[Magnetism]

I just looked up that rabbits are made of jelly and can irritate people's skin. That's the exact feeling I got with it. Irritating.

It looks like silicone material would be better.

[chaya]

My one and only experience with a vibrator was very unpleasant but I can't really say it hurt. It did give me a feeling like and electric shock and made me pee the bed.

[Magnetism]

It'sasecret-I tried your tips again, and this time it did work. The vibrator flowed in very smoothly this time. I don't think it's the right toy for me, so I threw it away lol. I'm going to buy something more realistic and sleeker.

I'm watching porn and had to turn it off, because the couples are having sex so fast and rough. Is that how most people have sex? I'm hoping that what you see in porn isn't based on reality. I can't imagine how women and escorts get prepped up for random sex with men that they have no connection with. I heard that there's some cream they use to numb the pain they experience?

[ItsASecret]

Is that how most people have sex? I'm hoping that what you see in porn isn't based on reality. I can't imagine how women and escorts get prepped up for random sex with men that they have no connection with.

Porn is fake and the videos are shot over a period of time and they just edit them together to make it seem like one scene. But women in porn are prepped a bit ahead of time with toys in and then told to shut up and endure anything during the actual scene, sometimes you can still see the pain in their face during it but usually that is also edited out. So no do not take it as an example of real sex. Sure there are times when a couple can get quicker in pace and stuff but those individuals usually care for each other and the woman is given plenty of time for arousal and the man will stop anytime she may feel hurt. That is what considerate lovers do, porn is void of true emotion it is just an image act.

The creams are topical numbing agents that act like Novacane to make the area go numb. That is not really a good idea though because our body interprets pain as a signal of danger and to stop whatever act that is causing that pain from creating more damage. If the area is numb then you cannot feel if there is any actual damage being done. Porn stars numb their throats with a spray so that they can accept the blow job acts which I am sure you have seen can be brutally fast in pace.

[Magnetism]

Porn is fake and the videos are shot over a period of time and they just edit them together to make it seem like one scene. But women in porn are prepped a bit ahead of time with toys in and then told to shut up and endure anything during the actual scene, sometimes you can still see the pain in their face during it but usually that is also edited out. So no do not take it as an example of real sex. Sure there are times when a couple can get quicker in pace and stuff but those individuals usually care for each other and the woman is given plenty of time for arousal and the man will stop anytime she may feel hurt. That is what considerate lovers do, porn is void of true emotion it is just an image act.

The creams are topical numbing agents that act like Novacane to make the area go numb. That is not really a good idea though because our body interprets pain as a signal of danger and to stop whatever act that is causing that pain from creating more damage. If the area is numb then you cannot feel if there is any actual damage being done. Porn stars numb their throats with a spray so that they can accept the blow job acts which I am sure you have seen can be brutally fast in pace.

You don't think I have vaginismus, do you? I've had two pcp's tell me that it's not possible to have vaginismus if I'm able to get a vibrator inside of me. Everytime I look up painful sex, the first thing they talk about is medical conditions. Isn't it possible to not have a medical condition and maybe experience pain due to a lack of foreplay or being with the wrong person?

[ItsASecret]

You don't think I have vaginismus, do you? I've had two pcp's tell me that it's not possible to have vaginismus if I'm able to get a vibrator inside of me. Everytime I look up painful sex, the first thing they talk about is medical conditions. Isn't it possible to not have a medical condition and maybe experience pain due to a lack of foreplay or being with the wrong person?

No I do not think you have vaginismus. Your case seems to be more towards not getting aroused enough ahead of time and not taking the time to stretch the muscles out so that your vagina can accommodate things. You were able to use the vibrator by taking it slow, with vaginismus you would not be able to do that. It is entirely possible to not have a medical condition and instead have pain due to lack of foreplay, often that is the reason for pain in many women.

[Magnetism]

That's what I thought. I'm a bit annoyed when people jump to "vaginismus!" or "vulvodynia" when one hears of painful sex.


When you say "Take the time to stretch the muscles", are there other ways of doing that? I heard that when a woman is fully aroused, her vagina is already ready to accommodate the size of a penis.

[ItsASecret]

That's what I thought. I'm a bit annoyed when people jump to "vaginismus!" or "vulvodynia" when one hears of painful sex.

That is because the internet often provides the extreme answers over more common causes.

When you say "Take the time to stretch the muscles", are there other ways of doing that? I heard that when a woman is fully aroused, her vagina is already ready to accommodate the size of a penis.

Not really because in order to stretch out the vaginal muscles need to be used. A woman could be aroused and wet but that does not mean her muscles are relaxed enough for penetration. It is different for each woman but she should be able to tell if her muscles are relaxed enough for sex, basically if it hurts then she is not relaxed enough.

[Magnetism]

Hey it's a secret

What if it still hurts if you're taking the vibrator in slowly and squeezing to accomodate it? Should I stop or is it best to keep going with insertion?

So, I bought a new metal vibrator with a cyberskin sleeve. I still felt pain and then felt a burning sensation after I took the vibrator out, but I know I had some disturbing thoughts before insertion. I don't want to have these thoughts, but they just pop up.

[celestexoo]

Instead of anything with "skin" or "jelly" on the surface, perhaps you should do some online shopping for something made of glass or silicone... maybe even something of a more slender width. There are definitely a couple of sites with a very large selection of toys in many shapes, sizes, and textures. Maybe something with a sleek, smooth surface would be better for you and much less irritating, especially with lube.