[msfoxy03]

Ok, I have had little experience when it comes to riding. I was always told what positions to be in. The guy I am with now is the first person to encourage me to be on top. I have even tried to resist because its a little embarassing not knowing what I am doing, but he seems to like me trying. Im a plus size girl, and my stomach doesnt bother, but the getting tired does. I exercise regularly to increase my endurance and overall health. What can I do to enjoy the ride MORE?

By the way i have only had one oeal orgasm, and surprisingly it was being on top, but i cant remember what i did to reach that point. Can someone explain how I should position my legs, feet, knees, and body so that i can enjoy being on top?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Finding the right position for your body is the key and it does appear that yours is on top, as you have experienced an orgasm from this.

The beauty about being on top is that you are in control, you can move in which ever fashion you want to, enter slightly and then deeply, what ever you want.

The man, loves this position as he is being controlled and he can lay back and enjoy and not have to perform, I don't think it matters at all what you do.

I think if i am right, that you are trying to use your "energy" here, going faster and therefore running out of breathe?

It is not about that, it's about just letting yourself go, feeling what you are doing and how it makes you feel and enjoying it. You can go deep, contract your muscles, "squeeze" those muscles and come back up slowly and he will still love that..

This is your experimentation as well as this is where you experienced your orgasm, just do it as you want, if you can use your arms to hold onto the top of the bed it will release pressure as well for you.

But, don't worry about where your legs, feet should be etc, as I said, it's about your bodies becoming one in that time phrame, just close your eyes and feel what your feeling and your response will excit him and as i said, he is able to watch you perform for him, it's not about energy rather "feeling" the whole experience.

CW

[anonymouswhitefemale]

In my experience, which is admittedly far from comprehensive, women are pretty bad at being on top. It's not something they're born with. They don't understand the angles, and they don't have stamina.

So, first off, you have to get a bit more fit. It's the one position in sex where the guy doesn't have to do everything, and if you're tired in 1 minute he's going to be disappointed. Also, don't be a c0ckbreaker, you can't just bounce around at any old angle. Different penises are different shapes... For example mine is curved upwards, so bending it downwards generally means: "Ok, get off, I'm going for a walk instead".

[CHANDLERS WISH]

In my experience, which is admittedly far from comprehensive, women are pretty bad at being on top. It's not something they're born with. They don't understand the angles, and they don't have stamina.

So, first off, you have to get a bit more fit. It's the one position in sex where the guy doesn't have to do everything, and if you're tired in 1 minute he's going to be disappointed. Also, don't be a c0ckbreaker, you can't just bounce around at any old angle. Different penises are different shapes... For example mine is curved upwards, so bending it downwards generally means: "Ok, get off, I'm going for a walk instead".

my favorite? okay i am way older... yep we are not born with it, it is a matter of finding your best postiton... that suits both partners and comfortability.

Stamina i agree with but pending on the man? If he talks a long time no offense, it's an equal world swap position, We surely are not expected to start and finish? If you are a long stander? Do the doggy style for instance, so you can get your breath again..

My ex-fiance was "curved upwards" and so , we learnt to experience different angles so yes that is important, to know your partner.

Actually, I quite liked that to be honest.

Is it not about finding each other's position and what works best?


CW

[silvertae]

It's really just a matter of trial and error and all depends on you and your boyfriend. Like anon mentions, the angle of his penis can affect what's comfortable for him so just make sure he feels comfortable telling you if it's hurting, and don't get offended if that happens!

I think it can often happen that what will feel right to get you off will not be the stimulation that gets him off. I get off by grinding up against my boyfriend rather than up and down movement, but he generally needs the up and down. So I do my thing for a few minutes until I get off and then he starts to move me in the way that will do it for him.

[msfoxy03]

well so far he hasnt complained when im on top, and hes always encouraging me to do so. his facial expressions are hard to read because he makes the same expressions when he is on top.
I noticed when in the doggystyle position, i have way more endurance and he doesnt have to do anything, he really enjoys that position.
next time we will have an open conversation about favorite positions, i am just shy when it comes to talking to my partner about satisfaction.

[WildChild]

Talk, ask, share, 'this feels wonderful for me, does it work for you?' Don't let him control it but ask which is better, this way or this? Anony is right, most of us women need some time to get a feel for this, every man is different and you are different with each lover and each time with one lover varies. What works this time may not be so good or may be even better another time. Try it in a big stuffed chair or a dining chair where your feet can leverage off the floor and give you more control, you can pull up so just his head is in you and tease it a bit, then lower yourself to take all or part of his length, you can also reach back and play with his balls and his pernium. Remember, to improve all sex, kegel, kegel, kegel

[msfoxy03]

i have noticed that during sex I will start to do Kegal exercises and it makes him orgasm faster. he cant control himself once i start doing those?

[sTyLeRock]

Kegal Exercises are definatly something that'll make him go crazy haha,

Now as someone before posted that women are bad at being on top and aren't born with knowing how, it's the same with males i am sure that women can agree that they would of had some short term relationships with the man just being bullocks in bed and not knowing what he is doing,

Personally if there is something that i am not good at but i want to do be i'll go out and learn everything i can about it.

Now with your current problem you could look up positions, tips, techniques on the net as well as excersises and things you can do,

Now you said you only had one orgasm from being up top? that could of been the friction and grinding on the clit which would of given you a clitorial orgasms or you could of been in a position where while inside you he was rubbing your G/A or Deep Spot, once you learn how to be on top you'll be able to control the angle and find out what you like and orgasm,

Google is your friend, i've never had a problem that no one else in the world has had before.

[msfoxy03]

What sites or books can you suggest?