I'm a male and new to the forums. I wanted to ask all of you ladies here for help with my relationship with my girlfriend of six months.
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for six months now and a few days ago she drops some information about her past sexual history and how horrific it has been for her. She then proceeds to tell me other things and explains maybe these problems are mentally blocking her from having a fullfilled sex life. I was floored because she has seemed to enjoy sex up until this point. After questioning about our sex life I find out some things were not as they appeared.
She tells me that after about five minutes of sexual intercourse she cannot feel me inside of her and that because I take 30minutes-45minutes to climax that she is bored. Of course I am deeply hurt, and ask her why she lied to me for six months. I decided that because she wanted to please me and make me happy, and to protect my feelings, so I will not have any ill feelings towards her and have vowed to help her through this problem that we share.
I read somewhere that the vagina expands in length and width during sex that may be why after 5 minutes she cannot feel me. She explains that after that amount of time it feels just like someone is rubbing her with no pleasure, sort of like someone rubbing you on the arm. Of course she also mentions that after 45 minutes, just like if you were rubbing someones arm, that spot becomes sore and raw and she states that she only lets it drag on that long because she wants me to finish.
I have also noticed that she sees to have a wider vagina than most or is "looser" than other women I have slept with. We are also both overweight and I think that might contribute to our sexual frustrations as she is not as confident in herself and her body as a voluptuous woman should have.
I have also read that women, unlike many men are not sexually centered around physical pleasure. I asked her what she thinks about during sex, and she told me she thinks of nothing and doesn't know what she is supposed to be thinking about. Since I'm a man, I really just have to concentrate on the pleasure to climax, and when I go down on her so can she, but for intercourse I would like to know if any of you ladies out there could give her some insight on how to increase the sexual please. We have considered the option that I may be too small for her, but I continuously hit the end of her canal and and am of slightly above average girth and above average length. Additionally each time she has climaxed from intercourse I was hitting her clitoris in one way or another, missionary being her favorite position, but as she and I are overweight, it is sometimes hard to rub against.
In short I wanted to know if any of the women her could offer some insight to what is going on. If any of you have any questions that might aid in helping me figure this out, don't be afraid to ask me. Thank you all in advanced.
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for six months now and a few days ago she drops some information about her past sexual history and how horrific it has been for her. She then proceeds to tell me other things and explains maybe these problems are mentally blocking her from having a fullfilled sex life. I was floored because she has seemed to enjoy sex up until this point. After questioning about our sex life I find out some things were not as they appeared.
She tells me that after about five minutes of sexual intercourse she cannot feel me inside of her and that because I take 30minutes-45minutes to climax that she is bored. Of course I am deeply hurt, and ask her why she lied to me for six months. I decided that because she wanted to please me and make me happy, and to protect my feelings, so I will not have any ill feelings towards her and have vowed to help her through this problem that we share.
I read somewhere that the vagina expands in length and width during sex that may be why after 5 minutes she cannot feel me. She explains that after that amount of time it feels just like someone is rubbing her with no pleasure, sort of like someone rubbing you on the arm. Of course she also mentions that after 45 minutes, just like if you were rubbing someones arm, that spot becomes sore and raw and she states that she only lets it drag on that long because she wants me to finish.
I have also noticed that she sees to have a wider vagina than most or is "looser" than other women I have slept with. We are also both overweight and I think that might contribute to our sexual frustrations as she is not as confident in herself and her body as a voluptuous woman should have.
I have also read that women, unlike many men are not sexually centered around physical pleasure. I asked her what she thinks about during sex, and she told me she thinks of nothing and doesn't know what she is supposed to be thinking about. Since I'm a man, I really just have to concentrate on the pleasure to climax, and when I go down on her so can she, but for intercourse I would like to know if any of you ladies out there could give her some insight on how to increase the sexual please. We have considered the option that I may be too small for her, but I continuously hit the end of her canal and and am of slightly above average girth and above average length. Additionally each time she has climaxed from intercourse I was hitting her clitoris in one way or another, missionary being her favorite position, but as she and I are overweight, it is sometimes hard to rub against.
In short I wanted to know if any of the women her could offer some insight to what is going on. If any of you have any questions that might aid in helping me figure this out, don't be afraid to ask me. Thank you all in advanced.
It'll help to 'tighten' her up, so to speak. I doubt your size is the problem here, however, as uneeklyme said, the time scale might be... its fine to have a 45 minute session on occassions, but quickies can be just as fun... Although, with that said... im guessing its pretty hard for you to orgasm when shes not particularly enjoying it and shes not tight around you. (No offense intended)
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