[chaya]

I live with my husband and my girlfriend. I regularly have sex with both of them, not at the same time. My girlfriend is a lesbian and don't like men, but she gets along with my husband. My husband has always had a puritan attitude toward sex. He believes that sex is just vaginal penetration and not much else. I tell you this only because, lately he has learned new things. His approach to foreplay has definitely changed, for the better may I add. The way he stimulates me is very similar to things my girlfriend does and I wonder where he learned it. , The thought has crossed my mind that he learned them from my girlfriend. If that is the case, how did she teach him, have they had sex? Or did she just give him some pointers during proper conversation. The thought that he might be having sex with her does not make me angry. I would feel good if she decided to expand her horizons. As for him, if he is having sex with her, it might be a good thing that could bring us three closer together. Maybe someday it could reselt in a "threesom". I have long entertained this idea and have mentioned it to my girlfriend who rejected it. I'll just wait and see what develops and enjoy the sex.

[jns]

I'm happy to hear that your husband is getting better at looking after your needs. Whatever way is fine so long as he learns.

[Ashlee T.]

Maybe he's been watching some porn. I know many people say porn teaches bad sex and poor expectations but I have found that it depends on the kind you watch. The more amateur or homemade stuff is more true to life and I found it to be a good teaching tool and confidence builder. Maybe he's been wondering what your gf does for you that he can't, and so maybe he's been studying up a bit.

It's cool that you wouldn't be upset if they slept together, but I'd want some type of agreement with both of them that it not be kept a secret in the event something like that did happen. It would be the hiding and the deceit that would bother me most if that were the case.

[chaya]

I'm happy to hear that your husband is getting better at looking after your needs. Whatever way is fine so long as he learns.

If I had a webcam you could see the smile on my face.

[chaya]

Maybe he's been watching some porn. I know many people say porn teaches bad sex and poor expectations but I have found that it depends on the kind you watch. The more amateur or homemade stuff is more true to life and I found it to be a good teaching tool and confidence builder. Maybe he's been wondering what your gf does for you that he can't, and so maybe he's been studying up a bit.

It's cool that you wouldn't be upset if they slept together, but I'd want some type of agreement with both of them that it not be kept a secret in the event something like that did happen. It would be the hiding and the deceit that would bother me most if that were the case.

If he's been watching porn, he has really changed. He don't even like to watch some R rated movies.

Yes, if they were doing it behind my back I would be upset. I don't seriously believe they are having sex. She is 100% lesbian and I don't think she will ever have sex with a man.

[Ashlee T.]

Well, where do you think he learned it? If not porn, or your gf, maybe he's just feeling a bit more adventurous? Maybe he's feeling the need to step up his game a bit because he has the competition of your gf, sexually. You definitely have an interesting set up there. I'm glad it's working out well for you.

[Lexhill]

My guess would be he might have been in a conversation with your lady friend and picked up some pointers. For me I know I always try to find a better way to stimulate my SO.