[Texinator]

But if that was his saliva then he shouldn't say he found you wet.

[Amber]

Ah, so you are capable of arousal. That's a good sign!

Yep, I figured that out a few weeks ago or so. I made some post about it pages back. But the only lousy part was I didn't know it. My mind wasn't connect to it.

But I guess it was a good sign. I know I should be excited about it but since it is connected to him and proves maybe it could have been good between us if my mind was on it, just makes it hurt when I think about it. But yes, I guess it is a good thing.

But getting wet is not an orgasm, is it?

[Amber]

But if that was his saliva then he shouldn't say he found you wet.

Nope, he didn't. It was another time that he told me I was wet. I post a little longer answer about five posts back. I think we are overlapping here.

[Texinator]

But getting wet is not an orgasm, is it?

No, getting wet is just natural lubrication. An orgasm will also give you strong muscle contractions.

By the way, as an important part as emotions play in getting a woman aroused and helping her enjoy sexual activities, she's also capable of getting aroused and having rockin orgasms without a boyfriend or a husband to whom she has an emotional attraction.

[Amber]

It is funny but at the party tonight, I ate a few sweedish meatballs. And I while I at them, I was thinking that CW said that was one kind of food to experiment or savor. I'm guessing she meant one with tomato sauce but I figured this would work also. I kind of wanted to s*ck on it or something but then that would have brought attention to me so I didn't. lol

[Amber]

No, getting wet is just natural lubrication. An orgasm will also give you strong muscle contractions.

By the way, as an important part as emotions play in getting a woman aroused and helping her enjoy sexual activities, she's also capable of getting aroused and having rockin orgasms without a boyfriend or a husband to whom she has an emotional attraction.

I'm a little confused on the point you are trying to making?

[Amber]

Are you talking about masterbating?

[Texinator]

Pretty much. I think it's fair to say that a woman's emotional attraction to her husband plays a significant role in determining her sexual attraction. The stronger the bond the more she'll want to make love.

BUT you don't have to have an emotional bond to anyone (that is, you can be single) and still be a sexual person that's easily aroused and interested in things like masturbation. I just wanted to point that out so that you don't make too strong a connection between your ex and becoming aroused.

[WildChild]

OK another book. You can check her out online too, Mama Gena. Regina Thomashauer and her husband run a relationship workshop buisiness. I don't agree with her about everything - not into the just go out and get laid thinking, but she and her Sister Goddesses are into keeping it juicy. This is what Tex is talking about. She's a lot of fun and makes some really good points about womanhood, sexuality and pleasure.

[Amber]

Pretty much. I think it's fair to say that a woman's emotional attraction to her husband plays a significant role in determining her sexual attraction. The stronger the bond the more she'll want to make love.

BUT you don't have to have an emotional bond to anyone (that is, you can be single) and still be a sexual person that's easily aroused and interested in things like masturbation. I just wanted to point that out so that you don't make too strong a connection between your ex and becoming aroused.

I guess I associated it with him because I'm guessing it was his touching and how it made me feel that caused me to be aroused.

But I guess once I figure out how to relax enough and figure out what on earth will arouse me, masturbation will be an option to me.