[Rommi]

My partner says I'm too sexually inexperienced and awkward for him. He's always pushing me into things I'm not comfortable with. It causes a lot of tension between us. I'm 31 but I don't have the experience that the other women he sees has. I don't like masturbating in front of him, not into swinging and threesomes. I hate watching porn. It all feels dirty and wrong to me. He is patient for the most part but sometimes he gets so angry with me. He tries to make me comfortable but I freeze up. Any advice would be useful.

Thanks

[jns]

It sounds like there is a mismatch between the two of you when it comes to sex. Doing new things sexually should always be at the pace that the learner is comfortable with and consents to. Personally, I believe that threesomes and swinging can be disastrous in relationships that are not super stable.

Why are you with this particular guy? What about him are the reasons that you are with him?

[Rommi]

He very sweet and affectionate. We have a lot of interests that aren't sexual in nature.

[jns]

He very sweet and affectionate. We have a lot of interests that aren't sexual in nature.

Will you be able to live with him pressuring you to follow his fantasies? Will he be able to live without you going along with his fantasies?

[WaveRider]

It sounds like there is a mismatch between the two of you when it comes to sex. Doing new things sexually should always be at the pace that the learner is comfortable with and consents to. Personally, I believe that threesomes and swinging can be disastrous in relationships that are not super stable.

Why are you with this particular guy? What about him are the reasons that you are with him?

I agres 1 million percent.

[amy40]

sometimes he gets so angry with me.

The anger would bother me.

[checkers]

Sounds like you are not a good match sexually. There is nothing wrong with you not liking those things (I don't either), but there is nothing wrong with him having certain preferences. Where I see issue is you feeling pressured to what HE likes. It needs to be give and take and if there are hard NOs, those must be respected and move onto someone more compatible.

[WaveRider]

Sexual incompatibility causes dysfunctional relationships. I've written a lot of my g/f's extreme sexual incompatibility in her marriage that was a cause of her divorce. She was sexually experienced. He thought great sex was mounting her, getting off, and rolling off of her.

[WaveRider]

The anger would bother me.

I agree with this 1 million percent.

There should be no anger involved. There should be open, honest communication.

In all new relationships, there should come a point (sooner the better) where couples discuss what they like and don't like between sheets. There should be no judgments.

For some reason, some men seem to be afraid to discuss sex with their wives/girlfriends. Men would be surprised what their wives/girlfriends would say if they asked and their trusted their husbands/boyfriends. Many women are extremely sexually adventurous. Remember: no judgments.