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    my boyfriend introduced pegging to our sex life. i had a talk at the beginning. he said he is not gay and he is only sexually attracted to woman. a guy is only gay if sexually attracted to other guys and bi if sexually attracted to both. my boyfriend is fits the definition of straight.

    i know pegging is a role reversal act for straight couples but he wants to spice up the pegging. he bought a squirting dildo for me to use and fill with a lubricant made like real sperm so i can simulate cumming on or in him. he's turned on by the idea of me finishing when we reverse the roles. i know my boyfriend doesn't like guys. is this still straight because i'm his girlfriend and is this just a new kinky act for our sex life?
    Last edited by Alison H.; 09-17-2021, 05:20 PM.

  • In my opinion... I think its a little strange, but that's just how I see it. My husband is aroused my anal stimulation, however I don't believe he'd ever want me to pretend to cum in him with a strap on, on.

    Is this something that you are comfortable doing with him, are you aroused by taking the man's position? By taking this roll does it make you feel "gay"?
    If you are aroused by doing it and don't feel "gay" then no I don't believe you should suspect him of having those feelings.

    But if you are not comfortable with doing it you should talk to him about it.

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    • i wouldn't feel gay taking it to a new level but it was a big surprise cause it is unusual. i'm curious because my boyfriend matches the definition of straight so it sounded like it's just a kink for our sex life. i am aroused but if i do it would it be straight sex?

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      • Your boyfriend likes anal sex. So do many men and women regardless of their sexuality. The sexual acts that we enjoy are very different than who we are attracted to. A person could be gay and not enjoy anal sex. A man can be attracted to only women but enjoy anal stimulation. Its all fun. As long as you are comfortable with it, don't worry about it. If anything, he is comfortable with his sexuality and confident enough with you to ask you to share this new sexual experience with him. Many straight men enjoy pegging.

        If you want to learn more about this, there is an educational video series call Bend Over Boyfriend (B.O.B) that you may find helpful. The videos star sexologist Carol Queen, who discusses pegging and also demonstrates the practice with her lover.
        Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)

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        • The act does not determine gay or straight - the gender preference does. Many men really enjoy anal play and strap-on sex. Prostate stimulation can be very pleasurable. Role reversal allows you both the opportunity to experience your partner's side of things during sex. It can build intimacy because you have more understanding and compassion for your partner's usual role during sex. have fun!

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          • First of all, it doesn't matter what label you use. That said, in my opinion a man is straight if he only wants to engage with sexual acts (of any kind) with a woman, gay if he only wants sexual acts with another man, an bi if he is interested in sexual acts with both men and women.

            Again though it doesn't matter. If this is something you both enjoy doing, I see absolutely no problem with it.

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            • I think your BF has shown you great deal of trust by asking you to make it possible for him to experience this. Many men do indeed find anal stimulation pleasurable but are afraid and embarrassed to ask their partners to do this to them because they are afraid of the connotations of 'gayness' it may carry.

              I agree it is a little unusual, and you need to feel comfortable with doing this. I've let a woman do this to me once before and found it quite enjoyable but was a little disappointed because I didn't - and still haven't to this day - managed to have a prostate orgasm. The role reversal thing can be very erotic to men, and if he is quite a 'rough and ready', assertive type of guy then taking a submissive role like this may be all the more of a turn on to him.

              Good luck...
              "The greatest enemy will hide in the last place you will ever look" [I]Julius Caesar[/I]

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              • you are a good girlfriend Hot_Kiss

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                • I think anything goes in a committed relationship if you are BOTH comfortable with it. It sounds like you aren't. its thats the case then thats a different story. If you are having fun too, then don't worry. Enjoy xx

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                  • As others have said, if you're cool with it (and it's great you're open to his desires), then have fun with it. You're lucky he feels comfortable enough and trusts you enough to be so honest. Yr a lucky woman.

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