[mm1991]

Thanks Futureboy

I dumping my bf, I made that decision already, and I am not changing it not matter what else happens.

I can't accept it's over with John. I want him to look into my eyes and tell me it's over. I want to know is he really trying to protect me or did he chicken out. This is BS him dumping me over the phone.

If he is trying to protect me - he shouldn't, he is not my father even if he is old enough to be. I don't need another father.

If he chickened out, well may be than I don't want him anyway. If I was brave enough for it he could have been too. I hate cowards.

Unless he met someone else. Someone older... or younger lol. I am laughing and crying at the same time.

Bstard !!!

[Guest]

mm1991,

I feel so bad for you and the situation you are in. I am not sure why things happened the way they did, but there could be any number of reasons and some of them are valid.

Futureboy made a good point about the long term thing.

a good friend of mine went through something similar and it took awhile to figure out what was really behind it. It wasnt so much that the guy didnt see them being able to last with each other (her 25, him 47), but he was worried about leaving her as a widow in her mid 40s. he even said something like "why would I do that to someone i love? leave them alone and grieving at such a young age?". I guess he thought the pain of a failed short-term relationship would be less than mourning the loss of a partner of 20 or so years.

Not sure if it is the same set of circumstances, but if it is I can totally understand it.

[mm1991]

I need some tips what to do
I have two days before I am back in England

Not you Futureboy, you'll only tell me off lol

They say all is fair in Love and War but I am not sure if this is cool:

I show up on his door on a cold evening not wearing very much
He will have to invite me in, from there its easy

I am sure it would work but I would feel cheap

Would any of you do it? lol

So I need something better, and don't tell me to talk to him he doesn't even want to talk. Any help?

[mm1991]

He opens the door, and I am like shivering and I give him the abandoned puppy look and say my tummy hurts, can I come in please

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

couldn't do that

[Guest]

do you really want to show up on his door like that? more likely than not it'd lead to a quick shag, but doesn't address the issue.

write him a note about how you feel and whatever it is you want to say, and leave it for him under his door.

[mm1991]

YES! YES! YES!

I booked a weekend in Dublin for us and emailed him the confirmation

He couldnt believe I paid for it, he is giving me the money back and is going!!!

[Futureboy]

you don't like "NO" do you!!

good luck

no doubt you will fill us in post Dublin adventure

PS I wouldn't tell you off, you probably like it

[mm1991]

I would

You think Im a noughty noughty girl, dont you Futureboy

[CHANDLERS WISH]

We have one life to live and that' it.

He's a gentleman, he's tried to cut it off, due to your age.

You decided, you can beat him and you did. So, it may not be 12 months like you wish, it may be the "naughty, we shouldn't, we did, "

I want you to understand and expect that after that, he will be nice, but it may be over...

He has viewed the age thing and it's a fling nothing more, nothing less.

Go there without your heart, rather your desire as to why you want this.

By the way, your boyfriend? How long did you two go out together? Did you tell him you left him for someone else, on a whim? Or just sorry? And has he contacted you? Was that relationship really that bad? Or is it that you need, want, desire....

CW

[mm1991]

Yes I believe in one life too, the one before death.

Sorry CHANDLERS WISH, I don't mean it in a bad way lol, but you sound like my mum.

My mum says, NO critisize me that I always get what I want. But I don't think I am a bad person. I don't hurt people. My bf is a selfish so and so. But I didn't even know that until I met John. I didn't even know a man can be like that, like John . He treats me like a person, not meat. An important person. I love being with him.

So he was a bit confused, didnt know what he wanted, I played to my strenghts and got my way. But did I hurt him? Not really. It's not like he is not going to enjoy it.