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Hello Lisa - i did actually make a comment yesterday - it was a lighthearted jokey comment, more just to say hi to Caro. But it was a serious question , so, id like to give a serious answer, my feelings on this.
Just speaking for myself, i dont and have never seen oral sex a woman giving this to a man as any different as intercourse , what i mean is , i dont see this as a separate act , or i should say for me , its part of one . It has never been something i have consciously 'thought' about doing as in should i do this now, or would he like this ect ...i have just done this anyway ...the reason is ...and i did think until reading all these posts that EVERY woman just did this as it was just a natural thing to do, that almost without thinking it was automatic , if you understand what im saying . If you are atttracted to somebody its a natural desire . When i was with a partner i was very attracted to, that i wanted to have sex with its just automatic , somethimes almost im not realizing im doing it until i am .
I do it because i want to do it and normally id do it for an hour plus , i dont know , partly because i dont realize the time has passed , and parly because i have been the instigator and also i think its not worth doing unless its done for an hour and half or as long as possible , until i was ready for sex...sometimes if the man is tired , i mean hes been working its nice for them if you do it until they are so relaxed they fall asleep ...its a nice relaxation for them ..also its nicer if its anywhere else BUT the bedroom ...its a little bit more exciting .

But, reading the stuff i have been reading , i now see not all women like to do it , i honestly really just thought for all of us it was just a natural want and part of "one" act ...it would be hard to comprehend if somebody told me dont do it ever again , it would feel like id just lost a limb ! i wouldnt think it was worth ever making love again.

I understand you say, i dont like it or its not really for you ...the only thing i can say is , expalin to your partner ...i dont want you to be hurt over this ..(his feelings) but i carnt explain but i just feel uncomfortable...as its best if that is your gut reaction when you think about it , to go with what you feel and dont do it .

But i am surprised as i thought it was just automatic with all women that they did it and part of one thing . But everybodys different . Anyway ...thought id add a few comments .
Regards
Catherine

Hi Catherine:

I am sorry but I did not see the other post...Now I did and have read it.... I love this Forum but so often I cannot keep up with the posting...I believe for two retired people, our life is so busy that it is a joke...Maybe that is what keeps the heat rising with us..

I enjoyed reading your post...It is difficult for me being able to comprehend just giving any man oral sex. I have only had one in my life who I have done this with and truly given myself to....This is both good and bad...The itch is always there of what would it have been like with another man, but then my husband scratches it and I float that thought to the back of my mind and calm down...This is just the way I am..

Like you have noted, many, many women do not like giving oral sex to a man. If you ever have a spare moment, notice the lurkers who read and watch our posts. Many of these are women who have not done this and are more than curious. Many of these are women who no longer have a man and wish to God that they had done this when they were young and had the chance....Many of these women will pass on never knowing the thrill of a man coming in their mouth or the power of this hot pleasure of being the receptacle of all that he is as the warmth of his ejaculate thrills you....This is the true sadness in life...I guess this is why I glow with the happiness of such complete sexual pleasuring as these are the things that bring me alive...

My position with my husband is different than most women....Even after all these years he is putty in my hands....There is no long drawn out pleasuring of a blow job...I am aware of what I possess as a sexual woman that can tempt like a snake....Even after all these years, I, like many other women, possess the power of youth...To put it delicately, with the right words and the proper strokes, he can explode from my touch.....

I love being like this...I love being in the position where I can make him my Master...I love my Master standing over me with his rod of life waving in front of me...I play my own mind game as I will plead for him to enter me....Plunge yourself into me...Give me all of you that there is....Fill me with all that you desire....Unfortunately for me this does not happen very often....He thinks this is disrepect so I must make myself the type of woman that he will play in the mud with for this to happen....But when I do, believe me, it is wild....

Unfortuntely, so many women cannot do this.....They want to and they struggle to get past that place of passion that blocks them.....To have the taste of a lover's manhood in your mouth and bring it to life is power......Not bad power but good power......It can be the power of making him happy.......The power of getting past your own inhibitions or in my case.............The power of giving him back his youth.....

Take Care, Caro

[Uneeklyme]

Shave, or at least trim. In a way I agree that there's no need in bickering, but if people aren't getting what they want and repress it, then it will manifest itself in other ways - such as a long-term deep seeded annoyance/malcontent.

I agree. This also goes two ways. Demanding one do what they don't want to when there is a choice can have the same outcome.

Have you ever tried licking vagina? Not that I don't enjoy it, but I'll list some of the things that suck about it. Getting short hairs in your face, they can itch to hell. Taste can be unpleasant, depending on what they've eaten. You're tongue gets SERIOUSLY tired. To the point of being numb and about to fall off, while your womans saying: "ooh, yeah, don't stop, mmm, just a bit more". And so because that's not as good as playing frisbee, I'm never to do it again? Give me a break, people do things that they don't enjoy. People do their jobs, but who actually enjoys them?

Yes, as a matter of fact, I am bisexual. A job, weather you like it or not, cannot compare to giveing a blow job. You risk losing your job where your duties are governed by someone else. Your actions (doing what your told or not) determin weather you keep that job or not which is decided by someone else. I guess if demanding a BJ is that important as to potententially risk ones sex life or marriage then more power to them.

I've tried my own, and maybe I'm a freak or something but I think it's nice. Dealing out commands which are worse than the bible just to swallow some spunk? Quit smoking/drinking/meat/tea? Oh come on!

I was GENERALISING some things a man can do to make it more appealing for her. Why wouldnt a man do what he could to make her WANT to do it? The things I mentioned are scientific facts that make the taste of "spunk" more appealing. Taste and texture are important factors when it comes to swallowing. Cudos to you for tasting your own.

It's nice, deeper is better. There's no need to try if you don't want to? Maybe, if you don't want to do what you can to please your partner, you shouldn't even be in a sexual relationship.

Not everyone can deep throat. Some people cant even brush their teeth without gagging. Some people just physically cannot take it all the way in so whats the point. I do believe I was encouraging to try and try again. Try different things if what your doing isnt working. I was simply stating some compramise. A generalisation and nothing personal. Isnt that what the OP was asking for? I PERSONALLY believe I should do what I can to please my partner but this was not about me personally. I personally could suck a golf ball through a garden hose, swallow and go back for seconds all with a smile on my face. I personally love oral, giving and receiving but again, not what the OP was asking for.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Yes, as a matter of fact, I am bisexual. A job, weather you like it or not, cannot compare to giveing a blow job. You risk losing your job where your duties are governed by someone else. Your actions (doing what your told or not) determin weather you keep that job or not which is decided by someone else. I guess if demanding a BJ is that important as to potententially risk ones sex life or marriage then more power to them.

I'd say that if my partner hated giving me blowjobs, then yes, I would find another partner who didn't. Life's too short to sacrifice your own happiness for other peoples mental problems.

I was GENERALISING some things a man can do to make it more appealing for her. Why wouldnt a man do what he could to make her WANT to do it? The things I mentioned are scientific facts that make the taste of "spunk" more appealing. Taste and texture are important factors when it comes to swallowing. Cudos to you for tasting your own.

Why wouldn't a man do all of those things? Because the difference will be small, and the negative impact to his life would be massive. No meat? That sucks, seriously. The worst reason to become a vegitarian ever. No tea? That's ludicrous, nobody can take my tea away from me. No alcohol and no smoking? I've pretty much quit both of them at the moment, but they're VERY important to many people. An unreasonable demand entirely. Way to drain the fun out of life. Pineapple juice is the only acceptable one in your list... If someone's got that much of a mental problem with something they should in my opinion enjoy anyway, there's no need to radically alter your lifestyle for the worse to pander to them.

Not everyone can deep throat. Some people cant even brush their teeth without gagging. Some people just physically cannot take it all the way in so whats the point. I do believe I was encouraging to try and try again. Try different things if what your doing isnt working. I was simply stating some compramise. A generalisation and nothing personal. Isnt that what the OP was asking for?

I know not everyone can deep throat, and that's fine, really. It's not really fine if they have no intention of even trying, or of learning though.

[Private.Flangeamin]

Hi Catherine:

I am sorry but I did not see the other post...Now I did and have read it.... I love this Forum but so often I cannot keep up with the posting...I believe for two retired people, our life is so busy that it is a joke...Maybe that is what keeps the heat rising with us..

I enjoyed reading your post...It is difficult for me being able to comprehend just giving any man oral sex. I have only had one in my life who I have done this with and truly given myself to....This is both good and bad...The itch is always there of what would it have been like with another man, but then my husband scratches it and I float that thought to the back of my mind and calm down...This is just the way I am..

Like you have noted, many, many women do not like giving oral sex to a man. If you ever have a spare moment, notice the lurkers who read and watch our posts. Many of these are women who have not done this and are more than curious. Many of these are women who no longer have a man and wish to God that they had done this when they were young and had the chance....Many of these women will pass on never knowing the thrill of a man coming in their mouth or the power of this hot pleasure of being the receptacle of all that he is as the warmth of his ejaculate thrills you....This is the true sadness in life...I guess this is why I glow with the happiness of such complete sexual pleasuring as these are the things that bring me alive...

My position with my husband is different than most women....Even after all these years he is putty in my hands....There is no long drawn out pleasuring of a blow job...I am aware of what I possess as a sexual woman that can tempt like a snake....Even after all these years, I, like many other women, possess the power of youth...To put it delicately, with the right words and the proper strokes, he can explode from my touch.....

I love being like this...I love being in the position where I can make him my Master...I love my Master standing over me with his rod of life waving in front of me...I play my own mind game as I will plead for him to enter me....Plunge yourself into me...Give me all of you that there is....Fill me with all that you desire....Unfortunately for me this does not happen very often....He thinks this is disrepect so I must make myself the type of woman that he will play in the mud with for this to happen....But when I do, believe me, it is wild....

Unfortuntely, so many women cannot do this.....They want to and they struggle to get past that place of passion that blocks them.....To have the taste of a lover's manhood in your mouth and bring it to life is power......Not bad power but good power......It can be the power of making him happy.......The power of getting past your own inhibitions or in my case.............The power of giving him back his youth.....

Take Care, Caro

Hi Caroline - i loved reading your post and im wish i was a good with words as you are ...i truely thought the words the MASTER standing over me with his rod of life ..really did hit the spot ...and im sure that many women reading will say...thats exactly what i was thinking but didnt have the courage to say it ...thank you for those true words
of enlightnment and wisdom ...

I dont think there is much more i can add to your post ...you have truley spoken for the oral lovers of the world ...i do think you are right many womendo miss out and caro, ive got no idea why they feel they wouldnt want to...its just natural ...in latter posts on this thread deep throat is mentioned ...it does cause alarm for some ladies at the thought but i dont know why ...all it is is relaxing your throat ...and deadsimple ...but i dont know if its just me but i do like to takesome time over the matter, i mean till a man is finished and hopefully NOT asleep whilst i am doing it and fortunately that has never happend ...caro you are better posting on sexual matters than a mere novice such as myself and your postings are and always will have a profound affect on our lives ...not to mention teach us some wonderful ways of loving and giving ...and things like that ....THanks

Take care , catherine x

[C]

When I was younger, maybe in my 40's, my interest in sexualality changed...The only problem with this is that my husband was growing older and I was just opening up.....I believe this is true of many women and not just me.....Maybe it has something to do with menopause....Women in their 40's that are hot to trot, and I can speak of many women that have written me....It is like a bubble is bursting inside them and they cannot learn enough about sex and what they do not know they are willing to learn. I can tell stories of women in their 50's who advertise in the newspapers for companionship....These are nice women but hornier than heck...Same goes into their 60's....They will blow a man just like that....They would love the chance but where were they years ago....???????

This is the one thing in life that puzzles me....I had to do all these things...Wanted to try anal....Needed to be completed.....Now being all these places in life and wild and satisfied in life and doing all that I have done, I am proudly the happiest woman in the world and still want more...

It is that giant step that they have to take to let loose....They want to but are scared....Maybe "Mommie's" words are in the back of their minds...I am sure that the same fear lurks at many ages in life.....The older just don't suppress it any longer......Not that much time left so they let it all hang out......And I guess I am the leader of the pack......TC, C

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Hi Caroline - i loved reading your post and im wish i was a good with words as you are ...i truely thought the words the MASTER standing over me with his rod of life ..really did hit the spot ...and im sure that many women reading will say...thats exactly what i was thinking but didnt have the courage to say it ...thank you for those true words
of enlightnment and wisdom ...

I dont think there is much more i can add to your post ...you have truley spoken for the oral lovers of the world ...i do think you are right many womendo miss out and caro, ive got no idea why they feel they wouldnt want to...its just natural ...in latter posts on this thread deep throat is mentioned ...it does cause alarm for some ladies at the thought but i dont know why ...all it is is relaxing your throat ...and deadsimple ...but i dont know if its just me but i do like to takesome time over the matter, i mean till a man is finished and hopefully NOT asleep whilst i am doing it and fortunately that has never happend ...caro you are better posting on sexual matters than a mere novice such as myself and your postings are and always will have a profound affect on our lives ...not to mention teach us some wonderful ways of loving and giving ...and things like that ....THanks

Take care , catherine x

Honey thank you for such kind words...When I get with the program with my husband that is how I love to act....That is such a wonderful part of hot sex....A man eats it up and as he does it excites the woman and makes everything wonderful.....My worse problem is he is older and cannot ejaculate like the young men can...With that in mind he holds back so that we can have a lot of sex....And let me tell you he is good at it... Actually he has mastered it...He, too, is a sick puppy...

One of the most erotic things I did to my husband and I will never forget happened last year...I laid in his arms after we had been sexual...As I looked down at him I wanted to suck him and clean him off....I had never done this after sex before but again this new found wild animal that I am needed to clean off her man...I was both embarrassed to think this yet dying to do it....So with this in mind I kicked the embarrassed part of me out of bed and got up and leaned over him and licked and sucked him off from his anus to his pubic hair...As I cleaned him and swallowed he would stroke my hair and I could feel his eyes looking at me with such tenderness.....I laid in his arms afterwards and we kissed.....I don't think that we have ever been any closer than we were at that time............I think of it often......I have repeated it more than a few times.......But nothing quite like the first.....

Thank you again.......Your words meant much to me.....You know it is not easy being this age in life yet not this age.....I am lost somewhere in time......BUT I just plain love it.....Take Care, Caroline

[Fallen1]

I'd say that if my partner hated giving me blowjobs, then yes, I would find another partner who didn't. Life's too short to sacrifice your own happiness for other peoples mental problems.

Since when is someone not liking to give blow jobs considered a mental problem?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Caroline
It is like a bubble is bursting inside them and they cannot learn enough about sex and what they do not know they are willing to learn.

Where were they years ago?

Who can answer that....

You know, i truly believe it has everything to do with "knowledge"... as much as being older and wanting more out of life.

If viewed in a completely different sphere, one of understanding not " dirty" as some feel i am sure, then the hunger for knowledge results in action, which results in more hunger for knowledge and more action....

I also wonder if it takes a " good man" to bring it out... Not pertaining to my experience, rather, a lot of men don't get it, a woman that is, what you bring out in her, you can receive 10 fold?

Mmm...

Food for thought.

CW

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Where were they years ago?

Not ready.....Newer and bolder world around them now...Maybe their spouse has died and they are realizing what they have missed and want a piece of the action...Where was I ???????????????

Who can answer that....

Each one of us women out there reading this must answer for themselves.....Do I want to sit and watch and wonder what it feels like or am I going to venture into the bedroom and give my husband oral and shock the holy living hell out of him??? Do I want to wonder when I am older than I am now how it feels to have a finger stuck in my anus????? Do I want to look at him when he is 75 and wonder why I didn't kiss his balls?? Or am I going to be like that big mouth broad on the Women's Health Forum that is having the time of her life and is in her second childhood???? Forgot to tell you...My drink of choice is Diet Pepsi.....From as much as I have drank in my lifetime, not only should I own part of the company but should weigh 5 pounds......

You know, i truly believe it has everything to do with "knowledge"... as much as being older and wanting more out of life.

Nope, you could have given me all this knowledge far earlier in life but until I was ready to rock and roll I would not have cut the mustard.....I had to find the adventuresome me CW, just as you are finding the feisty you.....You are getting daring and I am a lost cause so we will not talk about me....

If viewed in a completely different sphere, one of understanding not " dirty" as some feel i am sure, then the hunger for knowledge results in action, which results in more hunger for knowledge and more action....

But how do you do that when your mind tells you that it is dirty to do that....Me of all people....This classy lady going in the kitchen and unzipping his pants and while he is putting the dishes in the dishwasher sucking him off.....That used to be dirty in my books....Now it is a heck of a lot of fun....Years ago he played with my boobs all the time....Where was I????? Heck I didn't even play with his boobs but he would not have let me anyway but I should have played with something....I was a taker and not a giver....Selfish as all get out....BUT I have changed....

I also wonder if it takes a " good man" to bring it out... Not pertaining to my experience, rather, a lot of men don't get it, a woman that is, what you bring out in her, you can receive 10 fold?

And that is what I have got...A wonderful and sexual, hot, great looking hunk of manhood that left a woman waiting at a motel for him to bed down... I just plain adore him. So often I think of this woman who wanted him....I have a lot of fun with this, like this afternoon in bed when I not only am the hot sexual me but put a little added spice in it for her......So my husband does not know it but he has two women in bed with him......CW, between you and I, she makes me feel so young....

Now you have fun on the 30th..

Food for thought.

No more thinking, I am going to bed.....xox C

CW

ixox ufufy

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I am sorry.....This was put here just for effect so that I could read what I wrote...Now I forgot to take that off too....I am sorry Little....Just a case of hardening of the arteries....