[Beeni]

Hi. I was just after some advice and/or opinions on my situation. I am 40 years old and married. I have a very high sex drive and have to masturbate usually at least 5 times a day. Is that excessive could someone pls tell me there thoughts. I can masturebate to orgasm 6 times in one session. I have always masturebated my whole life with my first memory doing it at probably 11 years old. My problem was just is I honestly can't help it. If it is a problem. I masturbate driving in my car. In the toilets. In my shed. Pretty much everywhere I can. I could be walking down the street and see a beautiful woman and I get a feeling in my penis that I need to come.
Does anyboby else need to mastutbate that often.
Many feedback would be appreciated. Thanks

[Stillness]

How does that affect your relationship with your wife?

[Beeni]

My wife knows I masturebate a lot. But she doesn't know exactly how often I do it. It has caused problems in the past but I've told her I have to do it. Accasionaly it still cause problems if i just start doing it in bed without trying for some sex OFF her first. But I usually know if she doesn't want sex and I need to help myself so I just do it.
My wife masturebates in front of me And has told me off some OFF her solo sessions. Which she knows drives me crazy because I wasn't there to watch. I really don't think it should be a problem to her at all because I want and need sexual relief more than her and as I have told her I'm masturbating on my own I'm not out trying to pick up

[Stillness]

I'm not an expert, but I think there's a big difference between and addiction and a high sex drive.

Addiction causes mental, physical, or social problems - often all of the above. Wanting to avoid those problems is often what motivates the person to want to change.

[atskitty2]

Is it interfering with your job?

Are you bothered by how frequently you have the urges?

[Beeni]

No it doesn't it doesn't really interfere with anything. I mean I can make myself cum really fast. But if I'm home alone or in the car somewhere secluded then it can take up a fair bit of my time because I can masturbate for hours. Even if I do cum. I just keep going. I can cum several times even in a short session.

[Beeni]

The only time it bothers me how often I get the urges is when I am unable to do it

[atskitty2]

Would you regularly prefer to masturbate over other hobbies, like basketball or building models?
In other words, is there balance in your life?

Seems like it's not a problem in any real way, but it seems like an unhealthy preoccupation. To me, any activities that monopolize our attention are not a healthy place to be in our life. Whether tennis, or our occupation, or sex, eating, etc. We all need balance mentally and in our activities.

[amy40]

your welcome....just the info I found

[Beeni]

Hi Amy40. I have many times gone a bit to far so to speak and taken skin off and yes it is very painful.
Even though I may have just cum a few times in succession I can usually continue masturbating and work myself up till I'm ready to cum again then just vary the speed and of stroking to hold off my orgasm. Then when I can't take it anymore I have found I can make orgasm 4,5 even orgasm 6 just as intense or more intense than the first one.
I can always reach orgasm with my wife. Usually to quickly. As during sex I am unable to control my timing.
Its not that I replace sex with my wife with my masturbating. It's just that I need regular relief.
I don't know if I have anxiety as such but I do have depression and I thought people with depression lost there sex drive. Thank you for your thoughts.