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  • Helpmexx69
    Junior Member
    • Jun 2017
    • 5

    No desire or urge

    I haven't had the desire to have sex sex in almost 2 years this is the Longest I've gone without having sex or even masturbating since I can remember but before this dry spell I would have considered my self nympho. I wanted kinky sex all day every day and now I can't get wet at all even when I mentally want and I have no luck with any over the counter lubes. I want to but my body won't allow me have sex
  • pastelcarly
    Member
    • Jun 2017
    • 25

    Are you on any medications? A very common side effect of some meds like birth control or anti depressants is low to no sex drive, but its worth looking into with any meds you may be on.

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    • Helpmexx69
      Junior Member
      • Jun 2017
      • 5

      Yes unfortunately. But this started before the medicine was even a factor

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      • Ashlee T.
        Veteran Member
        • Dec 2008
        • 6412

        Are you on birth control?
        "Be what you're looking for."

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        • Helpmexx69
          Junior Member
          • Jun 2017
          • 5

          Mo after the first year of not being sexually active I determined there was no reason for me to stay on it

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          • Helpmexx69
            Junior Member
            • Jun 2017
            • 5

            No * after the first year of not being sexually active I determined there was no reason for me to stay on it

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            • Ashlee T.
              Veteran Member
              • Dec 2008
              • 6412

              Hmm. It's very likely an imbalance of some sort, and it may be resulting from a low level of vitamin or something. I'd go get a physical done including a full blood panel where they check vitamin b, iron, a1c, vitamin d, etc.
              "Be what you're looking for."

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              • WaveRider
                Veteran Member
                • Mar 2017
                • 701

                Good Morning, Helpmexx69,

                Please make an appt wit your ob/gyn right away. Your lack of sex drive could be a symptom of an illness.

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                • Helpmexx69
                  Junior Member
                  • Jun 2017
                  • 5

                  I get a physical and blood work every six months along with the ob Apts. And I've been to 3 ob/gyns and after the blood work comes back they say have more foreplay and use lube and it doesn't help in at my wits end.

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                  • atskitty2
                    Assistant Admin
                    • Aug 2013
                    • 4467

                    I presume they checked your hormones at some point in all this?
                    What is your age? Exactly how long has this been going on?

                    Do you have a stressful lifestyle or job?

                    Think back to when this change started: Was there any changes or events just prior to the decrease in sexual function?

                    Are you with a regular partner and how is that relationship?
                    Why such frequent lab work? Is it due to this issue or is there another health issue being monitored?

                    What exactly do you mean by, your body won't allow you to have sex?
                    And what do you mean when you say lubes don't work?

                    Eta: Wow... Sorry for the drilling questions
                    Last edited by atskitty2; 06-29-2017, 11:40 AM.
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