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  • DarkFrost
    Member
    • Aug 2008
    • 12

    Originally posted by silvertae
    There's no excuse for cheating. If you can't wait for her, break up with her. Don't cheat. The options are not "have sex with my girlfriend OR cheat". The options are "wait til my girlfriend's ready to have sex and then do it with her, making sure we're both happy and comfortable with the situation..OR...break up and find someone else who is willing to have sex with me".

    I had sex with my boyfriend when I was 16 after waiting 5 months. That was the right time for me. But everyone is different. And I agree with someone else who said that if you can't talk to her about it, you shouldn't do it. But here's some practical advice. If you do have sex (or even just while you're still doing other things before sex) if you can't talk about it in person, hop online and chat with her. My first boyfriend and I spent a lot of time chatting on instant messenger talking about what we liked, what we didn't, etc going over our sexual encounters. I think this was a great way to communicate without the blushing that might occur face to face. It really worked for us.


    !!! I was gonna try this, but it makes me seem like I'm scared to talk to her in person or something... But I'll try it, see if it works, and report back on the situation

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    • Livelaughlove
      Veteran Member
      • Aug 2008
      • 456

      listen buddy,

      There is a way to get her into bed. There is a way to get any women into bed. However, I am not going to tell you because your too young. Wait another year or two.

      Enjoy your childhood man. Learn to get comfortable around women. For most men this is the hardest thing in the world. I'm sure women here can agree that there was that man once in the room that they were staring at but never had the courage to talk to them.

      Learn to play and tease them. When you grow up your going to realize that what was fun to girls at there teens and younger years they will love to do when there 40+. That old song of "Girls just want to have fun" couldn't be any closer to the truth.

      Instead of learning what to say or how to get her in bed. Get her on your couch and hit her with a pillow (lightly) and say "your it" and run around. Learn a cool magic trick or some palm reading. There is a little book you can buy it will only cost you $5 and it will captivate the girls imagination while letting you hold there hand. Its all part of the Palm reading. haha

      Have fun with her and be a kid. Worry about the adulthood when your old enough to buy porn. lol

      Hope this helps

      Live laugh and love
      Nice guys don't finish last, weak guys finish last.

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      • Clara1983
        Member
        • Aug 2008
        • 10

        LLL you sure do have some good advice.

        it's true Dark flirt with her like crazy and show her how much you care for her. if she just doesn't want to then you have to be understanding about it but don't think of leaving her for someone else that will have sex with you. Cause sex when you are a teenager is exciting cause you are doing it... but honestly kinda sucks lol cause neither of you know what the heck yu are doing. I'd say sex doesn't start to get really good until you are like mid twenties... am I right guys??? That's even early for some. Girls don't know what they like or are too shy to do it in front of boys or girls are super insecure about their bodies. Boys don't last very long don't know how to work things the right way um have n idea where the g spot is... ugh! you butt heads and there are akward moments and everything..lol you aren't going to be a virgin forever so just wait it out don't rush it.

        haha what i was trying to say in summary is if you are not ready for the awkwardness of discussing sex....... then you are in no way prepared for how akward sex itself can actually be!! Not to mention all the feelings you deal with after.

        And oh almost 8 out of 10 on my friends had parents walk in on them when they were having sex in highschool and that has to be top 10 most akward embarassing moments of your life hahaha. But it's really funny to share the stories when you are older and can laugh about it. So also in other words be prepared to talk about it with your parents just in case!! ahhhhh

        hehe
        Last edited by Fallen1; 08-22-2008, 05:49 AM. Reason: Merge posts

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        • Livelaughlove
          Veteran Member
          • Aug 2008
          • 456

          Originally posted by Clara1983
          LLL you sure do have some good advice.
          Tell me something i dont already know. haha

          live laugh and love
          Nice guys don't finish last, weak guys finish last.

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          • DarkFrost
            Member
            • Aug 2008
            • 12

            Originally posted by Clara1983
            And oh almost 8 out of 10 on my friends had parents walk in on them when they were having sex in highschool and that has to be top 10 most akward embarassing moments of your life hahaha. But it's really funny to share the stories when you are older and can laugh about it. So also in other words be prepared to talk about it with your parents just in case!! ahhhhh

            hehe
            I plan to do it on a night when my mom is out and about :]... Anyways, LLL, do explain the way to get her into bed... :P...I'm not gonna use it, I think I'm going to just wait until I'm sure I'm madly in love with her, and she with me, and when the moments right, I'll go for it.


            Thanks for the replies

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            • CHANDLERS WISH
              • Mar 2008
              • 22440

              Originally posted by DarkFrost
              I plan to do it on a night when my mom is out and about :]... Anyways, LLL, do explain the way to get her into bed... :P...I'm not gonna use it, I think I'm going to just wait until I'm sure I'm madly in love with her, and she with me, and when the moments right, I'll go for it.


              Thanks for the replies
              Oh dear So you've picked the place and now the time? haha.

              You are going to actually just be you, enjoy your time together, let her give you signs, talk openly then with her, (probably) a few months from now, way not yet...

              And LLL would have given that advice if he thought it would be good to do so, but he's smart and he will agree with the above paragraph and say, hold yourself, i mean back, and make it a mutual thing... Then you don't need to know how to get her into bed because you would have "both" discussed it and decided together haha.

              CW
              PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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              • DarkFrost
                Member
                • Aug 2008
                • 12

                Thanks for the awesome replies. I talked to her about it and she said she was ready, and we agreed on doing it when the time feels best.

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                • Livelaughlove
                  Veteran Member
                  • Aug 2008
                  • 456

                  Originally posted by DarkFrost
                  Anyways, LLL, do explain the way to get her into bed... :P...I'm not gonna use it,
                  I think it would be like giving a monkey a hammer. Without going too deep into psychology just know that men that have sex at young ages typically look at women "differently"

                  I stand by my original advice of having fun with her.

                  Good luck my friend.

                  Live laugh and love
                  Nice guys don't finish last, weak guys finish last.

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                  • DarkFrost
                    Member
                    • Aug 2008
                    • 12

                    Haha, ok.

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                    • Fire(m)
                      Veteran Member
                      • Jul 2008
                      • 236

                      Dark Frost. You would be well served to wait a year or two before you indulge in penetrative sex with your girlfriend. I've read through the three pages of posts so far and I feel with some sense of assuredness that you are not ready to have sex with your girl. CAN you do it? Yep. Is it wise? Nope. Do what you will, but my advice is to wait it out for awhile until you reach a different maturity level.
                      Cheers.

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