[jcbmv11]

This is not okay.
First of all, the devil needs no advocate.
Second, there’s no biological imperative that says men need more sex than women, or that male bodies react badly to a dearth of sex. That’s what nocturnal emissions are for.
Third, do consider how incredibly selfish it is to expect your partner to change their medication regimen so you can have more sex. It also seems like if she’d wanted to do that, she’d have done it by now.
…and finally, there’s a great series on this very site that can teach you how to make an array of DIY fleshlights that will always agree to your demands.

Nocturnal emissions and angst are bad reactions lol. Let me be clear: I was just trying to offer some possible insight. He has no right to expect sex to an excessive frequency, and he certainly shouldn't be making you feel uncomfortable or used. I just wish and hope that you both find some time to be genuinely romantic with each other.

It could be considered selfish, but likewise, her continued desire to use birth control that causes side effects that damage the relationship could also be considered selfish on her part...but again, really appreciate your input. It's helpful to hear a third party perspective!

[Wednesday L.F.]

Luckily, condoms or a vasectomy are available options to her so-called selfishness.

[jcbmv11]

Luckily, condoms or a vasectomy are available options to her so-called selfishness.

Good thoughts, but I don't think this would help persuade her. She is not on the pill for pregnancy prevention. She is on it for period-related reasons. Maybe there is an alternative birth control that would have less effect on libido and also offer period-ease...?

[Wednesday L.F.]

There may be, if indeed it’s hormonal birth control that’s causing a decreased libido. Do you know if she’s discussed this with her doctor? Does she see the issue as a libido problem that she wants to address? Of course, if alcohol makes her more sexually open, hormones may not even be a factor.