[Richard S]

Caroline,

I never said it wasn't a delicate line, but it's what happens on that line that makes all the difference.

At some point you have to agree that words on an Internet message board can never express what happens in those intimate moments, that there is an element of the intangible that determines which way things will go between any two people.

I don't want the men who read this forum to come away with the idea that you just need to be a domineering jerk if your wife or girlfriend won't go down on you - that advice will backfire about 99% of the time. I'm also not saying to the women to just treat it like a chore.

What I'm saying is to acknowledge that yes, it's a delicate line, but don't be afraid to explore that line and push your boundaries every now and then.

This is a serious issue. It can make or break marriages.

And... that's all I'm gonna say in this thread.

[C]

I more than anyone realize what a serious issue this can be....BUT I also know that if a woman is forced to do this and she does not want to that she will not....She will let the marriage go to hell......I know.....I was that woman.....Unless she can accept and want this delicate part of the sexual side of marriage, she will not embrace it.....She will gag and puke but it cannot be forced. Even if it is a birthday gift......With a condom on she will but she must find that freedom inside herself to be that woman that all women want to be but can't..........You think I don't know how marriages are going to the dogs.....I believe if a man insists on being blown and swallowed he is a fool.......Let her wait until she is ready for this......

I will stick up for all my sister women and say don't swallow unless you want to....I do and have but it sure does not turn me on nor my husband.....I will suck him all day and clean him off after we have sex from his balls to his navel and swallow him but he does not want to cum in my mouth as he thinks it is an insult to me as a woman......I have done this but it took me many years to accomplish this.....Now I am a joke....but I cannot change my yesterday's.......

If early in our marriage my husband said either you swallow me or we are done, I would have closed the door softly behind him with a lot of hurt......Now being this older and sexually matured woman that I am, I am ready for it....but not when I was young.....You are an older man and speak as an older man and I, too, speak with my experience of aging and knowing the true sexuality of a woman.......

[rcoreyus]

If the man really likes it, it is worth doing your best - assuming he does his best to please you. You may even find that after a few times the novelty wears off for him, and he only wants it occcasionally.

He should never ever force or pressure you - but if you know he wants it, please try. Otherwise he may feel his is missing something and be tempeted to find it elsewhere. It is easy for something like this to take on an enormous importance.

All this assumes that he is as willing to do anything you want.

I say this because I am a guy. Even when we had sex regularly, my wife wouldn't do oral. I found it frustrating beyond all reason. I didn't pressure her -just asked maybe once a year or so (and she'd agree once every 5 years or so), but somehow the lack became very important to me.

[C]

I am encouraging all women to do oral sex on their husband's...It is one of the most erotic acts of sexual passion that there is.....I did this within a few years into our marriage and it got better as I matured into being a sexual woman....Swallowing for many, many younger women is a big problem....This is not showing it's face on this Forum but it is very big....Believe me I get many letters about this....I don't believe that if a woman does not swallow that it should send a man out to find another woman....If it does, then he is not worth it......

A woman matures in her 30's and 40's...From the time of "Deep Throat" the true sexual meaning of oral sex and blowing a man became turned upside down....A hot erotic act of sexual love and passion between two lovers, became something that just a casual relationship was supposed to do....Many women resented it and nowadays you are seeing some of the results of this happening of years ago....

I love performing oral sex on my husband....At least five time this year I have offered to blow him. I did not do this out of duty, but out of sexual hunger for taking in every part of him. When the sexual passion between two people is so hot that you let the animal in you loose, you want to do this... I readily admit that I am that animal....This is just the way that I am.......I am sure to some women this may sound sick, but to a woman that is in such sexual want for all of her husband, it is erotic...

All of who and what I am is a result of a husband that did not push. Instead he loved and nurtured me and brought me on to be the woman that I am....If a man does oral sex on a woman I believe a woman should definitely do oral sex on a man..........It is showing him that you love his body as much as he loves yours....TC, C

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Also, not being comfortable with giving a blowjob basically says that you dislike penises and don't actually enjoy his "manhood", which is essentially the most important part of sex for a woman (in terms of satisfying her man).

Get in tune with his penis, learn to love it like we do, play with him, experiment, and if it's not too much to ask, even learn to enjoy his spunk! I mean, if I was a woman, I'd love it, I couldn't get enough. And it's representative of so much more than the actual physicality of it.

[C]

I do want to add one thing to my post...If my husband stood in front of me and asked me to blow him this would really not do it for me....BUT if I was the one deep in passion and sexual want where this act of love was the defining passion to fulfill the want in me I would and have done this...Looking at myself as I write this I now realize that I and I alone was the catalyst in bringing on this hot sexual union.....That is heavy....

[C]

Also, not being comfortable with giving a blowjob basically says that you dislike penises and don't actually enjoy his "manhood", which is essentially the most important part of sex for a woman (in terms of satisfying her man).

Get in tune with his penis, learn to love it like we do, play with him, experiment, and if it's not too much to ask, even learn to enjoy his spunk! I mean, if I was a woman, I'd love it, I couldn't get enough. And it's representative of so much more than the actual physicality of it.

No truer words were ever spoken......I am at this crazy older age and understand more about each of our sexual body's now then I ever have....

We women do not know a man's body and not knowing it are just plain afraid to venture....

Now I have to get out of here before I lose my happy home...TC, C

[onyx_rose7145]

Use a flavored condom, or flavored lube....you could also take a shower together and right after he washes his member, is when you can suck him off....in the shower is so kinky and he can cum on your boobs, but you're in the shower so all you need to do is wash it off!!

Okay after reading this I thought it might help me out a bit and I surprised him by going down on him in the shower. Which I havent given him oral in forever. But this seriously helped just to know that we were squeaky clean and all. I just might surprise him a little more often thanks

[hello_pitty]

You're very welcome!! I know this helps when he's feeling like oral but i'm not really...he knows that if he hops in the shower and invites me in he'll get it because he's so nice and clean and it actually tastes good (his member not the cum) He just knows me really good!!

[Uneeklyme]

I agree. One has to be willing to at least give it a try. A real try with best effort put into it before stating like or dislike. Its not like spam where you can taste it and walk away and never have to face it again. Sometimes trying it more than once helps too. Different situations such as trying it in the shower like onyx_rose before me may make you think a little differently. Also, taking steps to make it as appealing as possible is a plus. Shave if that helps. Be clean. Be encouraging, not demanding. If the answer is no, whats the sense in starting a fight about it. There is so much time wasted on bickering when other things could be done. I believe this applies to women as well especially if they would like oral sex performed on them.

I dont understand why if a woman is obviously not enjoying it or doing it out of some duty, gagging or whatever through the whole experience, a man would even want her to do it again.

As far as swallowing, its my opinion that a man should taste and feel "spunk" in his mouth before he dare demand it from a woman. Sometimes it does taste bad. Alot of the taste is govened by what the man eats, drinks, does he smoke, alcohol consumption... If he wants her to swallow then he should do his part and keep it tasty as possible by avoiding alcohol, dont smoke, drink pinapple juice, dont eat meat, no caffiene. Sound fun? As far as the texture...liken it to a warm, raw egg. Its warm and slimey. Some people just cannot deal with that texture.

Most of the good feel is in the head of the penis. There really is no reason to shove that thing down her throat nor any reason to try and swallow the whole thing unless you want to. Use your hands on the base and his testicles while you lick and suck the head. Its an alternative anyway and might be a good compramise.

I also agree that getting in tune with your partners genitals is a must. Learn to please, tease and play. Dont be afraid to touch or examine. Get comfortable with them. Enjoy them to their fullest potential.