[MrMr]

I don't think you're unusual in how you feel at all — a man's penis size (or shape, or appearance, curvature, whatever) has never had an effect on whether or not I'd have sex with him. For me (and likely for you, it seems) it's the guy attached to it that makes or breaks the deal.

Are you saying you'd enjoy sex with a man with a massive or small penis the same way? From hook ups I've had with women online I've been asked about my size on several occasions. It's absolutely fair as far as I'm concerned. I've been told I'm not big enough a few times and too big on others although that was mainly in my younger days

[BiBrad95]

I'm not ashamed to admit I'm on the small to very small size... And cum rather fast so I try and have as much foreplay as I can... Rubbing clit gspot clit making sure the woman I'm with cums a couple times before I do

[TruthSeeker12345]

A 2015 study by BJU International concluded the average erect penis length to be 5.16 inches. Also, a 2020 review in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy found that the majority of men believed that the average erect penis length is more than 6 inches. This indicates that there is a general misconception about whether or not size matters. One interesting video from pelvic floor therapist Michelle Kenway discusses information that she gathered. She discusses an article that Bruce M. King did in 2021, which is cited and referenced in the video. Michelle’s survey indicated overwhelmingly, for women, that size does not matter. The themes that came through in her survey included that what matters is technique, honesty, and passion. The 3 key take home messages from the video were (1) Most men underestimate size, (2) Size does NOT matter for most women, and (3) Other things matter for more women and large size can be painful. Important considerations for size are the penis length and girth (in circumference or diameter) Length is connected to the length of the vagina that the penis is going into. The vagina can range in length from 2.7 to 5.8 inches in length. The cervix, which is at the end of the vagina, can be hit by a penis that is above average in length; and this can cause pain during penetration sex and even bruising of the cervix. Of course, the depth of penetration can be somewhat controlled by the intercourse position that is used. However, the vagina length factor is another reason why a penis length above average does not matter, and it can actually cause problems. The other size factor is the girth of the penis, which is usually measured in circumference. A study found that the girth can range from about 3.4 to 5.7 inches with an average of 4.59 inches. This corresponds to about 1.1 to 1.8 inches in diameter, with an average of 1.46 inches. Since the vagina opening can vary from 0.94 to 2.56 inches in diameter, a penis girth above average can matter very much for women with smaller vagina openings.
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[MeLuvCookies]

I spent like 8 years in various walks of the BDSM, swinging, being the other guy in couples open marriages and friends with benefits lifestyle until about 2011 so I encountered many different types of women. In all that time I only ever encountered only truly "size queen" who was obsessed with size and claimed she could only get off with really big penises.

I am average, never had any woman except her say it wasn't big enough to get the job done but definitely nobody knocking on my door offering me a job in porn anytime soon. So I don't have any insecurities about it but yeah that one time with that size queen I tried every tool I had, oral, fingers and she just didn't quite get off. That was the only time I ever felt insecure and inadequate in that way.

But I think a lot of that was in her head or porn derived or like a fetish to her. Like I said 99.99 percent of women I encountered were not hung up on size or girth and it was about the man connected to it and the mental part of sex or for some of the more one night stand very casual encounters it was more about what I could do with every part of my body than the size of that one part. If anything the curve of it or the angle and position of attack is probably as important if not more important than the size.

I think the notion that gets pushed in mainstream society and porn that having a bigger penis makes you more of a man and better sexually and having a smaller one makes you less of a man is very damaging and unrealistic and needs to stop but I guess women get so much baggage put on them about their bodies that is guys deserve to have something unrealistic put on us to make us feel bad too.

[Alison H.]

I think the notion that gets pushed in mainstream society and porn that having a bigger penis makes you more of a man and better sexually and having a smaller one makes you less of a man is very damaging and unrealistic and needs to stop but I guess women get so much baggage put on them about their bodies that is guys deserve to have something unrealistic put on us to make us feel bad too.

Oh for sure; I don't think any gender is immune to having unrealistic expectations associated with their bodies, in one direction or another.

Most women aren't as hung up on size/girth as media (or porn) might lead one to believe. There ARE some women who are, of course, just as there are lots of men who prefer massive (borderline cartoonish) breasts, but I don't think it's as prevalent as we're taught to believe. I kinda can't help but laugh when a guy brags about his large size, though. For me, at least, it's a turn-off (figuratively and literally.) I'm like, "Super happy for you, go take it somewhere else..."

[JonnyR]

Oh this is a juicy topic!

Tecnique does for sure matter, but so too does size -- all things being equal.

A slightly larger penis just fills the space better, and if the girth is wide enough, the ribbing also can elicit more sensation, and g-spot stimulation.

That being said, just sticking a big D inside isn't a cure-all for a bad lover, so I would always recommend dudes learn how to pleasure women, proper positioning, confidence, making a woman feel safe and respected and free, etc

Those often will do more to "turn her on" than a large D.

[DNT]

I'm like, "Super happy for you, go take it somewhere else..."

Too funny! Hilarious in fact...lol!