A Beginner’s Guide To Pegging

If you’re curious about pegging and want to explore this sex act where a woman anally penetrates her partner and is both a kink and a fetish, you’re not alone.
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Did you know that many men enjoy prostate stimulation and almost two-thirds of them fantasize about being on the receiving end of anal sex?

While the act of pegging might be a turn-off to some folks, it just so happens to be an exciting form of ass play and can encompass both a kink and a fetish.

Pegging reverses “traditional” gender norms and sexually speaking, usually refers to a woman wearing a strap-on dildo in order to anally pleasure a man during sex.

Often overlooked as an erogenous zone, a man’s anus and prostate can potentially be a source of incredible sexual pleasure, all made possible through anal penetration.

Whether you’re already into pegging, curious about how it works, why some folks enjoy it so much, or how to do it, you’re certainly not alone.

Prepare to open your mind and your body in the quest of the mystical, mythical prostate orgasm as we explore pegging and all it entails.

Editor’s Note: Sections of this article that cover pegging as an activity, toys and accessories, and how to approach pegging were reviewed for accuracy by Susan Milstein, Ph.D. – Human Sexuality, who sits on our medical review board.

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What Is Pegging?

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Pegging is a slang term that refers to the sexual act in which a woman anally penetrates her partner using a foreign object, typically a strap-on dildo.

The term “pegging” was the result of a contest held by sex columnist Dan Savage to name the act of a woman penetrating a straight guy with a foreign object.

More than 12,000 people cast votes that were spread between the words punt, bob (as in “bend over boyfriend”), and peg.

Twenty years later, pegging is still going strong.

The human body is a marvel of engineering, no doubt, but it is also an epicenter for entertainment and enjoyment.

There are countless pleasure centers spanning the body, but few can top the classics we all know and love.

Between heterosexual couples, the traditional penis-in-vagina reigns supreme, with anal sex also frequently explored.

But too seldom does the man’s anus receive any attention, which is a shame!

In one study, 170 university-going men discussed the practice and perception of anal stimulation, where it was revealed that 24% of them had experienced anal pleasure.

Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist, Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute, and a member of our medical review board, conducted a survey of more than 4,000 people when he was writing his book, “Tell Me What You Want.”

Almost 60% of the men Dr. Lehmiller surveyed had fantasized about being on the receiving end of anal sex, while around 40% of women had fantasies about giving it.

These folks were diverse with respect to their sexual orientation, which tells us that many men across the sexual spectrum are into anal play — it’s not a “gay activity.”

We spoke with Carol Queen, Ph.D., who was a member of the team who produced “the first explicit informational movie about this kind of play,” called “Bend Over Boyfriend.”

Carol says the film was responsible for the Dan Savage contest, where the term “pegging” first originated.

Although she and her partner practice pegging, people who came to her store, Good Vibrations, would frequently ask about it, and from their many questions, a film — and its sequel — were born.

What Happens During Pegging?

While there are many variations to almost every sexual act, pegging generally consists of a woman donning a harness with a dildo or other sex toy attached so she can anally penetrate a man.

Lubricant is generously applied to the strap-on pegging toy, as well as the man’s rectum.

As we’ll discuss later on, pegging is equal parts lubrication and communication!

This is a team sport, because through rhythmic insertion by the man’s partner, the dildo activates the sensitive nerve endings in his anus while providing stimulation that can lead to a prostate orgasm.

Why Do People Like Pegging?

There are a few basic reasons people might enjoy pegging:

  • Novelty — it’s always fun to try something new
  • Anal stimulation feels good
  • Prostate stimulation provides more powerful orgasms
  • Power transfer dynamics — the woman is in charge

Anything you can share and mutually enjoy with your partner is worth doing — especially when you’re naked!

For both men and women, anal stimulation can potentially be a pleasurable activity because of the extensive nerve endings in the anus.

One pegging aficionado from London, 47-year-old Samuel, told us that he was married for 15 years — the last few of which were sexless — and he was dying to try something new.

He refers to his foray into BDSM and pegging as “a refreshing journey.” Samuel told us:

“I always considered anal sex to be something gay men participated in. I learned through pornography that some men enjoyed their prostate gland to be massaged, resulting in orgasm unlike that from penis stimulation. A girlfriend who was in the kink community bought me a butt plug as her first gift to me.”

Samuel is far from alone in his enjoyment of prostate stimulation and plenty of heterosexual men fantasize about receiving anal sex.

As we mentioned earlier, some women fantasize about giving it, too!

One forum user said that his girlfriend was a fan of the idea long before they actually spoke about her fantasy.

“Before we ever did any pegging,” he began, “[she] used to play hump me every now and then. We generally had our clothes on, and it was usually just for fun and I’d get a huge laugh out of it.”

“It started when she thought it would be funny to dry hump me, mimicking how I hump her when we’re having sex,” he continued.

“The funny thing is, looking back on these play humps,” he observed, “she may have been trying [to] disguise that her play humps were actually a release for her; a way to act out her fantasy that she never told me about.”

“Another funny thing is that these sessions served as sort of like a training for the real thing (which we never saw coming),” he said.

Some people like to have their rectum massaged by their partner during intercourse or while receiving oral sex. It can add an exciting, new spin to an old favorite.

One study reported that 10.4% of men found having their anus stimulated by their partner’s fingers was “very appealing,” with another 19.2% finding it “somewhat appealing.”

As time goes on and their exploration deepens, some people may discover that full-on anal penetration can be just as fun and interesting — or even more so!

By the time you have a full finger inserted into your anus, you might be ready to take things to the next level.

For some men, orgasms that involve prostate stimulation, also known as hitting the “P-spot,” can be far more pleasurable than orgasms induced from other forms of stimulation.

The prostate gland is located just behind the testicles, directly adjacent to the perineum.

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It can be massaged from outside the body by yourself or by a partner, though nothing compares to rubbing the lamp the right way and letting that genie out of the bottle by stimulating the prostate internally.

Physical pleasure aside, pegging can also represent a power transfer.

Society dictates that men are typically the dominant ones, so for a man to give up that authority and be penetrated by their partner, it can be both sensual and liberating.

Another member of the forums said he finds that both “the exchange of power and the visual of the act itself are just as stimulating as the physical sensations” during pegging.

Allowing a woman you trust to penetrate you may create a closer bond and foster a deeper understanding and respect between both partners.

If you find that you like to be a submissive man, preferring a more dominant woman, that brings with it a vast array of opportunities and scenarios for sexual exploration.

Are You “Normal” If You Like To Be Pegged?

Um, do you like to orgasm?

The short answer: there is no such thing as “normal.”

The definition of normal is “conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected.”

Dr. Carol Queen, the sexologist we spoke to earlier, told us what she really thinks of the word, “normal.” She said:

“Sexologists are not at all fond of this word! It’s one of the sources of sexual shame (because people compare themselves to each other and ‘the norm’), which in turn is one of the sources of sexual problems and dysfunction.”

Sex is the wild west, and the standard to which it conforms is determined only by consent and your partner’s acceptance.

Who knows? You might find that pegging is the best feeling you’ve ever had.

That’s right! There is an overabundance of pleasure-seeking nerve endings in the anus in both men and women, but only men have the prostate gland.

The prostate gland is a woefully untapped erogenous zone that is responsible for some of the most outrageous orgasms a man can physically experience.

According to WebMD, “penile orgasms are associated with 4-8 pelvic contractions, while prostatic massage orgasms are associated with 12.”

Twelve pelvic contractions!

I’m not exactly sure what a pelvic contraction is, but I know I definitely want as many as possible!

The prostate’s original function is to produce a fluid to protect the sperm created by the testicles, one of several fluids which combine to make semen.

The gland is about the size of a walnut and is located between the penis and the bladder.

This is also a good time to discuss boundaries between you and the outside world.

If you find yourself concerned with what is “normal” to the point that it prevents you from enjoying anything, that might be a good indication you could use a therapy sesh.

Just because you enjoy something doesn’t mean you need to be in vocal support. What you do in the privacy of your own home rarely needs to be up for public discourse.

Who cares what they think, anyway?

Does It Mean You’re Gay If You Like To Be Pegged?

Let’s get something straight. Unless you are only attracted to men, nothing you do is gay.

You are a straight man.

The word, heterosexual, breaks down in Latin into hetero- meaning “other party,” and -sexual, which means what it does in every language.

It is a very strict definition for which some skew the meaning in order to taunt those who don’t conform to outdated and obsolete gender norms.

Experimentation is important in any sexual journey, especially in a partnership.

An open mind is crucial to exploration and self-awareness. Unfortunately, there is a world full of enjoyable things that have been discouraged based on social or religious pretenses.

It is common for anal sex to be largely associated with homosexuality or a queer sex life, however, is there really anything wrong in admitting that gay men may have gotten it right?

Men don’t judge women for indulging in their blast-off button — the clitoris — so why should we be deprived of a life-changing prostate orgasm because close-minded people might get the wrong idea about a sexual practice that goes on behind closed doors?

You can be a straight guy who also enjoys anal stimulation. It’s that simple.

Toxic masculinity, or the imposing of old ideologies based on what makes a “man” is slowly falling out of fashion.

With Millennials and Gen Z blazing the trail through outdated paradigms, as well as the ever-expanding reach of the internet and all its information and liberation, everything we once thought we knew about society is being turned on its head.

Another thing to remember is that if you wanted to do this with a man, you absolutely could — but you don’t.

There are plenty of apps that connect guys looking for guys, even just to experiment, like Grindr.

If that’s not your steaming cup of tea, then again, all signs point to you being as straight as the aforementioned arrow.

It’s time we take our behinds, and bodies in general, back.

Who gets to say what we do with our own bodies and how we enjoy life?

We do.

Is Pegging Safe?

Overall, pegging is a safe activity, as long as certain precautions are considered and followed.

To begin with, consent and communication are both vital aspects to pegging safety from both a mental and physical standpoint.

Both partners should feel comfortable during the activity, which can only happen with consent and open communication.

While pegging, the partner on the receiving end of anal penetration must be able to voice their desires or concerns, and give direction about speed and intensity to avoid injury.

Likewise, the giving partner must of course acknowledge these concerns or directions — and respond accordingly.

As we talk about later, many people use a condom over the dildo to prevent the transmission of STDs or STIs, especially if the toy is being used between partners or orifices.

That said, pegging can cause injury to the anus or rectum if it is done improperly, which we’ll talk about more later on. Lube can lower this risk of injury, but it does not eliminate it entirely.

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How To Approach And Get Started With Pegging

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So, you’ve made it this far and pegging sounds like fun…but where do you go from here?

The idea of broaching the subject with your partner can be intimidating, to say the least, but if you never ask, you’ll never know.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained folks.

How Do You Bring Up Or Talk About Pegging With Your Partner?

There are two scenarios that might occur when you consider bringing up the idea of pegging.

You’re with a partner you know, trust, and care about — a person with whom you can have a meaningful sex talk — or you aren’t, and you don’t care, and you want what you want.

Both have their appeal because they end with you either being satisfied by your current partner or continuing to look for a new one until you are.

Sexual dialogue is absolutely crucial in a relationship.

If you’re trying to introduce the idea of pegging, the first step in the right direction is to open a conversation about fantasies and fetishes.

Begin by finding out about hers to gauge where you should start. In fact, there are questionnaires you can take as a couple that will let you discover your shared mutual sexual fantasies.

After all, you don’t want to launch straight into a 10-minute monologue about your death metal torture chamber only to have her say she’s just into a little light spanking.

You can also begin approaching the topic of anal play during sex in small increments.

While getting oral sex, for instance, you could move your partner’s hand just behind your balls and have her massage the perineum. Next time, ask her to go a little further back or experiment with a little finger penetration.

Baby steps. Once she sees you’re into anal stimulation, you might feel more comfortable opening up a dialogue about pegging.

Traditional gender roles dictate so much in our daily lives, including in the bedroom, but times…they are a’changing.

Today, it’s not a question of whether someone has a kink, but whether they’re aware of it and willing to share.

One forum user said that his woman was the one to bring up pegging — in the car on the couple’s way home.

He explained that sometime before the conversation, the couple watched a pegging video together.

“I admit it did look quite hot,” he explained, adding that his girlfriend “has been obsessed with pegging since the trip.”

Eventually, they headed for a local sex shop to purchase a harness and dildo and pretended it wasn’t for them — even though it was.

When the store clerk discreetly told them that they were “going to need a LOT of lube to do what you’re going to do,” they simply owned it.

“While in the car, we start talking and she reveals to me a fantasy she’s had for a long time that she never revealed to anyone. The fantasy is of her anally penetrating other men with a penis,” he explained.

A real penis.

Not long after, they explored the next best thing — pegging.

The moral of the story is this: It doesn’t matter who brings up a fantasy — the important thing is that it’s a discussion that takes place if there’s something you really want to try.

How Do You Get Started With Pegging?

You know what you like and what you want — and that’s nothing to be ashamed of.

That’s the thing about new interests…it isn’t necessary to share them with anyone until you’re ready.

Self-exploration is a lifelong journey, and you are the one who has to feel out what works best for you — pun intended.

So while you’re in the shower, the journey to pegging could begin with a single poke.

Prodding around with your own finger, you can determine the depth and breadth of your own backyard while seeking and stimulating your prostate.

Next, you might search for a sex toy to use on yourself — choose something narrow, designed for anal play, and use lots of lube.

You should be able to find the best position that works for you and attempt a prostate orgasm.

After that, do a victory lap.

When beginning to peg with a partner, make sure that her harness fits her body well so it won’t slip or adjust itself as she moves.

Use a toy that’s crafted from a safe material and sized to your liking, and use plenty of lubricant — making sure to select one that won’t degrade the dildo.

The forum user who shared his pegging story explained that his girlfriend began with one lubed finger — then two, and three — to relax his anus in preparation for the dildo he’d be taking soon.

While they began by attempting anal entry with him on his stomach, it wasn’t until they shifted to a rear-entry position with him on his hands and knees that the whole thing finally came together.

Keep communication open always — let your partner know if she’s moving too fast or hard and don’t be afraid to try different positions to see what works best for both of you.

And of course, don’t forget to clean up afterward.

What Are The Best Positions For Pegging?

The most popular position is naturally doggy style — one partner on their knees behind someone who is on all fours.

As our pegging explorer from the forums said, this position was the one that resulted in his first successful penetration.

But there’s no reason you can’t switch it up, even if you’re just starting out.

You could try being on top, or spend some time as the “little spoon” — the person who is being cuddled and penetrated from behind while you and your partner lay together in bed.

The forum user who tried pegging said that although he couldn’t be penetrated while laying on his stomach in the beginning, after he and his girlfriend got things going with him on all fours, they were able to make the previous position work when they tried it again.

The most important part of any positioning is that you are able to move at a speed and intensity that you’re comfortable with while pegging.

Our pegging aficionado from the forums tried several positions during his first pegging experience. He said:

“There was one position/angle where she had her hands on my butt cheeks while she positioned her body at a 90 degree-ish angle. Another that she did was [when she] moved in lower a bit with her hands pressed around my shoulders. My favorite was the thrusting she did with her body pressed against my back.”

Anything goes, as long as you’re both into it.

Another forum user offered additional advice for positioning, depending on each partner’s height. They said:

“You can also modify the basics, like do it in a kneeling position with your torso bent at a similar angle on the floor or bed. She’ll have [an] easier time mounting you that way but you can still spoon. She can even be on her feet if need be while you’re on your knees.”

Once you get your bearings, and you’re less of a beginner, you can try a whole new variety of positions.

It’s time to channel your inner porn star.

You could turn around while on top and go reverse cowgirl, for instance.

You might even try drilling for oil — when you’re upside down with your legs pointed straight up while your lady friend is dropping the boom.

Your partner might hold your ass, waist, or even shoulders as she penetrates you. Explore different positions but remember to go slowly in the beginning as you both acclimate to new angles and sensations.

Otherwise, the sky is the limit!

If you’d like to learn and explore more regarding a dominant/submissive partner dynamic, click here.

How Do You Make Pegging Feel Good?

Ass play is typically a binary, polarizing subject.

It’s something that feels good…or it doesn’t.

In my experience, it’s rarely a good idea to go into something hoping to “make” it feel good. I think it’s more important to “let” it feel good.

Don’t get me wrong, there are certainly some acquired tastes, but for the most part if you find yourself drifting toward something, it’s a good sign that maybe it’s worth looking into.

One thing you’ll have to do is get rid of is the fear of the unknown. You’re putting something in somewhere that typically only deals with outgoing traffic.

Remember to start slowly. Keep yourself in the moment, relax, focus on your pleasure, and try different positions to see what feels best.

This pegging explorer from our forums said his girlfriend pulled his hair while penetrating him anally.

“The extremely hard hair pulling signaled to me just how much she was enjoying the pegging,” he observed.

“It felt very carnal and animalistic, and though it hurt just a tad, it was AMAZING! Pain tolerance goes way up during sex, anyway.”

Above all else, communicate with your partner — who surely has your comfort at the forefront of her mind.

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Sex Toys And Accessories Used For Pegging

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If you’re interested in pegging but aren’t sure where to start, there are a few pieces necessary to play this game.

From dildos to harnesses, lube and more, the shopping list for pegging supplies can seem daunting at first when you don’t know exactly what to look for.

Size is also an important consideration. When selecting your very first pegging toys, our best advice is to start small and work your way up to something larger as you desire.

Read on to learn more about what you need to have on-hand before you start pegging.

What Sex Toys Do You Need To Try Pegging?

While dildos, candles, and any phallic thing under the sun can be used for pegging, it is typically done with a strap-on dildo.

Pegging toys can be found at just about every reputable sex toy store, such as Adam & Eve, which offers discreet purchasing and shipping.

Important things to remember when selecting pegging-appropriate toys include:

  • Your toy should be designed for anal use — either a strap-on dildo attached to a harness or a butt plug with a flanged end to prevent it from being inserted all the way into the anus
  • Any toy, regardless of design, should be made from safe, nonporous materials
  • The size of the toy should provide a comfortable fit
  • Aesthetically speaking, the toy should be one that you want to use

There is an entire subset of artisan dildos and pegging strap-ons designed specifically for the anal penetration of a straight male.

Like anything else, one can go from neophyte to connoisseur if one were so inclined. So why not customize the experience?

Dildos come in all shapes, sizes, materials, and textures. One man might prefer something smaller and more pliable with a smooth surface, while another may seek out a large phallus that’s ribbed for his pleasure.

Anything goes, as long as you enjoy the ride.

What Accessories Are Used In Pegging?

Aside from the male partner and female partner — be they a lover, wife, neighbor, or FedEx delivery person — you’ll need a harness-compatible dildo and the harness itself.

Beyond those things, there are a few other accouterments that are indispensable to an enjoyable pegging experience.

Lube is not only advisable, it’s just as important as the dildo because the anus and rectum don’t self-lubricate and spit is not enough.

Without a quality lube designed for anal play, pegging can be infinitely dicier, as we’ll talk about in a moment.

Being that this sexual act falls well into the kink arena, it’s only right that it comes with the full femdom kit.

The power exchange we mentioned earlier is one of submission and relinquishing control.

Sometimes, in order to embrace it, you might use handcuffs, ball gags, and blindfolds, but you can also use a pegging dildo with a suction cup base that attaches to a stationary surface.

Special harnesses worn by a partner are designed to hold dildos or strap-ons during partnered sex, as well.

It’s important that such harnesses are not only comfortable but they’re built from sturdy materials and fit well — because the last thing you want when you’re going full throttle is to crack a header.

What Are The Best Types Of Lubes To Use During Pegging?

There are lubricants intended specifically for anal sex and these are generally what you’ll want to use for pegging — with some caveats.

Oil-based or silicone lube is excellent for anal sex, but it’s important to keep in mind the construction of the toy that’s doing the pegging.

Silicone lube is great for a lot of things, but if you use it with a silicone toy, it will eventually break down the material.

Similarly, oil-based lubricants are a no-go for porous toys — which you shouldn’t be using, anyway — or those made from latex or jelly rubber, as these lubes will break that material down.

This advice holds true if you’re using a condom over the toy, which many people choose to do — not only for easier cleaning after use, but also to ensure safety when toys are being shared between partners — because oil-based lubes will break down latex condoms.

Polyurethane and lambskin condoms will not break down when used with oil-based lubes, but it’s important to remember that lambskin condoms do not prevent the transmission of STDs or STIs.

Water-based lube is optimal, particularly when you’re not entirely sure what your dildo or condom is made from, as it won’t eat away at most buttplugs or pegging toys, nor will it irritate the anal canal or disintegrate a condom.

That said, water-based lubricants tend to be more lightweight and may not provide enough cushion for the pushin’.

Sliquid Naturals H20 is a top contender for a water-based lubricant that’s safe for anal play while being suitable for all toys.

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Precautions To Take, And Information You Should Know Before Pegging

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Think you’re all ready to dive into pegging? I like your enthusiasm!

Before you jump right into it, however, there are a few important things to consider before you get started, so let’s take a closer look at them.

How Should You Prepare For Pegging Or Anal Play?

Lube. Lube. Lube.

And maybe some Enya.

I’m mostly kidding…but it’s going to take full-on relaxation if you’re going to have anything inserted into your anus.

By the time you’re ready for an actual peg, you should have a pretty good idea regarding the elasticity and muscle control of your rectum.

A personal tip from Samuel, the Londoner we spoke with earlier who discovered his love for pegging, is to find a nice, comfortable butt plug to hold the back door open at the appropriate dilation.

At this point, you’re probably wondering if pegging is safe.

Dr. Carol Queen, the sexologist we spoke with earlier says yes, “provided you learn how to correctly do anal sex.”

She told us that “relaxation, lubrication, and communication are the basic guidelines” to follow.

Additionally, she suggested using “a dildo that is not too firm and is securely attached to the harness.”

Our best advice is to start small, go slow, and if you feel pain — stop what you’re doing.

Additionally, important safety precautions to consider include:

  • Preventing STDs and STIs: Although pegging involves the use of toys, bodily fluids are still a concern. It’s smart to use a condom over the dildo, particularly if it is being used between partners or orifices. Additionally, don’t use an oil-based lube unless the condom is made from polyurethane or lambskin, make sure the toy is made from safe materials, and be sure to wash the harness after every use.
  • Preventing Injury: As we mentioned, use lube, start with a smaller toy, and take your time, as these will all lower your risk of injury. If the activity is painful, stop. If there is persistent pain or bleeding, or pain during bowel movements, it could be a sign of microtears or fissures within the anus or rectum. If this occurs, see a physician. It should go without saying, but avoid further anal play until such injuries are resolved.
  • Ensuring Consent: As with any other sexual activity, consent is paramount. Whether you are the person doing the pegging or the one who is receiving it, it’s important that both you and your partner are in mutual agreement about pegging.
  • Maintaining Communication: Along with consent, communication is vital for the comfort and experience of both partners. If penetration causes pain or is occurring at too quick a pace, communicate this with your partner. Likewise, both partners can and should discuss the activity afterward to check in with each other physically and emotionally and to talk about any adjustments that might need to take place during the next pegging session.

What Can You Do To Relax During Pegging Or Anal Play?

Relaxation is a mental game above all things.

Pegging is definitely a few levels above casual anal play, so by now, you’ve got your breathing techniques and a good working knowledge of your own limitations.

Either it’s your first few times — and it helps to have a rapport with the lucky lady with the strap-on — or you’ve been around the block a time or two and you’re all giddyup and go.

You can begin with light touches around your anus to help relax your sphincter in preparation for penetration.

Remember, you don’t have to start by taking a dildo straight up the ass right away — gentle finger play can open things up, as it were.

Additionally, pelvic floor exercises like Kegels can help you learn to “bear down” upon entry.

To perform a Kegel exercise, contract the same muscles you would if you were stopping the flow of urine — you might feel your anus tighten and almost pull inward — hold, and then release those muscles.

The opposite of the contraction is the state of relaxation.

Pushing those muscles outward during the release is bearing down — a lot like what you’d do were you passing a bowel movement or in a woman’s case, birthing a child.

Focus on foreplay and do your best to quell any anxiety. The more nervous or anxious you are, the tighter your rectum is going to be. Take your time, don’t rush, and go slow until you find what feels good.

If it doesn’t feel good, it’s okay to stop! You can try again another time!

And if you discover that pegging really isn’t for you, that’s okay. You’re not a “failure.” There are plenty of other activities that you can try and derive pleasure from.

What Can You Do To Reduce The Risk Of Infection Or Injury During Pegging?

How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, practice, practice.

We have covered the basics of what it takes to get that strap-on dildo off of the runway, and there are certain basics to which you should always adhere.

An old phrase, “Slow is smooth, and smooth is fast” defines the methodology.

Infections arise from abrasions and abrasions occur from rushing the process.

The key here is to listen to your body. While it may at times be uncomfortable, sometimes even painful, at no point should there be injury.

The anus will expand. If it is painful, stop. If you find that you experience chronic pain during anal stimulation, talk to your doctor because it might signify problems that are in need of treatment.

And don’t forget the lube.

Are Enemas Necessary Before Pegging?

Hygiene plays a very big role in damage control and it’s important to do a pre-check of the area in question.

While it is important to clean in and around the anus beforehand, it is not necessary to get an enema.

Sam, our long-time fan of pegging, said, “Everyone playing with pegging should have a hot shower and cleanse their butt.”

He added that, “A fresh clean bum doesn’t smell or taste of anything.”

The anus doesn’t store poop, so as long as you wash externally, that’s all you need to do.

That said, if you’ve recently had a stomach bug or a raging case of traveler’s diarrhea…you might want to skip pegging for a bit.

Can Pegging Or Anal Play Cause Fecal Incontinence?

While it has been shown that fecal incontinence does exist, there is no definitive evidence that it is directly linked to pegging or anal play in general.

One study found that there’s a higher incidence of fecal incontinence in those who have anal sex. However, other studies have shown no association.

That said, regular anal sex has been shown to loosen the sphincter muscles in only about 2% of those who partake.

Kegel exercises, which are commonly thought to be only for women can help to strengthen the pelvic floor. This can lead to a more resilient system of muscles governing that whole mess o’ business.

If you’re practicing pegging responsibly and following safety guidelines — using lube, taking your time, not using objects that are too large — there is minimal risk.

In Conclusion

At this point, you’ve got all the information you need to explore the world of anal stimulation and pegging!

A trustworthy partner, your very own personal dildo, and a bucket of lube are the necessary supplies.

Remember to take it slow, listen to your body and breathe deeply, and you are well on your way to an ecstatic, mind-blowing prostate orgasm!


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