too for that matter) you cant even see the man or the womans face or much of their bodies and there is no genital to genital contact during the whole clip. I am the one that reaps the benefit of him being turned on. The more he is turned on the more I get mine. I by no means think he is bored of me. We have different libidos sure but when he comes to me and holds me and kisses me and tells me how much he wants me...When he lets me know on a daily basis that he desires me and its through his actions as well as his words... Im sure he is sincere and not just some man pig out for a joy ride. I accept that.

The reason I hear/read more than any other about women not wanting their men to watch porn seems to be that they think they should be enough for their man. The one an only. Women don't like to think that something or someone else could possibly turn their men on. It COULD be jealousy. I understand the concept but dont understand how it comes to pass. A man is who he is regardless of his relationship status. He doesnt stop thinking and feeling how he does just because a woman comes into his life. It would seem that he opens himself up to accept his partner as his priority and revels in her above all others but it doesnt change the fact that he is who he is or was when he met his partner.

Even with this opinion, it doesnt change the fact that if porn or any other type of behavior is hurtful or offensive it should be discussed. Maybe, as suggest by others, there can be some kind of compramise or agreement reached. If its out of control or if it is interfering with life and relationship it should be treated. Lots of communication, maybe some therapy, things of this nature.

I commend the OP for taking time to think about it. Stepping back to cautiously watch and wait to see how things go. Sometimes the initial knee jerk reaction exacerbates what could be a minor sit down and talk about it bump in the road.

[Uneeklyme]

the original

Hi!
I want to say one thing, porno help me to relax sometimes!!!
Therefore I made a web-site contented with porno, please estimate it and say what u think about it....
Thanks

outside links not allowed. Probably a good thing with some of the stuff that can be linked but frustrating if your wanting to direct someone to legitimate medical or cooking sites or things of this nature.

I did get to see your site. I personally like the original site the clips were taken from. There is alot of amateur stuff there. Many of the clips you compiled on your site are commercial porn. I personally dont like the commercial made for pay stuff. Its usually cheesy plots, cheesy background music and bad acting right down to they cant even pretend to be getting into it very well. I wind up laughing through the whole thing.

[rebellee47]

Uneeklyme

I did get to see your site. I personally like the original site the clips were taken from.

I would also like to see the original site? I keep getting different commericail sites each time I click on address can you give me the amatuer one that is not all the professional ****.....Lee

[lexi]

I don't understand why people make such a big deal out of porn. Porn isn't a problem unless you make it into one. Choose to be offended that your s/o is watching porn and then you have a problem..Don't be offended and voilà no more problem!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Is It A Fair Call To Say....

Not all women can lose their "inhibitions" in the bedroom with their partner. They hide behind themselves "but i am a nice girl" yet not realising that there is nothing wrong at all with letting go and being a real woman, with a loving partner, the exact opposite in fact.

Of course, i am talking about a strong bonded relationship, not a one night stand.

And, as such, "fear" steps in. Oh my .... I can't be like that!!!!!

As also a reason why some women can not fathom the thought of their man watching Porn.

She feels that she now has to "compete" in that department perhaps, which pertains a completely different picture than perhaps jealousy.

As she is not jealous that her husband/ long term partner may stray to another woman, but fear that she can not be that woman...

Fear plays a great part in our make up....

Now of course, you could say that that is still jealousy, of a different type but i would beg to differ and say it is more, timid natured, non adverterous experiences of letting her hair down a bit, and maybe no desire even to do so, hense her hatred for Porn.

I avoided this particular subject before, but now that i've watched a bit, due to the constant conversations, i actually don't mind it at all and would watch it with a partner, wouldn't care if he watched it either, providing we then continued to enjoy our own special journeys of discovery....

But like all, i will also state that if it was an addiction or replacement regardless of my persona having let go of my "inhibitions" with him well then, i would not like it at all and be that passionate woman stating so, and requesting that it stopped, or move on, if of course it wasn't my husband that i could try to work with it with him.. Alas, be ware, he'd have to be one hell of a guy for me to go down that path again, so i doubt he would be the later, rather the earlier

CW