[jane86]

jane86 Hello dear, your reply to last post didn't posted. May please resend it as you said.

Ok I'll try.

Wait until you have a partner before you start worrying about lasting longer. Masturbating and making love are very different things, you don't know how long it's going to take you to ejaculate in that situation. Different men last different amounts of time, if your partner loves you you'll make it work no matter what.

If it makes you feel better, my husband never lasted very long. I'm talking about actual intercourse. Especially if I was in charge, on top of him or sucking him off, forget it. Probably 2 minutes like you. Especially with me on top because the sight of my boobs bouncing about was too much for him. We always ended up in this ridiculous situation of me riding him while he looked away, took deep breaths and thought of *** naked to try and slow himself down. Kind of flattering for me and quite funny, but not very satisfying.

So it worked best when he was on top and could control the movements and speed, but even then the actual intercourse rarely lasted more than 5 minutes. But we did other stuff to satisfy me: usually he'd already made me cum with his tongue or his fingers as part of foreplay. Tongue and fingers don't ejaculate (otherwise lesbians would be in big trouble!) so you can always use those, for as long as you want. I could also help myself during intercourse with my fingers or with a vibrator, and then if I needed more orgasms after he'd finished, I'd continue playing with myself.

My point is, somehow we managed for many years with his short duration, I know I've just taken a lover and yes he lasts much longer so maybe I'm the wrong person to try and reassure you here, but everyone's different and ultimately couples find ways.

There are also technique to help slow yourself down, maybe you could practise those during masturbation? Apart from breathing more slowly and taking your thoughts elsewhere like my husband did, I've heard of something called edging where you get really close to orgasm and then stop long enough for the orgasm to subside, then you start again. You'd have to ask a guy who practises edging how it works exactly, or maybe look it up.

I know I'm repeating myself but please don't worry abut this stuff until you actually get to have sex with someone. Then if you still have problems lasting, you can tackle them.?

[summer21031985]

Dear jane86 you are really very sweet and kind and very helpful too. You are also a very good mentor too. Thank you for all your help and guidance.

I have seen in the porn videos that they lasts much longer for around 30 minutes giving BJ then playing with penis and then finally insertion. So I doubted that If I would even start with BJ hardly I will cum in less then a minute and then I wouldn't be able to insert.All this stuffs create self doubt.

[Wednesday L.F.]

I'm not experienced enough to be anyone's mentor but if you have any questions, please post them here and either myself or other people will help, that's what the public forum is for.

I had written a response to your last post but it's been put under moderation, I'm guessing it's because I mentioned the name of a famous British politician next to the word "naked" so it was filtered as spam. Maybe it will get published, otherwise I'll copy and paste again without that sentence.

Hi Jane, as an FYI, our system will sometimes flag long, graphic depictions of sexual acts to be spam. If you can believe this, sex workers sometimes frequent our forums with long erotic posts as a way to attract new clients. Obviously, this is something we try to avoid for a variety of reasons. Hope that helps.