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  • jonny
    Senior Member
    • Jun 2008
    • 117

    A few curious questions.

    I'm a guy, and I have a few questions to ask to all of the ladies here.

    I haven't had much luck in the dating or sex department. And I am just wondering if it would come off as weird to a women if she found out a guy she was dating or interested in was a 25 and a virgin.

    I say that because later this month I will be. And it isn't something I take pride in. But I just would like to know. Because when and if that time ever comes, i'd like to be prepared for the possible response.

    I have never revealed that to anyone in person. So I don't know if i'd get laughed at or thought I was creepy.

    I ask that because I am inexperienced in interacting in a sexual manner with women.

    That and I guess I am an insecure guy.

    But even if I get passed that, I still worry about the usual "penis size" thing. Sorry I figure you have been hearing that a ton. But we do worry.

    I'm slightly under 4', and very thin. Sorta like a fat finger.

    Hope that wasn't a disturbing description. I just worry about things like this.

    And I know some probably don't think it is a big deal, and that I should'nt worry. But I do.
  • Fallen1
    Veteran Member
    • Oct 2007
    • 1937

    Originally posted by jonny
    I'm a guy, and I have a few questions to ask to all of the ladies here.

    I haven't had much luck in the dating or sex department. And I am just wondering if it would come off as weird to a women if she found out a guy she was dating or interested in was a 25 and a virgin.

    I say that because later this month I will be. And it isn't something I take pride in.
    And why not? In my opinion that is something to be proud of.
    There is a method to my madness ........ I just haven't found it yet.

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    • jonny
      Senior Member
      • Jun 2008
      • 117

      Originally posted by Fallen1
      And why not? In my opinion that is something to be proud of.
      Well we may differing opinions on that. I am not exactly saving myself for marriage. Nor am I willing to give it away to a hooker. I just believe it is a natural thing for people to do.

      And the urges for it are just as natural. and last time I checked, I was still having those.

      That and as corny as it may sound. A guy's prime sexually is suppose to be from about 18 to 23. And i'm in my mid-twenties and I have never even came close to having it.

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      • CHANDLERS WISH
        • Mar 2008
        • 22440

        Sounds to me like your ready, willing and able, possibly have been for a while now, but haven't found the right woman, so you haven't made a move, in addition, fear has swept in so you haven't taken it further?

        You may have dated a couple of times and left it there for instance, not got yourself involved long term with a lady.

        Firstly, take a new relationship slow, after a couple of months, emotions in a woman build ten fold, so her feelings will be high...

        There is no shame, no and size is not relevant it's how you use it.. Sure you've heard of that saying.

        So, you need to establish for yourself the sorts of things you think you like sexually, and what a woman likes sexually, by reading up here, looking further on the net, books all sorts. View it like a course of sorts, coupled with sound knowledge from simular experiences had.

        Of course, the main way to establish is between two people, as no two people are alike, but armed with the necessities, lots of kissing, stroking her neck, all forms of teasing without touching, for instance, is exciting to a woman with a new man...

        After dating for a while, if she sees that you know how to be a "lover" and love her emotionally as well, it won't matter that your a Virgin, or size as she's hooked, lined and sinkered...

        As long as you genuinally do like her of course...

        Don't stress over it...

        CW
        PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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        • jonny
          Senior Member
          • Jun 2008
          • 117

          Originally posted by CHANDLERS WISH
          Sounds to me like your ready, willing and able, possibly have been for a while now, but haven't found the right woman, so you haven't made a move, in addition, fear has swept in so you haven't taken it further?
          Your pretty much right on.

          You may have dated a couple of times and left it there for instance, not got yourself involved long term with a lady.
          Well I have been on a couple of dates. None of them developed into anything.

          So I have never really dated.


          There is no shame, no and size is not relevant it's how you use it.. Sure you've heard of that saying.
          I enjoy hearing that. And it is most likely true. I can't help but to still hear that voice in the bacf of my head. And it isn;t saying anything positive.

          So, you need to establish for yourself the sorts of things you think you like sexually, and what a woman likes sexually, by reading up here, looking further on the net, books all sorts. View it like a course of sorts, coupled with sound knowledge from simular experiences had.
          I just started doing that one. Looking up things and reading them.

          I'm not letting porn be my guide. LOL!

          Of course, the main way to establish is between two people, as no two people are alike, but armed with the necessities, lots of kissing, stroking her neck, all forms of teasing without touching, for instance, is exciting to a woman with a new man...
          O, I totally undertand that there is more to the sexual side of things than just humping someone.

          I plan on being good with my hands.

          After dating for a while, if she sees that you know how to be a "lover" and love her emotionally as well, it won't matter that your a Virgin, or size as she's hooked, lined and sinkered...
          I hope so.



          As long as you genuinally do like her of course...
          Luckily i'm not very big on people I don't like. -_-

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          • CHANDLERS WISH
            • Mar 2008
            • 22440

            Did you say you were shy?

            Na, you have a good sense of humor...


            Hands? Yep, and mouth, tongue etc........


            Porn? Na, you can check all that later if it fits... lol.....

            Negative thinking ( in your brain) is a waste of thoughts don't you think?

            Oh, and dress to impress as well, that's a huge turn on to a woman, and confidence building for a man.... and wear aftershave... we um, love it...

            CW
            PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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            • jonny
              Senior Member
              • Jun 2008
              • 117

              Originally posted by CHANDLERS WISH
              Did you say you were shy?
              I can be. Espically around women.

              Na, you have a good sense of humor...
              Thank you. -__-


              Hands? Yep, and mouth, tongue etc........
              I am totally willing. Just never had the opportunity.



              Negative thinking ( in your brain) is a waste of thoughts don't you think?
              Well we all have them. That and there are tons of negative images when it comes to that everywhere. So it's hard not to think about.

              Oh, and dress to impress as well, that's a huge turn on to a woman, and confidence building for a man.... and wear aftershave... we um, love it...

              CW
              That is something i do not do well. I can't even match my clothes. lol

              I usually wear what is comfortable. And it isn't anything impressive.

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              • CHANDLERS WISH
                • Mar 2008
                • 22440

                Originally posted by jonny
                I can be. Espically around women.



                Thank you. -__-




                I am totally willing. Just never had the opportunity.





                Well we all have them. That and there are tons of negative images when it comes to that everywhere. So it's hard not to think about.



                That is something i do not do well. I can't even match my clothes. lol

                I usually wear what is comfortable. And it isn't anything impressive.

                Mmm.... on the last one? Something else to start learning hey... lol.
                PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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                • jonny
                  Senior Member
                  • Jun 2008
                  • 117

                  Originally posted by CHANDLERS WISH
                  Mmm.... on the last one? Something else to start learning hey... lol.

                  Yea.....I guess I need to be taught. Because I have no clue. I usually wear a t-shirt and shorts.

                  And I do that, even in the winter. LOL!

                  That and it takes money to dress well. Which is something I do not have.

                  I need a woman to dress me.

                  But I need one first. But I need to dress well to get one.

                  This can be rather hard and confusing.

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                  • CHANDLERS WISH
                    • Mar 2008
                    • 22440

                    Originally posted by jonny
                    Yea.....I guess I need to be taught. Because I have no clue. I usually wear a t-shirt and shorts.

                    And I do that, even in the winter. LOL!

                    That and it takes money to dress well. Which is something I do not have.

                    I need a woman to dress me.

                    But I need one first. But I need to dress well to get one.

                    This can be rather hard and confusing.
                    Oh god NO!!!!!!!!! You sound like my ex-husband, tank top and board shorts...even in winter, lol..

                    Not very um, appealing to a woman...

                    Start a new thread... "How does a woman like a man to dress?"......

                    Or, what do women find appealing about a man, in his dress, hair etc.

                    First thing that crops to my mind, nice jeans that show his butt...
                    for-instance, then you'll get all the tips from "women" that you need, to then assist in "finding a woman", and not be rather "confused"...

                    CW
                    PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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