[Trisalixlycan]

My boyfriend has said and done some things, and I don't know how normal they are. We've been together for a year and a few of the odd things I've noticed/he's done are:
-He's not much into feminine looking clothing. I mean, he loves breasts, but he says feminine clothing is overdone and that he likes to see me in simple things like T-shirts or wife beaters, and that he likes the "skater girl" look. He also says he thinks I look really good in hats
-the other night when we were messing around I was dressed in a feminine lacy sort of thing, but he had me put on one of his white T shirts and tie it around my midriff, and he had me wear one of his baseball caps (which is when he mentioned he liked the skater girl look
-He's told me a few times that he likes the "tough girl" sort of look, which obviously isn't that feminine
-last but DEFINETLY not least is he likes doing anal. Now I'm not opposed to try new things, and all that other stuff hadn't happened I wouldn't be so suspicious, but all of it combined seems to be adding up to a really bad picture...to be fair, he said the reason he likes anal is because he can ejaculate inside me at least somewhere without the risk of me becoming pregnant. And I did ask him if he had the choice and there was no risk, would he rather ejaculate with anal, or ejaculate inside me the regular way and he said the regular way. So any opinions on if he has homosexual tendencies?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well, not all men like feminine lace, covering up though, i'm not sure about but you say he loves breasts.

Is he a clean freak? How does he like to dress? What types of friends does he hang out with? What sort of movies does he like?

I think these questions may pose a better picture to you as to whether he is or not...

Assume he doesn't wear a condom, if he did, then your risk is extremely low coupled with the pill, and therefore anal wouldn't be necessary unless he just really likes that, but it's your life to there.

CW

[Trisalixlycan]

Well, he's definetly not a neat freak or a clean freak. I mean he definetly does stuff that's considered "guy-like" you know, he doesn't shower everyday and he wears fairly nice clothes but in no way are they feminine, but he doesn't spend a large amount of time on his appearance. Oh and as far as movies, he likes things blowing up and loves watching The Ultimate Fighter and all that, so definetly masculine otherwise. The only other things is that his personality is actually pretty laid back and he doesn't act macho or egotistical at all (which is a good thing in my opinion)

[SinisterUrge]

He already told you he likes the 'sk8r' look and 'tough girl'. Rather than homosexual I'd say he'd rather have something more aggressive.

Stop by the local Hot Topic®, pick up a plaid skirt, a corset top and some big black boots and meet your BF at the door holding a paddle or a flogger.

he'll probably be hard before you can say "Welcome to thunderdome *****!"

[rcoreyus]

I wouldn't be concerned about the clothing issue. I'm a straight guy, and I'm not very excited by lacy things. There is something appealing about t-shirts, or other clothes that are sexy without looking like they are "trying" to be sexy.

His explanation of why he likes anal makes sense. Fear of pregnancy is a big deal.

SinisterUrge may have a point. Maybe he wants the tough girl - and that could mean different things. Maybe he does want to be spanked. Or, maybe he just wants a woman who is sexually agressive - could be he feels a bit of residual guilt about sex and wants a woman who will take responsibility.

So, go ahead an put on a bandana, and a torn t-shirt and jeans, haul him off to bed and tell him what you want.

I wouldn't be concerned about his being gay unless there is some other evidence, like you've caught him in bed with a man, or he voluntarily went to see Brokeback Mountain (just kidding).

[C]

With both of you being so young and still trying to grow up, for you to consider him homosexual could be pretty far out.....

Perhaps some boredom with each other is setting in and it is time for each of you consider going a different direction and finding yourself. He is not wrong and you are not wrong.....It is just that both of your wants and desires are different .... As you age this difference will widen.......It is just part of life.....TC, C

[Uneeklyme]

He already told you he likes the 'sk8r' look and 'tough girl'. Rather than homosexual I'd say he'd rather have something more aggressive.

Stop by the local Hot Topic®, pick up a plaid skirt, a corset top and some big black boots and meet your BF at the door holding a paddle or a flogger.

he'll probably be hard before you can say "Welcome to thunderdome *****!"

WOW...all I can say is BUYAHHH! Heh Works for me and im a girl.

My ex LOVED the ballcap and tee look. He prefered when I wore his shirts rather than sexy, lacey things and would go snake if I wore a tank top. He could barely keep his hands off and he was so not gay, bi or otherwise. Straight as they come. My current partner loves the cutesy flannel pj's look. Not all men are into the lipstick and stockings look.

Heres a test...can he sew, does he wear tights, have a friend named Bruce and lisp the word bit**? Then hes at the very least, bi.
Yes I am kidding.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well he sounds like a "man" to me....

Sounds like things are just his preferences, some good advice on the dress up though, include a nicer hat " cowboy" maybe than baseball, see if he takes that in.

Good luck.

CW

[TheTickledHousewife]

He already told you he likes the 'sk8r' look and 'tough girl'. Rather than homosexual I'd say he'd rather have something more aggressive.

Stop by the local Hot Topic®, pick up a plaid skirt, a corset top and some big black boots and meet your BF at the door holding a paddle or a flogger.

he'll probably be hard before you can say "Welcome to thunderdome *****!"

OMG! I LOVE IT!!

My DH loves the tattooed chicks and the skater look himself! Unfortunatly for him, I haven't a tattoo to speak of! However, I don't have a problem dressing the part every once in awhile and I must say that a couple temporary tattoos usually do the trick!

[soldatka]

He doesn't sound gay to me, just not into lacy stuff! Which is fine, as long as you are happy too.

Re anal sex...you can get pg that way, because, well, you know how sperm can leak out and get EVERYWHERE. It just takes one little swimmer going where you don't want...Hope you are somehow contracepted!!