[C]

Absolutley correct. Nothing like the real thing. God made beautiful men for us WOMEN.

I think in the last two years I have heard at least 50 women say that I am not shook up by my partner...So he inserts himself inside me and I use a clit vibrator on myself to have an orgasm...The husband may be satisfied or not...I am not familiar with this....BUT..

I question why these same women don't have their man go down between their legs...You know lay on your back and really spread for him..Make it so that he can mount you when you scream from passion...Have him lick you and tongue you until you start to orgasm and squirm with the passion that is escaping...As this happens have him crawl on you as fast as he can...Have him taste the passion that you feel and join you in this sexual mating game...This is an awesome way to make love. Why have your own kick that you make when he can jack you off eating you and then enter you and turn the gears at the same time...

It is hard for me to believe that having a man in back of you licking you before doggy in that hot position that you can't orgasm...I'll bet you can...and then scream for him to put it in and fast...I hope I am not going to get edited on this but darn, it is the facts of life...

You see I have never known a vibrator until three years ago this Fall. Never in all my life...Stu*id Yes or Stu*id NO???....In this time we have learned to use our sexual bodies to perfection...So we are raw hot sex...And still are and always will be...Sex in all places and doing anything...Turning myself on not wearing underwear...Bending over the sofa...Hot sexual talk...

I am not against what you all know and love....It is that it is a machine and lord man is so much better or maybe I am all wet....

Absolutley correct. Nothing like the real thing. God made beautiful men for us WOMEN.



, girl! You killed me with that. I mean really did a number on my psyche. You have GOT to be a writer. A poet, or romance writer, or something. Tell me I'm right.

Thank you for your kind words...I am one thing...A woman....A woman helplessly and hopelessly in love with a man as much as the first time I saw him.....I could still eat him alive.....and may I say, I look forward to the day I will be able to do this again...(four more weeks....He had hip replacement surgery)......But hugs to you for that....xx C

[SorridLives]

Caroline wrote:
I will agree with you that if this is necessary go with it...But the problem that comes up so many times is that the partner so often gets frustrated that he alone cannot stimulate the woman enough...Why must she have something else helping her? He did this to her long ago and she loved it and why not now.. How long will this vibrator do the trick before the thrill of this wears off? It does you know...Anything that is used too much becomes a habit...The part stimulated can sometimes be difficult to wake up...If you are able to just use body parts to stimulate each other before penetration this is the way to go...Don't cross over unless you have to...I know some women cannot orgasm from just the thrill of their partner...But be careful with the vibrator in bed with man....Just my thoughts on this...

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Caroline, we will have to agree to disagree a little on this one because I think that there are times,- especially when a woman doesn't know her body well enough or the man is built in a way that is not perfect for her, that a woman may *need* a little help like a sex toy during sex in order to finish with climax or a faster climax. I have heard of guys having to work for long periods of time to get their woman to climax, and that gets boring for them too....It becomes work. Believe it or not, not everyone orgams instantly or easily.
I am lucky, I climax pretty fast. However, I can have a lot stronger of an orgasm sometimes with a toy, and I do partake. I guess that is because I can have more combo vaginal and clit orgasms with a toy.
Intercourse and intercourse alone is romantic and all...and satisfying in more than a sexual way....but some people need help.

[jonny]

Seeing you are not a woman you have no idea of what a woman feels internally during orgasm...

True, true. true.

Why should there be an extra boost needed?

More pleasure?

The vibrator can go as long as the batteries last.

Find me that guy, and i'll give him a gold medal.

He drove you wild then and still should...Even with this new implement, the orgasms will get harder and harder to find and the closeness that once was could be lost....

Some need it because he never drove her wild.

Atleast not with his sexual skills.

I second this.

Thank you.

Seeing I can only speak about myself and because I do not use these during sex, it is best I bow out of this thread or any thread pertaining to this...Again, I am sorry if I offended you....Take care, Caroline.

You didn't offend anyone.

[C]

True, true. true.




More pleasure?

The vibrator can go as long as the batteries last.

Find me that guy, and i'll give him a gold medal.

But what is the price for all this pleasure???? The face of the lover changes...Soon, like Porn, he cannot fulfill her needs and the vibrator becomes No.1....For many women a hot vibrator and large dildo can do one heck of a trick......

Some need it because he never drove her wild.

Atleast not with his sexual skills.

THEN SHE SHOULD NOT HAVE MARRIED HIM...SO MANY WOMEN AND MEN DO NOT REALIZE THAT WHAT THEY HAVE SEEN IS WHAT THEY WILL GET..Libido does not change...



Thank you.




You didn't offend anyone.

Thank you for your kindness....

[C]

Caroline wrote:
I will agree with you that if this is necessary go with it...But the problem that comes up so many times is that the partner so often gets frustrated that he alone cannot stimulate the woman enough...Why must she have something else helping her? He did this to her long ago and she loved it and why not now.. How long will this vibrator do the trick before the thrill of this wears off? It does you know...Anything that is used too much becomes a habit...The part stimulated can sometimes be difficult to wake up...If you are able to just use body parts to stimulate each other before penetration this is the way to go...Don't cross over unless you have to...I know some women cannot orgasm from just the thrill of their partner...But be careful with the vibrator in bed with man....Just my thoughts on this...

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Caroline, we will have to agree to disagree a little on this one because I think that there are times,- especially when a woman doesn't know her body well enough or the man is built in a way that is not perfect for her, that a woman may *need* a little help like a sex toy during sex in order to finish with climax or a faster climax. I have heard of guys having to work for long periods of time to get their woman to climax, and that gets boring for them too....It becomes work. Believe it or not, not everyone orgams instantly or easily.
I am lucky, I climax pretty fast. However, I can have a lot stronger of an orgasm sometimes with a toy, and I do partake. I guess that is because I can have more combo vaginal and clit orgasms with a toy.
Intercourse and intercourse alone is romantic and all...and satisfying in more than a sexual way....but some people need help.

Honey, I know that some women need help...What I was saying about a prelude to sex was just a suggestion....When a woman marries a man and she tells you that back when they were dating when he fingered her that this did nothing for her...Now after 25 years she wants to be all that she hears that a woman can be...She wants what she has missed...What do you tell her? She has never known the glory of an orgasm and even now when he touches her, she is immune to his touch....So many women dig this hole and then ask for the help in a ladder to get them out of it....How do you teach someone to talk dirty that cannot think dirty?....

So I suggest ways that we have found heaven...Not for everyone and I realize this, but I do hope that maybe one in a thousand finds there way down the Yellow Brick Road where I live....This is the only reason that I write...xx C

[SorridLives]

Honey, I know that some women need help...What I was saying about a prelude to sex was just a suggestion....When a woman marries a man and she tells you that back when they were dating when he fingered her that this did nothing for her...Now after 25 years she wants to be all that she hears that a woman can be...She wants what she has missed...What do you tell her? She has never known the glory of an orgasm and even now when he touches her, she is immune to his touch....So many women dig this hole and then ask for the help in a ladder to get them out of it....How do you teach someone to talk dirty that cannot think dirty?....

So I suggest ways that we have found heaven...Not for everyone and I realize this, but I do hope that maybe one in a thousand finds there way down the Yellow Brick Road where I live....This is the only reason that I write...xx C

Okay, Caroline...I guess I see your point in a way...but I still feel like using a toy is not a shame, if you can't orgasm the way you want to otherwise.

[miffed23]

Hello everyone. I recently posted a while back about sex toys and vibrators. Well i bought a few and my husband and i used then during foreplay. It was WONDERFUL!!!!! I found out that I get more of an orgasm through clit stimulation. I have done it a few times by myself. Now I am worried that I wont be able to have an orgasm with my husband on insertion. The orgasm with a vibrator on my clit its so much more intense! I am also afraid that the more i do it alone then i wont want my hubby or need him to help me. Any input?

- Glad youre enjoying your new toys!

As far as im concerned, i cant see that they will cause any unhealthy problems as long as your husband is happy with you having them. I definitely agree with incorporating the toys during foreplay or intercourse....especially if you get 'him'to use the vibrator on your clitoris - will give his tongue a rest, involve him and drive you wild

I doubt you need to worry about not being able to orgasm vaginally, just alternate periodically...keeping you 'trained', so to speak.

[C]

Okay, Caroline...I guess I see your point in a way...but I still feel like using a toy is not a shame, if you can't orgasm the way you want to otherwise.

Really I have no point...Each of us makes love the way that we enjoy it...I learned a different way but then I am older and knew no better....I speak of what I know and knew and women have learned a different method which is probably much better for them...What I am is me and fortunately or unfortunately depending upon how you look at it, I did not have to decide between masturbation or hot sex...

I have never in my life been aware of the difference in having sex and masturbating as I do now...Without getting the sex that I crave for the filling effect, I find that masturbation just does not do the trick....But other women know and love what they do better and I can accept this....But for me it is the real thing that is paradise...I find that, after this arid time in the desert without it, I will never have this question again...

[Fire(m)]

My wife uses vibrators. Nothing wrong with that. Sometimes we do use them in the act of intercouse. No problem with that either. Can I get her off without the vibe? Absolutely. Do I feel like less of a man when she wants to use the vibe? HECK no! Why would I? She loves me and she wants to have sex with ME. The vibe just adds an occasional bonus to the experience. I say...no biggie.

I think that too many people put limits on their sexuality...this is right...that is wrong. If we're talking about committed, monogamous, heterosexual sex with someone we love, then I don't think there should be any limits. Just enjoyment for BOTH people. Do what feels good to you. Do what you enjoy and truly love one another.

If she wants a feather tickling her butthole, then tickle her butthole with a feather...what do you care?!?!?! Make it feel good to her. If it's a vibe that zings her...let her use the vibe. She'll still want her man.

Even if the orgasm is ultimately powerful with a vibe way moreso than with just a penis going in and out...she's still going to want her man. Seriously...how often do you hear of a couple who gets along perfectly and has a great sex life getting a divorce because he was replaced by a vibrator? I've never heard of it.

Just relax and have an orgasm (or another one...or another one...or another one...)
Cheers

[C]

My wife uses vibrators. Nothing wrong with that. Sometimes we do use them in the act of intercouse. No problem with that either. Can I get her off without the vibe? Absolutely. Do I feel like less of a man when she wants to use the vibe? HECK no! Why would I? She loves me and she wants to have sex with ME. The vibe just adds an occasional bonus to the experience. I say...no biggie.

To many men, including mine, the vibrator is a third party in bed....He married a woman not needing it and all the sudden it is a necessity....

I think that too many people put limits on their sexuality...this is right...that is wrong. If we're talking about committed, monogamous, heterosexual sex with someone we love, then I don't think there should be any limits. Just enjoyment for BOTH people. Do what feels good to you. Do what you enjoy and truly love one another.

We are actually vanilla with a hint of chocolate...

If she wants a feather tickling her butthole, then tickle her butthole with a feather...what do you care?!?!?! Make it feel good to her. If it's a vibe that zings her...let her use the vibe. She'll still want her man.

As long as she wants the man this is OK.....But many, many end up not wanting the MESS of man and the marriage goes to ....It becomes her second and best lover....

Even if the orgasm is ultimately powerful with a vibe way moreso than with just a penis going in and out...she's still going to want her man. Seriously...how often do you hear of a couple who gets along perfectly and has a great sex life getting a divorce because he was replaced by a vibrator? I've never heard of it.

No, she loves the vibe and tolerates the man...Why do so many men end up having a girlfriend after the wife has aged and especially after menopause...She is just plain sick of sex....so he goes to his room and jacks off.....

Just relax and have an orgasm (or another one...or another one...or another one...)
Cheers

That is what I do but many don't.....