[CharlesV]

I never use a vibrator if there is a man in my bed. I can use a toy on my own. If I have to use a toy to get myself off while he does nothing for me. What happens then? He gets to use my body for his orgasm?? I'd get him one of the fake vaginas and then watch. I don't understand why men buy toys for women to use during sex. A toy does not take the place of a man's hands and mouth.

Men have a hard time understanding the concept of mutuality in sex and woman are so accommodating they don't turn things around. They just stop having sex. If men got it they would have more sex but, there you are.

Agree 100% with your first paragraph Allie - your man should be able to do what your toy can...

With your second paragraph, well don't limit it just to men, I know plenty of selfish ungiving women who are at sex too, its not just a male thing!

[LadySue]

I enjoy oral but it can take me a long time to reach my goal and my poor hubby probably thinks he has got lockjaw lol. But if he usess a bullit vibe on my clit along with his licking WooooW!!!!

[penguy]

Can't it be both? My SO's preferred order of business is oral to orgasm, followed by intercourse (she rarely orgasms, but finds it highly enjoyable nonetheless), followed by vibe to orgasm. The last O is usually really intense.

[Little_Miss_Me]

Depending who is preforming the oral. I've had one remarkable fellow that I'd prefer that than any other sexual feeling in the world. Most of the time, I'd go with my vib.

[skirt99]

Its all about time. For me, oral takes time but my orgasms are super intense. If I'm just horney and need a quick fix, I'm pulling my Hitachi Magic Wand out of the drawer.