[sourpuss]

Maybe it's also a fear that if things do go wrong eventually then it's gonna hurt even more because everything was so great at one point?

Exactly. Like I always say: "You can't get let down if you never get your hopes up in the first place."

[GoodEgg]

The relationship I'm in now started off really well. I believe I created some of the problems we're having now myself. (Finding reasons why we should break it off, why I should move out, etc.) He and I both believe in self-prophecy. If you believe it will happen long and hard enough, it will. Right now, I'm hypothesizing that it may come down to a self worth issue. If I did not believe I deserve someone who is good to me, why else would I create these barriers to my own happiness?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

So you worry about your past, and get scared, your in your present and get scared, where the heck does that lead your future

Go with it, you know that it's going to go one way or the other eventually, what if it's till the end of your days? Don't miss an opportunity and enjoy every moment you have and keep growing with him...

Or, you'll be a Spinster haha... Don't do it girl... breathe and say, ahh stuff it, I'm running with this one, I'm letting down my guard and that's all there is to it, what ever will be will be

[sourpuss]

...well, I tried to sabotage it and he called me out on it. haha oops

[CHANDLERS WISH]

haha, sucked in..

Sounds like he "knows" you just a little bit mam.....

[caterpillar79]

Feel the fear and do it anyway

Yeah, I, too am guilty of that. Thinking about Murphy's law, and then I just find myself subconsciously sending the signal to him, then it backfires.

I had to stop and rethink. Now, that episode is over.

I decided, whatever that bothers me now, he has the right to know, so I communicate once I am ready to do so.

To answer your question...I won't. In relationships, there will always be good times and bad times. You're lucky he's a well-rounded person. You should capitalize on that.

[WildChild]

...well, I tried to sabotage it and he called me out on it. haha oops

That sounds like someone near and dear to me. He warned me that he had a history of sabotoging relationships, didn't want to but still did and so far I think I've headed of most (but not all) of it.

[WildChild]

Do you supose it's not really believing that you deserve someone good?

[caterpillar79]

Yeah, we have that tendency.

I once heard from a counselor that there are times that we are afraid of success. That we fell like we don't deserve it.

In as much as we fear failure, there are also a couple of us who fear victory/success.

[WildChild]

I'm one of them, I manage to wiggle out of success very well. The stuff I've backed out of that would have had me set for life by age 35....
Hope I'm learning better.