[monies1210]

Another female persepective

There is nothing wrong with a 25 year old virgin. Personally, I think it is very honorable and that it takes willpower. But don't go springing that on her on a first date. Wait it out maybe three or four dates, that way she will already be attracted to you and the fact that your a virgin wont even matter. if she makes a big deal out of it shes a jerk and you don't need her. As for what girls like.....most, at least myself, really likes a guy with a sense of humor, someone who is confident in them self (so try to think more positive), and someone who is just interested in keeping a female on her toes...never know what to expect. That doesn't take a lot of money if that is what you are thinking because many women are pleased with just the simple things; a romantic walk in a park with dinner prepared by you after or just renting a movie and spending alone time (cliche but most girls do like them). The sex part will come naturally after a while.

Dressing, is a big thing with females. I am in college and I am sooooooo over the grungie tee shirt and shorts look as most people have stated. Since its warm out try a nice pair of plaid shorts and a polo or even a nice tee shirt with a non insulting graphic; simple but can go a far way, or even try a fitted (i stress that word because I am very tired of he too tight or falling off look) and a polo, stock up on them, they go far.

Conversation.....not much too it, you seem like a funny guy. Comment on how she looks, ask her about her day, ask her about her hobbies, does she have any pets, likes and dislike...it shows that your interested in getting to really know her and I am sure that you will eventually find a mutual interest which you can carry out into a further discussion. And a nice set of teeth are a plus, shows you have good hygiene but bad teeth are also hard to accomplish so i doubt yours are as bad as you think. A trip to the dentist and gym/whitening strips should prob do the trick and paired along with dressing well will show you take pride in your appearance.

And lastly, sex.....after going out on a couple dates, her knowing you are a virgin, and reading up on it, try and go for it. Now I am def not saying bum rush her. Don't go from never kissing to trying to bone her. Start with kisses after dates, take her to where you live and romance her. Then try kissing her neck, her ears, down her chest; try rubbing her clitoris (sorry to sound vulgar here) and maybe finger her (it will show her your interested and put her in the mood) and knowing your a virgin she will more than likely take over from there or at least help you out.

Sorry it was so long but hope it helps you!!

[monies1210]

sorry one more thing to add

I just realized a previous post. Colored trousers......not a great idea especially in Memphis (thats where it says you live). You will easily been taken for gay, maybe in the closet or just too feminine for a lot of women. Also, majority of women want a guy that they can wear their shirt if they spend the night or a sweater or jacket if they go out and it gets chilly.......they do NOT want to share pants. So brightly colored ones I would have to call a no-no and I live in NY so my perspective is open to a LOT of different and weird things.

And as posted by Happy1...ambition is a really good thing to display. Shows your going somewhere or at least would like to and aren't sitting on your butt just hoping ti make it big or win the lottery.


Now I'm done.

[jonny]

[SIZE=3]s for you being 25 and a virgin.... Depending on where you are that's not really a big deal

I do understand that some don't think it is a big deal. But mentally for the person that is. It can be. Espically when your sexual experience doesn't extend past your hands.

As for meeting that girl, and telling her you're a virgin - sure it'll probably be a bit uncomfortable for a bit...

I expect it to be uncomfortable. Not somethin anyone wants to admit in peson. Did admit it to a girl I was talking to on the phone that I met online. And that was the last phone call we had.

Besides, kicking someone out would give you a bit of a power trip and build some confidence anyway.

Not really.

tiny ones (which yours isn't).

I don't see how it isn't. It isn't a micropenis. But it is still short and skinny.

If all else fails get an oriental girlfriend, you'll look like a beast to her anyway.

I highly doubt their all small. lol And I think there called Asian.

you've got the manliness to not care about looking like a bit of a fag,

LMFAO!!!!

I doubt i'm that manly.

I don't have a muscle on my body.

Do NOT walk around looking at the floor with a hunched back, nothing says impotence (not necessarily sexual) like that.

I do that all the time. When I first started walking. I walked with my head down. And do it to this day.

show your full height.

I'm 5"7 not 6"7.

Err, right, bad teeth. Well, if you're teeth are terrible, at least get them a bit cleaned up - get a dentist to clean them, use whitening tooth paste. If they're really bad, then it might be worth getting some orthodontric work done, which might involve braces, but only if you feel like it cripples your self confidence. I know a lot of girls that don't trust a man with perfect teeth - teeth show character.

I do my best to keep them white as I can. It's just there pretty f'n crooked.

I like it when a guy goes after what he wants, career, education, women,

Yea, but you can't win the Daytona 500 riding a tricycle.

I got a high school diploma.

Badass!!!!!! lmao

[Little]

Just because Memphis is in the south doesn't mean that "colored trousers" are going to make you look "gay" ... now, that doesn't mean that my buddy who wears orange corduroys doesn't catch some serious flak from me, but seriously .... orange ... with old man shoes ... and the ladies love him.

[jonny]

There is nothing wrong with a 25 year old virgin. Personally, I think it is very honorable and that it takes willpower.

It doesn't really take willpower. If you don't have the opportunity, then you can't do it. That isn't willpower. That is bad luck

As for what girls like.....most, at least myself, really likes a guy with a sense of humor,

I can be funny. I just don't come across well in person.

a romantic walk in a park

No good parks to walk in here . Unless you wanna get shot. And maybe butt raped.

And lastly, sex.....after going out on a couple dates, her knowing you are a virgin, and reading up on it, try and go for it. Now I am def not saying bum rush her. Don't go from never kissing to trying to bone her. Start with kisses after dates, take her to where you live and romance her. Then try kissing her neck, her ears, down her chest; try rubbing her clitoris (sorry to sound vulgar here) and maybe finger her (it will show her your interested and put her in the mood) and knowing your a virgin she will more than likely take over from there or at least help you out.

Sorry it was so long but hope it helps you!!

Thanx for the advice.

As I said earlier. My other dates were uncomfortable. I tried getting to know her. But I came off as werid I guess.

I guess I didn't talk as much as I should. But I didn't do anything weird.

Trying the kisses would be good. But that might cause me to get slapped.

Not that I have ever tried the kissing thing.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Just because Memphis is in the south doesn't mean that "colored trousers" are going to make you look "gay" ... now, that doesn't mean that my buddy who wears orange corduroys doesn't catch some serious flak from me, but seriously .... orange ... with old man shoes ... and the ladies love him.

Orange cords... YOU KNOWS IT. I'm looking for a good pair of orange cords. And if we live in a world where wearing trousers that aren't blue or black makes you gay, then we should all kiss ourselves immediately. Maybe in texas you'd get beaten up, but in the civilised world there shouldn't be a problem.

I don't see how it isn't. It isn't a micropenis. But it is still short and skinny.

5.5/6.5 inches is world average, so stop feeling sorry for yourself. It could be far worse. In the same vein, you're 5'7, but when your hunching around the place you probably look 5'3. I said be your full height, not be a basketballer. Still talking about sizes, yes, they are all small, you never watched yellow porn?

Monies, it's a shame that you're a bit closed minded about the whole coloured trousers thing, it's the way forward. And as for ambition, you could always rent a fast car or get a bit more cash out of the bank and keep it in your wallet flashing it around, it accomplishes/means the same thing.

But yeah, Jonny, stop feeling sorry for yourself, take my advice, because it's the best, and instead of whining about what you are grow into the person that you want to be.

Also note, making jokes at your own expense (where the joke obviously masks a personal flaw you feel strongly about) isn't going to get you any women.

[monies1210]

Okay I am not trying to generalize but I have an aunt who lives down in Memphis and I really don't remember seeing any guys in colored jeans and people can still be naive.

Now your funny being mistaken for weird......is it dry humor or possible offensive humor, that could be trouble. Try simple and definite funny jokes (there is a post somewhere on this site that has some really funny ones). If all fails and you think your jokes are going to be weird, don't tell any. Just keep the conversation going, small talk or as I said before try and find a mutual interest.


No, parks...well on a first date take her to dinner, find out what she likes........your only 25 so maybe a big arcade could be the second date. We have one in New York called Dave&Busters and its awesome, Ive been there on dates and my sister has had dates take her there (she a little older than you and a hard to please female) and even she enjoys it.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

I don't like double posting but I have to correct an error... It's "KILL ourselves, not KISS ourselves..."

Silly me.

[jonny]

never watched yellow porn?

huh? I have never heard it called that in my life.

And no. I have never watched a porno with an Asian dude in it.

Monies, it's a shame that you're a bit closed minded about the whole coloured trousers thing, it's the way forward. And as for ambition, you could always rent a fast car or get a bit more cash out of the bank and keep it in your wallet flashing it around, it accomplishes/means the same thing.

I don't have that type if money. I'll still to my Ford Escort. lol

Also note, making jokes at your own expense (where the joke obviously masks a personal flaw you feel strongly about) isn't going to get you any women.

That's just my personality. That and the crack I made about Memphis was me being dead serious.

Now your funny being mistaken for weird......is it dry humor or possible offensive humor, that could be trouble. Try simple and definite funny jokes (there is a post somewhere on this site that has some really funny ones). If all fails and you think your jokes are going to be weird, don't tell any. Just keep the conversation going, small talk or as I said before try and find a mutual interest

.

I try not to people off with my jokes. Atleast not in public. lol

Usually I am bad at telling jokes in person. Mainly because if i tell them i usually laugh through them.

Most of the joking stuff I do is just a comment that comes out of nowhere.

Wild and crazy right? -__-

No, parks...well on a first date take her to dinner, find out what she likes........your only 25 so maybe a big arcade could be the second date. We have one in New York called Dave&Busters and its awesome, Ive been there on dates and my sister has had dates take her there (she a little older than you and a hard to please female) and even she enjoys it.

I'd have to go to the Mall to do that. And that would be around a bunch of little kids.

There was one cool arcade I went to as a teen. It was in Tunica outside of the Grand Casino. Now that place was cool.



That and I know 5.5 to 6.5 is world average. My problem is I am under it. Not in it, or over it.

[monies1210]

As a response to people taking what I said wrong

First of all I am not closed minded.....I am one of the most open minded people most people have meant. I am just stating what is true....colored pants tend to send the wrong message and first impression usually do stick (despite what most people will say). And as he said, Memphis is not the safest place to walk in a park at night, so imagine a guy in lime green or red pants...it just won't be good. Also, the ambition thing, just because you can drain your bank account to have a large money filled wallet or you have a flashy car that doesn't even technically belong to you doesn't mean you have any ambition. It means you have access to certain luxuries or can trick someone into believing you do. Ambition, at least to me, is to actually work hard for those things and be proud of what you have at the moment and if you do have those things.....not to feel the need to show them off but be a bit more modest. Go ahead a drive the flashy car (if you can afford to own it) but don't go renting one and sure take the female to a nice restaurant but don't go withdrawing every penny you have and stuffing it into your wallet, use a bank card instead. As they say show offs don't get very far for very long because they are usually covering up for something they lack in another category....like personality.