[ClaireKay]

Have you joined one?
if so how was it?

I joined one this afternoon.
I heard from a few people already just looking for one night stands. Not sure yet if I'm going to respond.

[atskitty2]

Hi!

yes I have used several of the dating sites. They can be great tools for meeting people, but they do come with the concentrated mix of fools.
it takes a lot of patience, and assessment skills to make it worthwhile. There are lots of great people using them, and lots of great idiots to weed out in order to find them.

Exercise patience and discernment and have fun. Take everything with a light attitude.

Be safe, use good judgment and err on the side of caution always.

What sites are you using?

[macon]

Hi ClairKay. I have experience with a dating site, but from 2005-2006. However, I'm still with the woman I met then.

My partner dated quite a bit more than I and seemed pretty happy with it. I was pretty picky, but even so the women of my own choosing whom I dated were all misses. This is consistent with my life experience, which is that I make bad woman decisions, but it's also a limitation of meeting online. Women I felt good about turned out to inspire nothing in me when we met, and I didn't do it for them either. We were both trying to make good decisions in our conversations, but without face-to-face, physical presence, something crucial is lacking.

However, my partner contacted me, not I her, and I managed to have the good sense to respond. Our conversations were electric; it was mad love when we met. So maybe that's information to use: you may need to feel more than good about someone to expect them to excite you when you meet.

As a woman, I'm sure you'll get some unwanted and possibly vulgar attention. My partner once showed me a text she got from a guy she'd quit responding to months earlier. The message wasn't the sort of thing a man should send a woman he's not currently in a relationship with. She said she dealt with a fair amount of that sort of thing.

Good luck. Dating sites are exciting; I hope you enjoy yourself!

[ClaireKay]

I got together with 2 people I met via the dating sites.
I'm being careful and having fun.

[muffin70]

I met my wife through a dating site 18 years ago.... I'd been having a long distance relationship online with a woman in Alaska (I'm in New Zealand) and when that ended a friend in NZ suggested a dating website.
well 2 weeks later my future wife sent me a message.... and the rest is history as they say
what happened is she was at a friends place going through the dating website looking for a man and clicked on my profile and another mans profile. We met up for a coffee, then had another date and after that she said she didn't think I was the one.... but she was reading the book "women are from Venus - men are from Mars" and apparently in that book it says you should give a man at least 5 dates before deciding if they are the one.... so she did

[ClaireKay]

That's awesome! Happy for you.

I'm not looking for a relationship right now.
I just want one night stands every once in a while and threesomes.

[atskitty2]

Well if that is what you are looking for, you'll have no trouble finding it online! Plenty of men looking for just that

[ClaireKay]

I get quite a few responses on a daily basis.
I've only hooked up with a few people.

[macon]

Hi Clairkay,

If all you're looking for is sex, you're definitely on the right track with dating sites. I suppose the only real issues are safety and STDs, but if you're already having sex with people you found online, you must have solved those to your satisfaction. I envy you the simplicity of your life. Enjoy every minute of it.

Macon

[ClaireKay]

I took everything into consideration and I'm being very careful.