[muffin70]

.... Looking up scarves online… I was on pintrest and was looking up photos of women wearing nice scarves.

I’ve posted here before about my scarf fetish and my wife has many scarves (mainly cotton) and wears one to work most days with her outfit. I usually choose what scarf she should wear and 99% of the time she will go with the scarf I have chosen.

She knows about my scarf fetish and she knows what my favourite scarf is – and if I'm lucky sometimes she will wear one around her neck or draped over her breasts when we make love because she knows it turns me on, and for some reason I have very strong orgasms if she wears a scarf during our love making.
However, she rarely will wear a scarf for me like this – even though I try to encourage her.

Anyway she was a bit shocked when she came into the spare / computer room and caught me in the act – she said “is this what you do while I am watching TV”?

For clarification I was fully clothed and it wasn’t as if I was masturbating or anything. I clicked on a photo from the website and said “This is a nice scarf” mainly because I liked the way the woman was wearing it. My wife just said “it’s ok” and walked off back to the TV

When we went to bed she asked me why I am looking up scarves and asked me if it turns me on.

I confessed that sometimes it does and I like to fantasize about her (wife) wearing many different scarves as she pleasures my body with scarves.

She just seemed disappointed that I was looking up photos of other women wearing scarves… I said “it’s not like I am looking up porn” …. But I got the feeling she disapproved of what I was doing.

I didn’t know what else to say – I was being honest…. I just wish she’d indulge my fantasy a bit more often…

Does anyone else have a problem with their or their partner’s fantasies?

[atskitty2]

It is interesting that she is bothered by this muffin. Maybe it just left her feeling as though she isn't so special with the scarves...???

How are things now? Has it been discussed again?

[Texasred]

I doubt it was the scarves but the other women wearing them that upset your wife. If the photos you were looking at were only scarves, I'm sure her reaction would have been quite different.
I love seeing my wife wearing just a bra and panties, and a time or two we've gone shopping for "intimate apparel" together, but if she found me ogling Victoria's Secret models, I'd be in deep kimchee...

[muffin70]

It is interesting that she is bothered by this muffin. Maybe it just left her feeling as though she isn't so special with the scarves...???

How are things now? Has it been discussed again?

Things are ok.... it has not been bought up again.... often when she wears a nice scarf to work I will give her a hint and tell her the scarf looks lovely with that outfit... then I might make a slightly rude comment like "I'd love to see that scarf wrapped around your naked body, or over my erection....." but she just laughs the comments off and says something like "you're so rude"!
when I was looking up scarves, some of the photos were of scarves themselves and some were of other women wearing scarves... I think she thought I was masturbating or something and I assured her I wasn't - she could see my pants were still on anyway.

it's been a few months since we've use a scarf in our love making - sometimes she is happy to do so and will grab a scarf herself and put it on.... most times I have to encourage her to do it by choosing a scarf and asking if she can wear it.... she is special to me and even if she never wore a scarf ever again I'd still love her just as much....

[Texasred]

Youve told her that, right?
:-))

[muffin70]

Youve told her that, right?
:-))

Yes - about 2-3 weeks ago I grabbed a scarf off the rack for her to wear as we were about to make love and she said 'sorry - it's too hot', and she was right the last 3-4 weeks has been ver hot and humid most nights...

[Stillness]

I didn’t know what else to say – I was being honest…. I just wish she’d indulge my fantasy a bit more often

Muffin, did you want her to catch you...maybe a little?

I remember my wife caught me looking at this woman with a fantastic behind. But it just so happened that I was looking because she had writing on it and I was reading it. She was looking too, but she got mad at me. I wasn't doing anything wrong, so I asked her was she looking too and why she felt the way she did. It had more to do with her own insecurities.

[muffin70]

Muffin, did you want her to catch you...maybe a little?

I remember my wife caught me looking at this woman with a fantastic behind. But it just so happened that I was looking because she had writing on it and I was reading it. She was looking too, but she got mad at me. I wasn't doing anything wrong, so I asked her was she looking too and why she felt the way she did. It had more to do with her own insecurities.

well secretly I'd love her to catch me looking at scarves for sale... and I'd love her to say something like "that's a very pretty scarf - you can buy that if you like so that we can use it for pleasure in the bedroom..." - but that will never happen
She always tells me she has too many scarves and she's right... although I have to confess I've bought her one for her birthday that I know she will like

[amy40]

she is special to me and even if she never wore a scarf ever again I'd still love her just as much....

but did you tell her this ^^
?

[muffin70]

but did you tell her this ^^
?

yes I've told her - I love her just the way she is...
It's the whole package I love... her smile, personality, sense of humor, her large breasts..... and if she wears a nice scarf is just the icing on the cake :-)