[alicat]

ah, i will never forget the first time i tried-key word is "tried"-giving my ex a blow job, he pushed me away and that was that. maybe that is why he is the ex - lol

new husband so much better in every way

my advice is to have her start somewhere - anywhere - be careful at first of the "don't stops" let her be in control of what she is comfortable with. don't hold her head and gentle thrusting only. let her know when you are fixing to cum so that she can decide whether to continue pleasuring you with her mouth or finishing you with her hands. be very complimentary, let her know that you are enjoying it, that it feels good, etc.

to swallow or not to swallow remains her choice always, i had trouble with this at first and would just continue to lick while letting his fluids just run back down (of course assisting with clean up). now i'm more comfortable with it and enjoying driving him wild

remember, too many women are brought up thinking that sex is something dirty and it takes time to re-learn that it's not

[Phoebee]

Never EVER go to bed without first having taken a shower or bath. Oral sex and "funk" = no oral sex. Durex makes a condom called "For her Pleasure" which is flavored and makes it possible for her to do oral sex without any fear of having to swallow. *If thats the problem.

Men - Trim or shave your pubes. There is probably no more un-sexual thing in the world then getting pubic hair stuck between your teeth.

[Justice]

She doesn't have to deep throat you to give good head! licking, sucking, hand movements, ball rubbing etc...

Ok question. I have never given a blow job. I have a VERY small mouth (the dentist even has commented how hard it can be to work on my mouth) and not only a horrible gag reflex but am phobic about getting sick (emetophobia)... All of those porn scenes where a woman takes a huge (even a average) penis into her mouth and where it looks like the guy is f'ng the woman's mouth, just really freak me out. And several women I know complain how much they hate giving oral sex, so that is not reassuring.


So I want to know whether it can be pleasurable for the guy when the woman licks, and sucks -from the sides, around the ridge or even on the head without taking his penis/head INTO her mouth? Using your mouth and your hands, but not taking even the head? Or would most guys say don't bother. I always thought that for a woman getting oral would be heaven and would like to be able to reciprocate

[jen1447]

I think most guys will be glad that you're doing anything at all down there.