[Gotya]

So my girlfriend the other night made some hints that she would like a MFF threesome. She told me about a sexy dream she had where she was taken by a girl while I was watching and they had a good time, then I got in the mix.

Where do you think we should go from here. She said she would be into it, but well yep, dont know what to do from here, we will talk about it more but and need to find a third party, thoughts?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

So my girlfriend the other night made some hints that she would like a MFF threesome. She told me about a sexy dream she had where she was taken by a girl while I was watching and they had a good time, then I got in the mix.

Where do you think we should go from here. She said she would be into it, but well yep, dont know what to do from here, we will talk about it more but and need to find a third party, thoughts?

Off course, the natural thing for a male is to say whoohoo, every man's dream.

Do you know whether she has had previous sexual relationships with females, or whether she has a particular female in mind?

The later because there may have been conversations that you are un-aware of and the initial because if she has you may run the risk of losing out to the other woman, after this has occured.

If neither and it was just a dream, as women off course can have and most have at least thoughts of bi-sexuality, then you have to ask yourself how open minded she has been throughout your relationship.

Again, you run the risk of her feeling jealous after, or you actually wanting it again, worse, from the same woman...

Lastly, i would say how deeply in love are you, truly in love ie) would you see this woman as the one you one day want to marry?

Would you feel that she may cheat as a result and therefore, never venture that thought again.

There are lots of questions and you possibly need to think carefully and ask them to yourself prior to acting upon that fantasy.

CW

[Gotya]

She has never been with any other women, we have been going out 4 years going on 5 at the moment. We only began talking about this subject so there is much to find out. I dont know who she would like, she spoke about her dream in an open way, the girl, she...things like this.

Also It wouldnt be a "full" threesome in that I wouldnt have sex with the other woman, it would be about my girlfriend completely.

[lafemelle]

I have never, EVER heard of a good outcome from a threesome. No matter how close the couple was, no matter how much they discussed/planned it ahead of time, it didn't end up as they had imagined it. Just like that first responder mentioned, jealousy does come into play and YES, more often than not one partner finds themselves wanting more with the "other" person after the threesome is over.

I'm not saying don't do it, because it's your decision and I can't make it for you. But I'm letting you know that I personally know many people who have been involved in threesomes, and there has never been anything good to come of any of them. So really think about whether it would be worth it once it's all said and done.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Also It wouldnt be a "full" threesome in that I wouldnt have sex with the other woman, it would be about my girlfriend completely.

If she can play around why can't you? Seems a bit unfair.

If it's something that you both want to do, go for it. Maybe find someone that neither of you know for it to stop things getting akward.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

If she can play around why can't you? Seems a bit unfair.

If it's something that you both want to do, go for it. Maybe find someone that neither of you know for it to stop things getting akward.

I do agree with this, i stayed away from your answer, wanting to see thoughts of others.

There is a possiblity that she is doing this for your pleasure, but without your involvement means that she can't get upset, jealous, as females tend to think it's not having sexual relations if with another female in front of their man but is, if it is with another man.

Simularily, she may not want you to be with another woman.

So, have you asked or established why? She wants this but you don't or she doesn't want you to get involved?

CW

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Yeah, the more I think about it the less I think I'd agree to a threesome like that, simpy because I detest hypocracy, and I wouldn't like her getting one over me. If she can "cheat" but you can't.... She seems to think (as many women do) that it's fine if it's the same sex... simply because it benefits them to think so.

Maybe you should start getting off with some guy, and not letting her anywhere near the action lol, see how it makes her feel.

So yeah, I'd say: "Anything you can do, I can do, if you can kiss her, so can I... blah blah."

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Yeah, the more I think about it the less I think I'd agree to a threesome like that, simpy because I detest hypocracy, and I wouldn't like her getting one over me. If she can "cheat" but you can't.... She seems to think (as many women do) that it's fine if it's the same sex... simply because it benefits them to think so.

Maybe you should start getting off with some guy, and not letting her anywhere near the action lol, see how it makes her feel.

So yeah, I'd say: "Anything you can do, I can do, if you can kiss her, so can I... blah blah."

Exactly, it's kind of one way hey ANON. However, i think as i said, being with another woman, WOMEN, think they are not cheating. But, it is the same, as you state.

Eweeeeee... to um that bit... blokey bit, but a very interesting question i think that he could pose for reaction to see, the , reaction.

CW

[talk time]

I have had a number of friends who have had threesomes with their long term partner and another and in all cases it has opened the door to cheating aftrerwards. It is like saying it is ok to have other people in your sex life and opens doors. I think the best threesome experience would be when your single and it is all about the sex.

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[Fallen1]

I think threesomes can be very dangerous to a relationship. In my opinion they are best left to the single crowd.