[Texasred]

If women's pubic hair were harmful, I'd of died before I graduated from high school.

Now that there's funny, I don't care who y'are!
:-)

[Texasred]

So my my girlfriend and I are happy with our sexual lives except for the fact that she cannot reach an orgasm.

Tim, I feel your pain!
First question: Can she bring herself to orgasm?
If so, have her show you; this may require some persuasion on your part, this is an intensely personal thing, but you might learn from what she does, but more importantly, it might teach her to relax and let go in your presence.

[WaveRider]

Hi Jessa1998,

It's been extremely hot & humid in So Cal, not weather we're accustomed to enjoying. On the positive side, there were a lot of bikinis on So Cal beaches yesterday. I'd swear: women oughta just go naked. What they wear covers not a whole lot.

Yesterday I took my g/f out for a light dinner. She was doing chardonnay & I was doing ice-cold draft deer.

Without going long on specifics, she had a solid seven body-shaking orgasms. She loves her breasts sucked, especially her nipples, so I did for as long as she could hold out before demanding sexual release. With her naked body beneath me and her legs spread, she looked up at right hand as I applied silicon lube on my middle finger. I could see anticipation all over her face. She knew my middle finger was going deep into her butt. She made it easy for anal digital harmony. Her vajayjay was drenched. I easily inserted my index finger deep enough into her vajayjay to massage her ridges. I used my left hand to expose her swollen clit. By the time I got around to playing tongue music on her swollen labia, she was squirming. I sucked her clit into my mouth and massaged her swollen clit to an explosive orgasm. I let her rest with my motionless fingers still inside her butt and vajayjay. When her eyes opened, I did it again to another massive orgasm. When I returned from washing my fingers, I went down on her again. That was three. I flipped her over onto her hands and knees, gave her a few slaps on her butt, told her to put me inside of her, dirty talked her, she told me she wanted her harder, I banged her as hard as I could until I left a lot of me inside of her.

We rested while watching a movie. My fingers found her clit for two more orgasms. About twenty minutes later, I tongue musiced her to orgasm twice more for a total of seven. She'd of been good for more, but she couldn't spend the night.

I never count, but I did last night just for you. She had seven intense orgasms although her first is usually the most explosive.

Jessa, if you have a b/f, let him play tongue music on your clit. If he doesn't know the tune, teach him. If he's unwilling to learn, find a new boyfriend.

I can't remember dating a woman who wasn't multi-orgasmic. My ex-wife used to tell me to get my head between her legs & she'd tell me when I was done.

BTW, my g/f hasn't done bush work in a while, probably due to the weather. Her bush always looks incredibly sexy, sometimes more sexy than other times. I've even shaved her bikini line for her. The point is full bush, trimmed and groomed bush, or no bush, the right tongue music performed with digital harmony will coax a whole lotta orgasms outta women. Whether a woman has a bush or how it might look as nothing to do with tongue music performed with digital harmony.

My g/f has had anal sex before, but not with me. She does like anal stimulation. I was going to buy a butt plug for her, but she prefers digital harmony.

She wants to make a porn video with us as porn stars. But I don't know of a professional who does porn videos for couples. It seems like it would be a profitable line of work.

[Jessa1998]

It sounds like you have not been with someone who has been willing to make it all about you for a session. That is probably related to doing hookups instead of being in a longer term relationship (including some friends with benefits relationships.) With a hookup, everybody is trying to get theirs

I haven't ever been in a long term relationship... i'm pretty young remember!! I've had a few boyfriends but it always falls apart really fast usually because he's an asshat or because i cheat or both. I mostly had decided to stick w/ hookups but your making me think about that some more!

[Jessa1998]

Hi Jessa1998,

It's been extremely hot & humid in So Cal, not weather we're accustomed to enjoying. On the positive side, there were a lot of bikinis on So Cal beaches yesterday. I'd swear: women oughta just go naked. What they wear covers not a whole lot.



Without going long on specifics, she had a solid seven body-shaking orgasms. She loves her breasts sucked, especially her nipples, so I did for as long as she could hold out before demanding sexual release. With her naked body beneath me and her legs spread, she looked up at right hand as I applied silicon lube on my middle finger. I could see anticipation all over her face. She knew my middle finger was going deep into her butt. She made it easy for anal digital harmony. Her vajayjay was drenched. I easily inserted my index finger deep enough into her vajayjay to massage her ridges. I used my left hand to expose her swollen clit. By the time I got around to playing tongue music on her swollen labia, she was squirming. I sucked her clit into my mouth and massaged her swollen clit to an explosive orgasm. I let her rest with my motionless fingers still inside her butt and vajayjay. When her eyes opened, I did it again to another massive orgasm. When I returned from washing my fingers, I went down on her again. That was three. I flipped her over onto her hands and knees, gave her a few slaps on her butt, told her to put me inside of her, dirty talked her, she told me she wanted her harder, I banged her as hard as I could until I left a lot of me inside of her.

We rested while watching a movie. My fingers found her clit for two more orgasms. About twenty minutes later, I tongue musiced her to orgasm twice more for a total of seven. She'd of been good for more, but she couldn't spend the night.

I never count, but I did last night just for you. She had seven intense orgasms although her first is usually the most explosive.

Jessa, if you have a b/f, let him play tongue music on your clit. If he doesn't know the tune, teach him. If he's unwilling to learn, find a new boyfriend.

OK first, the bikini thing is cool... i wish i lived in So Cal so much!!! I feel like i belong there, not here.

Second your story is CRAZY. I've literaly never experienced any of that stuff and alot of it I don't even know what it means. I love the digital harmony thing and also the tongue music thing!!! Great words and I hadn't ever heard it called that before. Seven is insane. I don't even know what to say about it except I can't wait til I find someone who wants to do that to me. I have no freakin clue how though.

[Emily025]

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[WaveRider]

Women love their sex toys, but ain't nothn' like the real thing, baby.

I've been stealing a lot of lyrics.

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

So my my girlfriend and I are happy with our sexual lives except for the fact that she cannot reach an orgasm. She gets extremely close but right before it happens she says that it becomes too sensitive and tells me to stop. We've tried just pushing past the sensitivenss but then it becomes uncomfortable and I have to stop anyways. We do not actually have sex yet so all the stimulation is from hand and mouth. Basically we can't figure out why she can't cross the point of having an orgasm because she seemingly gets so close. I have tried a fair amount of different techniques and none have worked. I've tried different speeds in different combinations, using oral, fingering, clitoral, and it's always the same end result. I've tried getting her close, stopping, and then working her close again, doing that three times with no success. I spend a ton of time with foreplay, I tease her and really work her up before I actually touch her. I've bought KY cream for her which she really likes but it didn't help her have an orgasm either. We've tried for a long time (multiple years) and she has never been able to reach one. It's incredibly frustrating for her which makes it very frustrating for me too. Does anyone have any thoughts/experience with this? We've tried what seems like everything other than actual sex which I've read is less likely to give an orgasm than other stimulation. She gets much closer with clitoral stimulation than fingering too which makes me feel like that wouldn't be the solution. I've read that a vibrator could help but I want to be able to do it with just my own body if at all possible.
So any help here would be much appreciated so I can get her to an orgasm. Thank you all in advance.

[jns]

Is she properly distracted so she is just riding the waves of sensation? You could try mood enhancement which includes things such as liked sexy music, sexy or sensual scenes from a movie playing in the background with sound off, perfumes or scents that she finds sexy, lighting that she finds sexy or sensual, maybe even work on a flavor or food texture that she finds exciting (rich, creamy ice cream comes to mind, but it will be what works for her). She has to let go of being in control and become lost in the moment.

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

So my my girlfriend and I are happy with our sexual lives except for the fact that she cannot reach an orgasm.

Ok.

She gets extremely close but right before it happens she says that it becomes too sensitive and tells me to stop.

A. You must understand that the clitoris is a very sensitive organ.

A.The problem here is probably grinding or rubbing it till its sore which isn't benificial.

A. Dont do that.

We've tried just pushing past the sensitivenss but then it becomes uncomfortable and I have to stop anyways.

A. Well yeah rubbing causes friction which eventually causes smoke.

A. Best not to rub till its hurting or stinging.

We do not actually have sex yet so all the stimulation is from hand and mouth.

A. Done right I guess oral sex is erotic but make sure she likes it.

A. I dont mean she likes it to please you.

Basically we can't figure out why she can't cross the point of having an orgasm because she seemingly gets so close.

A. Things to look for while stimulating her.

A. Vagina will secrete fluid from the Bartholin glands one either side of inner part of the vagina.

A. Lube is something you would use as a last desperate resort but generally the vagina lubricates itself.

A. If you must use lube then use that German stuff which is meant to be very good. P something??

A. Lube is better than a dry vag obviously and never ever enter a women if she's dry this just leads to pain and irration which just snowballs into a big issue.

A. Dysparuia or worse Vaginismus.

The 4 phases of arousal:

Excitement

Plateau

Orgasm

Resolution


At each one of these phases certain things are happening.

A. Tachycardia - the heart beats faster as arousal rises until her hearts beating at 200 beats per minute.

A. 200 beats per minute is at the threshold of orgasm.

A. Hyperventilating.

A. I'm not sure about the breathing though I just cant remember whether my ex was breathing quickly but Ill assume that whats was happening.

Sweat (I'll call it sweat because I dont know what else to call it)

The biggest physiological change you'll notice is this "perspiration" which isnt caused by physical exertion its a reaction to foreplay.

The female body surface layer of skin and the mans ... secretes this strange oily gel like substance which is an incredible lubricant.

It makes it easy to slide up and down her torso.

Now this lubricant is secreted while she is getting more and more aroused.

At the threshold of orgasm she'll be drenched in this sweat like substance; initially you'll notice this sweat above her top lip.

The sex flush.

Youll notice this flushing of the face as she reaches the plateau phase (im guessing it may be at a lower phase)

At the threshold of orgasm her hair will be dank wet just like shes been in a sauna for 30 minutes.

Unmistakable sweat as you'll both be drench in slippery gooey substance.

Its at that point she can undicate shes about to orgasm.

Thats when you slide into her and gently thrust in and out.

Now the next thing thats pretty weird is you'll notice her vaginal barrel starting to tighten.

Its a pretty scarey if your not aware if whats about to happen.

As her orgasm kicks in the vaginal barrel constriction will restrict your penis from being withdrawn thats why you have a knob.

The function of the corona or your knob is to lock your penis into her.

At this point she can feel this incredible electrical storm in her body thats when shes getting the heroine like hit no doubt its mindblowingly incredible pleasure.

For the guy its initially bit scarey when those keegal muscles grip you and you can withdraw.

Dont worry you blow everything in your balast tanks !!

The pleasure is indescribable after you ejaculate youll black out.

God knows what happening to your brain.
Its like you experience an "out of body" state.

All you feel is this mind blowing electrical bolt of lightening straight up into your cerebral cortex.

I guess this is all these brain chemicals you the greatest dopamine hit your ever likely to experience.

You no longer feel like seperate entities.

You feel like your souls a fused together.

Its totally bizzare yet incredible.

Euphoria, an incredble closeness like nothing you ever felt before. This must be the vasopressin or oxytocin. This IS obviously a bonding chemical because it induces a wonderful feeling of love, calmness, tranquility.

Some time after you wake up out of this weird state of coma.

You just look across at her and feel this love for your partner.

You see the steam rising off your bodies.

You notice her heart pounding in her chest like a tiny drum as slowly her orgasm subsides and enters resolution I guess.

You'll notice the pupils of her eyes are dilated big black pupils.

Also your own climax subsides the blood pulsing through your neck arteries slow dowm.

Your heart slows down to normal.

Thats it a womens orgasmos.

Thats no bull**** exactly what its like.

You need to learn to caress her body with your hands.

Inner thighs.

Upper thighs.

Behind her legs.

Tummy.

Buttocks.

Back.

Glide your hands over her body as gently as you can.

Ultra glide its not rubbing uts caressing.

Running your hands over her body is relaxing and its this relaxation which has a cathartic affect.

Eventually if you do it gentle enough and for long enough it will work.

Forget about porn as a resource thats just commerce ; women dont have orgasm on movie sets.

Vibrators dont work as far as I know.

You need to go bareback condomsproduce orgasms.

A girl needs the the thrill and excitement of getting prego.

Turn out the lights and only have moonlight.

Thats the key to orgasm.

Also womem are usually by default inhibited to some extent.

The fear of orgasm maybe inhibits her from having an orgasm.

Your pressure to achieve it probably puts her off.

Dont try to orgasm just relax and caress her for hours.

If she doesnt respond just cuddle her and fall asleep.

Hold her hand show her you love her and its oknif you dont get there.

Its not easy to achieve despite what others say.

Stil if your stimulous is working then I think eventually youll push her over the edge into orgasm.

Oh it took me somewhere between 6 to 9 hours to achieve it or for us to achieve it.

Whether you can achieve ut in less time.

I dont know.

Only way i could know is to try for hundreds of orgasms with hundreds of girls which might be difficult but like I said its wasnt easy for me to achieve and its only from 5 or 6 ive ever achieved in my lifetime. Only one of them was mind blowing with that incredible intensity.

Also her ears are very sensitive and good erogenous zone to work on but rember dont spend too much time on one particular area.

A female body is one huge erogenous zone.

if you have the patience and the determination you can maybe achieve it.

Another thing to be wary of.

Orgasm headaches.

Thunder clap headaches.

If she ever complains about headaches stop because it might be risky.

A. Still i think its pretty safe for most.


ome tried a fair amount of different techniques and none have worked.

A. Thats good. Shows you caring.


I've tried different speeds in different combinations, using oral, fingering, clitoral, and it's always the same end result.

A. Dont spend too much time on the clit.

A. Its sensitive.
I've tried getting her close, stopping, and then working her close again, doing that three times with no success.

A. Caressing slowly continuously is the key.


I spend a ton of time with foreplay, I tease her and really work her up before I actually touch her.

A. Thats good but caressing is the key to getting her aroused.

I've bought KY cream for her which she really likes but it didn't help her have an orgasm either.

A.you shouldnt need use lube the body secretes it.

We've tried for a long time (multiple years) and she has never been able to reach one.

A. Patience and trying things that works thats something you must be able determine.

It's incredibly frustrating for her which makes it very frustrating for me too.

A. Its understandable.

Does anyone have any thoughts/experience with this?

A. Yes read above

We've tried what seems like everything other than actual sex which I've read is less likely to give an orgasm than other stimulation.

A. Thats correct.

She gets much closer with clitoral stimulation than fingering too which makes me feel like that wouldn't be the solution.

A. Dont insert deeply just caress the entrance.

I've read that a vibrator could help but I want to be able to do it with just my own body if at all possible.

A. Vibrator dont work because its platic and toxic.

A. Vibrator cant get female pregnant its not exciting so she cant get aroused.

A. No risk getting pregnant.

So any help here would be much appreciated so I can get her to an orgasm. Thank you all in advance.

A. Done.