[miffed23]

Ummmm, im in a state of shock...and also very drunk right now....

The married man, has left his wife.

I can not believe it. I think now is when im in dire need of advice.

[Happy1]

maybe I missed it but what the situation with the married man?

[FionaDiaz]

Married man? huh? are you having an affair? I'm so lost Sober up and start explaining!!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ummmm, im in a state of shock...and also very drunk right now....

The married man, has left his wife.

I can not believe it. I think now is when im in dire need of advice.

Gee Miffed23, well that was not expected hey....

Why am i getting the feeling that your not exactly estatic?

You can't take advice now if your merry, you won't remember anyway...

But, when your sober, i don't know, you have to search i guess to see what it is you want... But, what ever you do, think about it, take it slowly very slowly xxx

CW

[miffed23]

Sorry...um...in short i was with a man and found out he was married, shamefully carried it on...sought advice here, ended things...he was devasted - hundreds of phone calls, texts- i miss you blah blah,...ive ignored him...phone calls died down and then he rang 3 times a few hours ago...i finally picked up and he said he has left his wife..ummmmm think thats about it.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sorry...um...in short i was with a man and found out he was married, shamefully carried it on...sought advice here, ended things...he was devasted - hundreds of phone calls, texts- i miss you blah blah,...ive ignored him...phone calls died down and then he rang 3 times a few hours ago...i finally picked up and he said he has left his wife..ummmmm think thats about it.

Sweet..... you need more than 24hrs firstly, for him to prove that he has indeed left is wife, you know, a packed suitcase can go back in ones cupboard after a day or two....

And, if he has for sure, you need to see what you think from there and feel.....

He couldn't do the hotel room, then he could remember... xxxxx

CW

[miffed23]

Sweet..... you need more than 24hrs firstly, for him to prove that he has indeed left is wife, you know, a packed suitcase can go back in ones cupboard after a day or two....

And, if he has for sure, you need to see what you think from there and feel.....

He couldn't do the hotel room, then he could remember... xxxxx

CW

Youre absolutely right. As you know i took your advice and told him the things you said to...so if i can 'trust' his word, he has actually been away from her for a week, staying at his brothers.

Theres no way i could start a relationship with him, whether it be 2 years down the line, i couldnt trust him?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

[quote=miffed23;39037]Youre absolutely right. As you know i took your advice and told him the things you said to...so if i can 'trust' his word, he has actually been away from her for a week, staying at his brothers.

Theres no way i could start a relationship with him, whether it be 2 years down the line, i couldnt trust him?[/quote]

Is that a question?

Well, i just see the "i can't do a hotel room because of the wife, she's this, that, can't be done " of by memory and then " hey honey i booked us in afterall?".

Personally i can't live in a relationship with "lies"....

Okay, so he's been with his brother for a week, if he's telling you the truth, so?

Try one month... He's still very married and can return at any time at the moment, good theory on his behalf hey?

How would you feel if he did the deed then returned in a week to her? And, said sorry i had to because.......

Hense my bit about think about it and take your time xx

Some guys will go to the earth to capture rejection and win... just don't go down as a statistic..

Your all woman lady, remember that....

CW

[FionaDiaz]

I dated a married man once... I was 19 and he was close to 50years old. I thought he was divorced at first, and then he said he was "seperated". He lived in a different country, but traveled here often.

He bought me a house here in Guatemala!!

Soon I realized he was lying to me and was actuallying LIVING with his wife! He swore they slept in seperate bedrooms... but I had had enough of the lies.

I returned all the gifts he had given me... including the house (regretting that now!!) and left and never looked back!

I still wonder "what could have been" had he divorced his wife for me, or had he honestly been divorced when I met him... but I never regretted calling it off.

What if he never gets a divorce, what if you get pregnant and he STILL does not divorce his wife, or divorces her and marries you only because you are pregnant!? ...and you become the "homewrecking *****". (not calling you that!!!!!!!!) what about his kids, if he has any?

What if he cheats on you later on?

You'll always wonder, though, if you don't try it.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

How's your head this morning Miffed23

x

CW