[Motorguy]

Me and wife have used lubes a lot throughout are marriage. This makes the sex so good and enjoy for both of us.

[cathygirl]

Things do change with time. Not always for the better, either. I'll just say that Astroglide might have saved my marriage ;-)

Plus, there are some activities where some form of artificial lubrication is absolutely essential. Again, Astroglide is my pick...

[Magnetism]

I should have reframed my question.

Does lube help you when you're NOT in the mood?

Let's say your vagina is dry and not aroused. Does putting lube down there help you to suddenly open up?

[calibri~]

Well if totally not in the mood then a woman will be quite dry down there and feel uncomfortable with rubbing or penetration of any kind, but if you add some lube for clitiral stimulation and gradually ease in, say, a finger or so...I think a woman can get aroused more easily than without lube. It helps to relax, knowing that your bits are slippery and wont get sore.
There is no open sesame after squirting on a blob of ky!

[Magnetism]

Does anyone think they're aroused when they're really not? I'm going off topic, but there were times where I thought I was ready for penetration...and then I wasn't. So, we had to stop and do way more foreplay.

[cathy23]

current bf and I used it when we first started having sex. Now I keep it around just in case.

[calibri~]

Does anyone think they're aroused when they're really not? I'm going off topic, but there were times where I thought I was ready for penetration...and then I wasn't. So, we had to stop and do way more foreplay.

Yup. This sometimes happens to me

[shoshannah]

We tend to need lube more during the first week of my pills. by the third week we almost never need it.

[cathy23]

bf has been working out of town lately, (previous posts), so we usually have sex on Friday nights and/or Saturdays. I tend to tighten up a bit during the week, so we keep the lube handy

[Kayla Lords]

I use lube when I'm aroused because vaginal dryness is definitely a thing -- no matter how much my mind and other parts of my body indicate I want sex and no matter how relaxed my body is, there's not enough natural lubrication to keep penetration pain-free.

I've also found lube helpful when I wasn't actually aroused that much (at least to the point of desperately wanting penetrative sex) or all that relaxed but I tend to use a really thick lube that reduces friction so well that almost anything can be shoe-horned in, lol.

We don't even stop to "check" if I'm wet enough naturally anymore. We automatically grab the lube. Even if I happen to be wetter than my new normal, it still enhances sex and makes every glide nicely.